bruf: Hello Family,
Sincerely I see a bright future for us

bruf: Hello Family,
Its been a great pleasure been on the section,I've learnt so much from here,and I know I can get helpful and reasonable advices here.
Straight to the point. I'm from a family of four,viz my mom,my elder bro' , my younger bro' and myself,our dad is late. We're just an average family. My elder bro' got married last year n now has has a child. He's still sort of dependent on our mom. I'm currently seeing a young man,whom from all indications loves me deeply,I love him too as well. He's told me he wants us to get married and to be frank with you,I'll be the most blessed lady to get married to such a promising young man,'cause he's a good man;but i'm really so scared of what holds for our future if we end up getting married,this is because he's currently earning very little(25k) and I'm a recent graduate who is even yet to serve,though I got a casual job to keep myself busy for the time being. Sincerely I see a bright future for us

mployer: It depends on your reason for getting married. If you are looking for a ticket out of poverty, then he is probably not the right choice.
If you want peace, companionship and compatibility without minding some inconveniences, then you stay with him

I will advice you stay with him. There is a reason he looked 'promising' to you. You may not be able to explain it but just believe it.

mployer: It depends on your reason for getting married. If you are looking for a ticket out of poverty, then he is probably not the right choice.
If you want peace, companionship and compatibility without minding some inconveniences, then you stay with him

I will advice you stay with him. There is a reason he looked 'promising' to you. You may not be able to explain it but just believe it.

bruf: Hello Family,
Its been a great pleasure been on the section,I've learnt so much from here,and I know I can get helpful and reasonable advices here.
Straight to the point. I'm from a family of four,viz my mom,my elder bro' , my younger bro' and myself,our dad is late. We're just an average family. My elder bro' got married last year n now has has a child. He's still sort of dependent on our mom. I'm currently seeing a young man,whom from all indications loves me deeply,I love him too as well. He's told me he wants us to get married and to be frank with you,I'll be the most blessed lady to get married to such a promising young man,'cause he's a good man;but i'm really so scared of what holds for our future if we end up getting married,this is because he's currently earning very little(25k) and I'm a recent graduate who is even yet to serve,though I got a casual job to keep myself busy for the time being. Sincerely I see a bright future for us

eyenCalabar: It depends largely on what the young man is doing today for tomorrow. Is he a graduate or a businessman? What are his skills? What are his investments so far? What are his ambitions? And you, what are you doing now while waiting for service? What are your skills too? Or are you just going to depend on your degree? What are your plans and where do you hope to see yourself few years from now? What are you doing now? Making a relationship work is a collective responsibility. You guys should plan together on where to be few years from now and work towards it. Put away the idea of marriage for now and invest on yourselves. And lastly, 'close' your legs. If you no fit hold body, use condom. This is time to work for the future. Wish you guys goodluck.

mployer: It depends on your reason for getting married. If you are looking for a ticket out of poverty, then he is probably not the right choice.
If you want peace, companionship and compatibility without minding some inconveniences, then you stay with him

I will advice you stay with him. There is a reason he looked 'promising' to you. You may not be able to explain it but just believe it.

dytbabe: Take it slow
Like really slow
I mean really slow, money is as important as love in a marriage.
And yes keep praying for it shall be well

enoquin :


Options available:
1. Leave the struggling guy; marry a rich or a well to do man.
You may or may not end up happy and he might decide not to help your family, his money...his rules.

2. Stay with struggling guy; he might not be in that state forever or he might not go much higher than this present state or progress may not be so great.
You may or may not end up happy especially if you begin to resent him for not being able to meet all your needs.

Why do we choose life partners?

1. To make our parents happy and proud?
2. To make ourselves happy and proud?
3. To make our friends happy and proud?

I am an advocate of parent(s) reaping the fruits of their labour but at what cost? Has your mum ever hinted at you marrying a rich man?

You haven't gone for service yet, why not wait till after service before getting married? A good job might have been gotten by your partner then and if not, you both can look at ways that extra income can be made. Is your partner a graduate?

Suitors will always come, the key thing is contentment with what you own and with whom you are and you won't even see the suitors as rich or not but as men with faults and imperfections.

My advice? Don't worry overmuch over such things as these. You both don't have to depend on your mother if you eventually marry and things haven't progressed much, just live within your means...

I wish you both the best.

mployer: It depends on your reason for getting married. If you are looking for a ticket out of poverty, then he is probably not the right choice.
If you want peace, companionship and compatibility without minding some inconveniences, then you stay with him

I will advice you stay with him. There is a reason he looked 'promising' to you. You may not be able to explain it but just believe it.

Kanwulia: Nne!
I have a cousin in your shoes right now.
She married the man of her youth. . . .
3 children later, she is still crying because nothing has changed o.
She is still bread-winner and the man is yet to get the 'real job'!

It is rough! The man is now sooooo depressed with a sense of failure he does not even get out of bed anymore(BUT IS STILL PHOCKING WELL WELL AND HAVING CHILDREN O)

The woman don taya!!!! She has to do EVERYTHING!!!!
You might be favored to have a man that can PULL HIS WEIGHT no matter what.
No one knows what the future holds.

There are chances we must take in life.
You know the possibilities. . . .
No one can make the choice for you.
It is your life!

delishpot: Hmn, if you guys marry and decide to put off having kids till you are financially stable then go ahead but if you desire to have kids asap biko just wait o. Hang in there and try to find better jobs and improve on finances before the big leap.
my dear. Money is important in any union. I am not saying he should have millions o. But at least have enough to avoid begging people for money to buy cow and gate or diapers. Or to look for rent cos you spent last month salary treating malaria.
To be frank, 25k is small to plan to start a family on.

mployer: It depends on your reason for getting married. If you are looking for a ticket out of poverty, then he is probably not the right choice.
If you want peace, companionship and compatibility without minding some inconveniences, then you stay with him

I will advice you stay with him. There is a reason he looked 'promising' to you. You may not be able to explain it but just believe it.

Gboliwe:

The bible says one shall chase a thousand and two, ten thousand If the marriage is for good, you both will rise above the poverty level real fast because "he who finds a good wife....and obtains favor from the Lord. "

bennyrazz: How could one chase a thousand and two put ten thousands to flight if their strong One had not sold them, and the LORD had not delivered them up? madam gboliwe

bruf: Hello Family,
Its been a great pleasure been on this section,I've learnt so much from here,and I know I can get helpful and reasonable advices here.
Straight to the point. I'm from a family of four,viz my mom,my elder bro' , my younger bro' and myself,our dad is late. We're just an average family. My elder bro' got married last year n now has a child. He's still sort of dependent on our mom. I'm currently seeing a young man,whom from all indications loves me deeply,I love him too as well,we've been dating for over a year now. He's told me he wants us to get married and to be frank with you,I'll be the most blessed lady to get married to such a promising young man,'cause he's a good man;but i'm really so scared of what the future holds for us if we end up getting married,this is because even though I'm from an average family,all my needs has always been carted for and I wouldn't know what starting my family with little will look like,'cause my fiance is currently earning very little(25k) and I'm a recent graduate who is even yet to serve,though I got a casual job to keep myself busy for the time being. Sincerely I envision a bright future for us.
I'm of the school of thought that believes that children would grow up to take care of their parents n not the other way round. Growing up,I've always dreamt of taking good care of my mom and my younger bro. I'm scared of ending up like my elder bro' who's still sort of dependent on my mom,Its my desire for my husband n I to take care of my mom as well as his parents.I love my fiance so much to leave him because of low finances,he's still doing his best to get a better job and I'm really encouraging him alongside with prayers. I'm not the type that will stay at home idle when we get married,I'm willing to support him.
Now my big is fear is, well to do suitors are coming(I'm in my twenties)but I feel it will be cheapening to leave my man for some other coz of money,I know money is vital in making a marriage work;but I feel its still not enough to break up something that seems genuine,he meets most of my requirements of an ideal man just that currently he's yet to get a better job... Dunno if I'm making any sense.
Please advice me,I'm really confused...

beeevan: Just be sure his love is real and not poverty induced because broke niggers sabi love. Give a man money and watch the real him unravel, its easy to discern how true the love of a financially comfortable guy is than that of a broke dude. . Please hold off on marriage for now and improve your means of lively hood.

EfemenaXY:

The cynic in me finds it hard to believe that broke Naija dudes sabi love.

beeevan:

Some broke ones pretend head over heels in love to have a sincere companion that really cares about their broke as s.once the sun shines on them, they realize that she doesn't speak with respect and doesn't possess Kim K's Junk.