pickabeau1:

Just give an idea..a range..100,500, etc

Single moms are complaining on the Frontpage that those who consider them dont want to take their child along yet you say there are many of them marrying https://www.nairaland.com/1821941/thread-single-mothers-fathers

ok

Sophyrocks:

Of course they will face challenges because of the perception of the society aboout having kids outside wedlock [b]But does that stop them from getting married at the end of the day? [/b]The only single mothers who decide not to marry are those whose husbands died and they feel their focus should be squarely on their kids. ABEG I NO FIT REPEAT MYSELF O. you can read my previous comments. No time for debate with you.

pickabeau1: They will marry at the end of the day... they will have lost a lot of time.. some dont.. actually most wil not until the child in question is in the teenage or has even left the house

Also there would be assurances that there will be no financial burden on the step dad


I have been reading your past comments and noted you seemed to be downplaying the realities of single motherhood

Lets be real

TV01:

Leave them 0!

How many singles are there out there sef? Forget single mums. Getting more desperate by the minute. Searching high and low and lamenting all over the place. Flocking to and filling out churches.

Instead of them to wise up and tell each other the truth about their outcomes of their "poor choices" and consequences of their bad actions, and make real structural changes to their thinking and actions, they are here cheerleading each other to misery. Their own worst enemies indeed.


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baron2000: does this mean that she should forget ever getting married to another man? Has she lost ALL hope of having a real marriage

TV01: As an individual, there is no reason why this lady can't marry and marry well. But if she had a twin without a child out of wedlock, I rate her twins chances in both regards as that much better.

TV01: Sure a lot of "single-mums" eventually marry, but there is "marriage" and there is "marriage".

TV01: The good news is that if she - as an individual - has the character and deportment of a wife, she still has all to play for, especially given her age.

baron2000:

does this mean that she should forget ever getting married to another man? Has she lost ALL hope of having a real marriage

RoyalRoy:
No she shouldn't lose all hope. But her choices of a man are limited to a very few and rare options.

Let her focus on building herself up and keep that part at the background for now!!

Sophyrocks: The single mothers i know are all hot cakes to Men.

Funmimorgan: I would rather have that baby and be called a single mother than to endager my life through ABORTION..

My question is- am i right to tell her that her chances of getting married to another man are not damaged?

will you even consider dating one?

bennyrazz: I use to hear single mothers are sweet

Sophyrocks: Of course they will face challenges because of the perception of the society aboout having kids outside wedlock

baron2000: For me i think they are like every other woman. I think the hate expressed here from guys is just sad.

baron2000:

For me i think they are like every other woman. I think the hate expressed here from guys is just sad.

TV01:

Nope, not due to the "perception" of society, but due to the "reality" of their situations. They have and are primarily responsible for another mans child/children. It's actually counter-intuitive to why humans "pair-bond" in the first place.

Funnily enough, other women will persist on the societal moré the most. How many women want their sons or brothers, friends or family members or marry single-mothers? How many would advise them to do so?

How many men or women grow up dreaming of marrying a single-parent. Who pictures that for their own future? Having children outside wedlock is rightly frowned upon, as it typically presents an "extra" cost/burden to society.



Indeed, they are just like "every other woman", but the reality is as I have already stated above. No one is hating on them, just clearly outlining the truth of the situation and cautioning against it.

The haters are those trying to paint a picture of "carry go, notin' do you" and encouraging it as normal and moral practice. It's the women and children that typically suffer. Don't be misled by instances of the women still making good marriages or the children turning out well.

TGIF, lets leave sentiment or personal experience or desire out of broad discussions.


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shaybebaby:
Perceptions shape our realities. Change the perception, change the reality. Reality is not static, it morphs and changes subject to how our perceptions of it changes.

shaybebaby: In essence, the reality you perceive for single mothers can change, is changing and will change.

pickabeau1:

Dude/woman be objective

Where did u see hate here.. is telling you to have a sense of realism rather than misplaced and misguided optimism hate?

A lot of the people talking are single themselves and thus cannot relate

Some of the married woman (i dare say most) will not even allow their husbands relate with single moms

Be real, dude or woman

TV01:

Nope, not due to the "perception" of society, but due to the "reality" of their situations. They have and are primarily responsible for another mans child/children. It's actually counter-intuitive to why humans "pair-bond" in the first place.

Funnily enough, other women will persist on the societal moré the most. How many women want their sons or brothers, friends or family members or marry single-mothers? How many would advise them to do so?

How many men or women grow up dreaming of marrying a single-parent. Who pictures that for their own future? Having children outside wedlock is rightly frowned upon, as it typically presents an "extra" cost/burden to society.



Indeed, they are just like "every other woman", but the reality is as I have already stated above. No one is hating on them, just clearly outlining the truth of the situation and cautioning against it.

The haters are those trying to paint a picture of "carry go, notin' do you" and encouraging it as normal and moral practice. It's the women and children that typically suffer. Don't be misled by instances of the women still making good marriages or the children turning out well.

TGIF, lets leave sentiment or personal experience or desire out of broad discussions.


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TV01:

It's the "new morality". Objection or disagreement to anything that anyone chooses to do is now termed "hate". People must always be affirmed in their choices - regardless of the outcomes - or you are a hater.

Where choices are glaringly immoral or wrong, statute and shaming will be used to persecute and condemn dissenting voices or contrary opinion

"The world", ensuring "conformity" since the fall. But now it's doing so pro-actively.


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zeb04:
Finally if I were to be pregnant today,I wld prefer to be a single mum than have an abortion. Peace

coogar:

and that would be because your motive is to milk the unfortunate man dry. you are not keeping the baby to score morality points, you are keeping it cos it can pave way to monthly stipends from the father of the child.

zeb04: ok mr coogar. You are entitled to your opinion.