WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A
SON ABOUT MARRIAGE
1. My son, if you keep spending
on a woman and she never
asked you if
you’re saving or investing, and
she keeps enjoying the
attention, don’t
marry her.
2. My son, a woman could be a
good wife to you, some could
be a good
mother to your children but if
you’ve found a woman like a
mother to
you, your children and your
family, please don’t let her go.
3. My son, don’t confine the
position of your wife to the
kitchen, where
did you get that from? Even in
our days, we had farm-lands
where they
worked every morning . . . that
was our office.
4. My son, if I tell you that
you’re the head of the house,
don’t look at
your pocket; look if you will see
a smile on your wife’s face.
5. My son, if you want to have a
long life, let your wife be in-
charge of
your salary, it will be difficult
for her to spend it when she’s
aware of the
home needs and bills to pay
but if it’s in your care, she will
keep you
asking even when all has been
spent.
6. My son, don’t ever beat your
woman, the pain in her body is
nothing
to be compared to the wound
on her heart and that means
you may be
in trouble living with a
wounded woman.
7. My son, now that you’re
married, if you live a bachelor
kind of life
with your wife, you will soon
be single again.
8. My son, in our days, we had
many wives and many children
because
of our large farm-lands and
many harvests, there are hardly
any land for
farming anymore, so embrace
your woman closely.
9. My son, under the cocoa tree
that I did meet your mother
could be
your eateries and restaurants
of nowadays, but remember,
the closet
thing we did there was to
embrace each other.
10. My son, don’t be carried
away when you start making
more money,
instead of spending on those
tiny legs that never knew how
hard you
worked to get it, spend it on
that woman that stood by you
all along.
11. My son, when I threw little
stones or whistled at the
window of your
mother father’s house, to call
her out, it was not for sex, it
was because
I missed her so much.
12. My son, remember, when
you say your wife has changed,
there could
be something you’ve stopped
doing too.
13. My son, your mother, Asake
rode the bicycle with me
before I bought
that tortoise car outside there,
any woman that won’t endure
with you in
your little beginning should not
enjoy your riches.
14. My son, don’t compare your
wife to any woman, there are
ways she’s
enduring you too and has she
ever compared you to any
man?
15. My son, there is this thing
you people call feminism, well,
if a woman
claim to have equal right with
you in the house, divide all the
bills into
two equal parts, take one part
and ask her to start paying the
other part.
16. My son, I met your mother
a virgin and I took more yams
to her
father, if you don’t meet your
wife a virgin, don’t blame her,
what I
didn’t tell you is that our
women had prestige.
17. My son, I didn’t send your
sisters to school because I was
foolish
like many to think a female
child won’t extend my family
name, please
don’t make that mistake, the
kind of female achievers I see
nowadays
has made the male-gender an
ordinary tag.
18. My son, your mother have
once locked up the cloth I was
wearing
and almost tore it because she
was angry, I did not raise my
hand to
beat her because of a day like
this, so that I can be proud to
tell you
that I never for once beat your
mother.
19. My son, in our days, our
women had more of natural
beauty, though
I wouldn’t lie to you, some had
minor painting of their
appellation
mostly on their arms, the ones
you people now call tattoo, but
don’t
forget that they didn’t expose
any part of their body like your
women of
nowadays.
20. My son, your mother and I
are not interested in what
happens in
your marriage, try to handle
issues without always coming
to us.
21. My son, remember I bought
your mother’s first sewing
machine for
her, help your wife achieve her
dreams just as you’re pursuing
yours.
22. My son, don’t stop taking
care of me and your mother,
it’s a secret
of growing old and having
children to take care of you
too.
23. My son, pray with your
family, there is a tomorrow you
don’t know,
talk to God that knows
everything, everyday.