Phema: I can not submit to my husband in everything. As much as I'm a christian, i'm also logical. He cannot wake up and tell me to go and kill my parents (or anyone at that) or go sleep with another man for money and I will oblige. That itself (murder and adultery) is a sin. So, which comes first? Obeying the Lord or the husband?

Fortunately, i'm not one of those fire spitting Christians that swallow whatever they are told hook, line and sinker. I worship God with my senses intact. That includes how I live my life and submit to my husband.

Ps: Everyone, the question is: wives can you submit to your husbands according to God's standards stated in the bible? Husbands, can you love, honor and give yourselves to your wives according to God's standards too? No need for the preaching abeg.

You guys should not make this thread all about gender equality/feminism etal. Everyone should state their honest opinions as regards how far they can apply God's words in their marriages.

babygirlfl:

My question is CAN you (a woman) submit to your husband like above and CAN you (a man ) love your wife like above?

bellong:



YES

babygirlfl:


Would you die for your wife?

bellong:


I have been dying for her since I married her about three years ago....

bellong:


I have been dying for her since I married her about three years ago....

pickabeau1:


Classic!

ileobatojo:


Cheeky Mr Bellong!
Very good one!

aisha2:


Toh, to answer your question, its subjective.
The man could have been upset or it could have been in a burst of anger during a fight, mean things sha to say to your spouse.

One cannot catergorically say if he loves or doesnt love his wife from this one paragraph, she may have been holding his collar, calling him "useless" at that moment too so its hard to just decide if he loves his wife out of context. More information will be helpful as what led to his saying that. If he says those kind of word often or if this just happened this one time, is he having an ongoing quarrel with his wife? Did she cheat or hurt him?

However adults should learn to control themselves and what they say to each other

5minsmadness:

Seriously, I would marry you if I had the chance.

bellong:


I have been dying for her since I married her about three years ago....

bukatyne:


Marry a feminist?

You sure?

@Bellong,

Nice one

aisha2:


Toh, to answer your question, its subjective.
The man could have been upset or it could have been in a burst of anger during a fight, mean things sha to say to your spouse.

One cannot catergorically say if he loves or doesnt love his wife from this one paragraph, she may have been holding his collar, calling him "useless" at that moment too so its hard to just decide if he loves his wife out of context. More information will be helpful as what led to his saying that. If he says those kind of word often or if this just happened this one time, is he having an ongoing quarrel with his wife? Did she cheat or hurt him?

However adults should learn to control themselves and what they say to each other

5minsmadness:


If aisha2 is a feminist them she is one of the most fairest cleverest and objectivest feminist in the world and I wouldn't mind putting up with her at all.

bukatyne:


The bolded na wa; sounds like managing

@ Post: It is good you know that not everyone in a particular group is the same

Great weekend

5minsmadness:

No matter what I say you'll find a way to keep twisting my words. You are good at it.


Bottom line: her comments are very mature and I admire her a lot.

bellong:


I have been dying for her since I married her about three years ago....