misterh:
To be honest, I don't know yet. As regards marriage, compromises would have to be made. I believe that's why it's advised to marry one whose company you enjoy- who you can hold intellectual discussions with.

But we just need to understand each other's personality.

Oahray:
ha! You remembered? Your brain sharp o. Talk about elephant memory

Just seeing this mention. Been offline for sometime. I rarely write anymore, make I no lie. So much to do, so little time.

misterh:

The bolded part aptly describes me, especially when they're are staying for an indefinite number of days. If someone wants to come visit me for a week, I can endure that but not stating the number of days puts me off.

gidjah:
dear sis,you really must calm down,we are all here to help one another.We must be willing to do that and that can greatly be possible when we respond to our selves peacefully and with high sense of maturity.you must appreciate this family sis,we care for one answer and believe me if I say I have been following you ever since you joined this home,I am working on lots of things and will get across to you,I hardly respond here cos of my schedules ,I pretty appropriate your personality and would love to talk with you if you will oblige me.this family is a rare one I tell you.Can we talk off line ma'am,?

gidjah:
dear sis,you really must calm down,we are all here to help one another.We must be willing to do that and that can greatly be possible when we respond to our selves peacefully and with high sense of maturity.you must appreciate this family sis,we care for one answer and believe me if I say I have been following you ever since you joined this home,I am working on lots of things and will get across to you,I hardly respond here cos of my schedules ,I pretty appropriate your personality and would love to talk with you if you will oblige me.this family is a rare one I tell you.Can we talk off line ma'am,?

Akposb:
@modestgal, your vibes are not relational. Anyhow you take it but I know every human being has that element of encouraging relations with others unless you want to be a recluse. Your vision for your life matters, if you intend to achieve great things and lead, you must learn people skills. Yes, introverts can do just that.

ModestGal:
Hi,think this room is for sharing how we do nd mayb Knowing whether what we ae doing is right or not,
my neighbour,we gat to tlk cz he said he jx like talking to me,but i knock him off,we gat tlkng due to no water stuffs in d house, then he was goin to work nd told me to see him off which i did,then d nxt day he askd me take his room key till he comes,i dodge it,i kept doing those pretending shits until i finally knockd him off, i cnt jz cope with having to smile whn i dont rily wanto, having to tlk when i dnt feel lik,so sinc like a week we hvnt seen,whnever he knocks my door,i wnt answer,he did for som days til he stopped,nd i dodge him whnvr i am going outside, not like a hate or dislike him, thats jx me, are mine a bad person please?

ModestGal:

Yes we can talk offline but on what and for what?u can pm me, am mostly harsh to ppl dt i met online esp whn they dont have any meanigful thing dat could better mylife to talk to me about

Liamm:
First to grace this page.

Being an introvert has its ups and downs. I've been existing under this sociality status for over a decade and i have no qualms with it.

The only area where i may have little regret later is exposure. I don't keep much friends and the ones i have barely asks me out. I end up staying at home during weekends not having anyone to visit or a place for recreation.

But I think it's got more advantages. Introverts are mostly viewed as responsible and civilized. I've got no interference of any sought. I do my things the way that would please me.

Having an array of friends as an extrovert leaves you susceptible to bad characters. I'm not being prejudiced against them(extroverts) but that's the fact. You may still find extroverts that are good/mannered but i guess it's 1/10.

The two can always be balanced and i think that's the best. You'll have to be an introvert until you're up to the age of distinguishing between right and wrong(not 7 as per the bible but from 20yrs upwards) then you can port to being an extrovert.

Mumben:
i love ds thread. I used to be a very chronic introvert before i got married, i hardly talk, i couldnt look people in d face when talking to dem, it was dat bad. I woudnt say iv changed but iv adjusted a whole lot cos my husband is my opposite, u cant stay wt hm and not talk, its not possible. Secondly my kids re hyperactive, ther is no way ull b wt them n not talk. Sometimes i feel like locking them up in a room so i can have my peace. Its well sha

DonOms:


I'll be lying if I say I don't seriously dread how family can change one's personality especially those little look-alikes that roam around the house

Melsan:
True but one has to adapt by fire by force

DonOms:

Yeah, by fire or by force o. Adaptation is very key. Just like Mumben said, she hasn't considered herself changed but she's well adjusted. One can't afford to be seen as some distant unloving parent or spouse. Things we do for love.

GloryIsaac:
Its been quite some time , great shoutout to those here who have tied the knot and already have children to them... Just a little question though, As an introvert, very introverted one, which personality do yoy think suits me best for a happy marriage .... NB: I naturally dont like talkatives especially if its from the female folk.... Not ready for marriage though but a man has to start clearing the land now

Mumben:
.Speaking frm xperience, ull need an extrovert to compliment u. U said u dont like talktives but ull learn to live wt it cos two introverted partners wl make a very dull and boring marriage. My opinion though

Wow , thanks for the reply though , but i really really dont like talkatives and i highly doubt if i can stay with one for the rest of my life

GloryIsaac:


Wow , thanks for the reply though , but i really really dont like talkatives and i highly doubt if i can stay with one for the rest of my life

Akposb:

Not to hype love but it could change your view about people that are talkative. Also who said all talkative are annoying, what about the one who tends to talk sensible things and eventually work and other events would follow that would make you relish every moment you spend with her? Man I would love a beautiful talker but I hope you don't want your home to be too quiet. Believe you will get the best no matter the personality.

Thanks man ... i've always believed that talkatives blab a lot and thats one of the main reasons behind my dislike for them, but i'll be intrigued to see one that wouldn't blab every now and then, we could kick off from there

Mumben:
.Speaking frm xperience, ull need an extrovert to compliment u. U said u dont like talktives but ull learn to live wt it cos two introverted partners wl make a very dull and boring marriage. My opinion though

SuccyJ:


Very true... though I've never fallen for an extrovert (Kind of find the talkative ones annoying) but I agree with you, an introvert needs an extrovert or someone who's outgoing to balance the home.

My bf and I are both introverted and MelPhleg, we've bn together for 3yrs now but we(him especially) end up pushing each other away, not talking for months for no reason at all (especially when he's having challenges,instead of talking it out he ends up pushing everyone away) only to pull each other back. Though I really love him so much but I'm tired of going through the same thing over and over again and I've just given up and ready to move on which seems hard though.

So I think introverts need someone to complement and balance us if not it's going to be one boring home with nobody talking...

Troubleking:
If you are introverted and you have a problem communicating with your partner, you just suck at interpersonal communication... Like alot. Don't blame your introversion, but how you respond to it. It's like an obese person blaming the natural need to eat for his obesity.

It's good to bring balance into the home by getting someone different, but be careful you aren't too different or too similar. If you are very introverted, don't go for someone very introverted or very extroverted. A slightly extroverted person who can draw you out at times and also knows how to enjoy some me-time, would be fine.

Thanks a lot for this.... its definitely gonna go a long way

Catalin:
I'm an introvert and I love my quiet time.