Most couples live together, to save money
and for convenience. Living together offers
a real-life compatibility test, to boot! But
here’s why you should think twice if you
want that ring.

Question:

Dear Loni,
My mother says if I move in with my
boyfriend, he’ll never marry me. Is she right?

Answer:
Your mom doesn’t want you shacking up with
someone because you’re her baby and she is
trying to protect you. You know the saying
“Why buy the cow when you can get the milk
for free?” Your mother is trying to keep you
from being a cow . . . a mad cow, that is.
If marriage is your goal, then your mom is
right: you need to be very careful about
moving in together, because once a girlfriend
moves in, it’s very easy for her to start acting
like a wife. And if you play the role without a
ring, you’re in big trouble.
My friend Cathy had been dating Jim for two
years when Jim suggested they move in
together. Cathy thought living together would
be a perfect way for her to show him how
wonderful his life would be if the two of them
got married. As soon as she moved in, Cathy
went into “wife mode,” cooking and cleaning
and doing Jim’s laundry. She spent all her
social time with Jim’s friends and family. She
opened a joint bank account and tried sexual
positions she had promised herself she would
only do when she was married. After two
years, it occurred to Cathy that maybe Jim
hadn’t proposed because he was getting the
milk for free. So Cathy went on strike and
started acting like a roommate instead of a
spouse.
Cathy would make herself lavish dinners for
one and hand Jim the stack of takeout menus.
When Jim had a hard day at work, she would
pretend to listen to him complain while texting
her friends about what to wear to the club.
When Jim’s mom came over for a visit, Cathy
would leave. After three months of Cathy’s
friend-with-no-benefits behavior, Jim had had
enough. He wanted his wifey back, but this
time he knew he had to do it her way. He
proposed, and now the two of them have been
happily married for five years. The moral of
the story is, if you want to be married, don’t
act like a wife until you’ve got that ring on
your finger.

http://www.tipsonlifeandlove.com/love-and-relationships/why-you-shouldnt-live-with-him-before-marriage

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"why buy the cow when you can get the mlk for free." i like that. Tell them!

"why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free." i like that. Tell them!