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Psychology Today: Anger Management by pappyrose(f): 10:10am On Jul 28, 2014 |
Everyone gets angry and mild anger can sometimes be useful to express strong feelings and deal with situations. Anger is an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense furry and rage which can be caused by both external and internal events. It is often associated with frustration, disappointment, worry, embarrassment, misunderstanding or disagreements. TIPS TO CALMIN DOWN TAKE A DEEP BREATH Control your internal, physical responses to anger. Likely, your heart rate is increased, your breathing is rapid or your voice is raised. The first step to inner control is to breathe deeply. Breathing deeply allows your body to be filled with oxygen. This will stop the adrenaline rush that floods your body when you are angry. This extra oxygen flow will relax your body, calm your breathing, slow your heart rate and allow your brain to resume rational thought. While breathing deeply, you may repeat a calm word or phrase such as "relax" or "take it easy". REALITY CHECK When you start getting upset about something, take a moment to think about the situation. Ask yourself: Is it worth getting angry about?, Is it wort ruining the rest of my day? Is my response appropriate to the situation? Is taking action worth my time? By the time you think over these questions, you would have decided what the most appropriate response to the provoking situation should be. SLOWLY COUNT TO TEN Distract yourself from the provoking situation and focus your attention on counting from 1-10 to let your rational mind catch up with your feelings. If you still feel out of control by the time you reach 10, start counting again. LISTEN TO MUSIC Music helps in the healing process. Each time you sense that something is provoking you, to avoid doing anything that you will later regret, you can distract yourself from the situation with a soothing music. TAKE A WALK If your anger is getting out of control, remove yourself from the situation for some minutes or for as long as it takes you to calm down. A trip to the gym or a completely neutral environment should help you calm down. During the time out, plan how you are going to stay calm when you return. IDENTIFY WHAT IS REALLY UPSETTING YOU Have you ever gotten into an argument over something silly? Big fights often happen over something small but there is usually a bigger issue behind it. If you find your irritations rapidly rising, ask yourself " What am I really angry about? Identifying the real source of frustration will help you take constructive action and work towards a resolution. WRITE IT DOWN Sometimes it can help to write things down. What's happening in your life? Are you experiencing frustrations? Frustration has been found to be a major cause of aggression, people who are frustrated tend to be more aggressive, even over insignificant things. Writing about these issues can sometimes help you give perspective and help you understand your feelings. Work out some options for changing your situation. The emotion of anger is perfectly normal especially when you have been mistreated or wronged. The feeling is not a problem, its what you do with it that makes a difference. Anger becomes a problem when it harms you or others. Anger is not something you have to let out in an aggressive way in order to avoid blowing up. You cant always control the situation you are in or how it makes you feel, but you can control how you express your anger. If you have a hot-temper, you may feel like its out of your hands and there is little you can do about it. Mastering the art of anger management takes work, but the more you practice, the easier it will get. 1 Like |
Re: Psychology Today: Anger Management by pappyrose(f): 10:17am On Jul 28, 2014 |
Feel free to ask questions about your unique experience of anger. Let's rub minds together on how you can improve on anger management. |
Re: Psychology Today: Anger Management by Henrypraise: 11:56am On Oct 07, 2014 |
pappyrose: Dear anger counsellor, I felt angry wen a female friend I av not met but have huge attraction 4 told me her bf is cumin to visit her, in an instant I felt angry n cudnt decipher d reason I was angry, wat do u tink was d reason, how do I kip talkin to my female "friend" n not tink abt her bf cumin around her? How do I control dis anger? I don't even want her to knw I felt angry. N:B I don't knw if she has same feelins I av for her. She is an angel in human form. |
Re: Psychology Today: Anger Management by pappyrose(f): 12:17pm On Oct 07, 2014 |
Henrypraise: Smiling as I read thru ur post. I think u r only jealous (which is natural) and not necessarily angry. Since u know she has a relationship she's very committed to,U need to do reality check. REALITY CHECK When you start getting upset about something, take a moment to think about the situation. Ask yourself: Is it worth getting angry about?, Is it wort ruining the rest of my day? Is my response appropriate to the situation? Is taking action worth my time? By the time you think over these questions, you would have decided what the most appropriate response to the provoking situation should be. |
Re: Psychology Today: Anger Management by Henrypraise: 1:48pm On Oct 07, 2014 |
pappyrose: Nice, I will do just as said abt d reality check. I am gonna post d feedbak/ out cum as tym progresses |
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