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Re: .... by soulglo: 9:35pm On Aug 11, 2014 |
bruf: Hello Family, You already answered your question. Read the bolded part again. Emphasis on "currently". You have described him as a promising young man. Sweetie like changes at ever turn. These men with money today proves nothing for the future. You love this man and he loves you and you're both dedicated to each other. He is not lazy and your happiness is important to him. Focus on that. Taking care of your brother should not even be on your radar. That's his worry and not yours. Never look at someones pockets to determine their value. Having a high net worth does not make you worthy. 3 Likes |
Re: .... by Nobody: 10:22pm On Aug 11, 2014 |
Why is he the one making the move for marriage now considering his low income, is he scared of losing you or something i havnt thought of? You are unstable and indicive now cos you dont want to say tomorrow you missed a good man or chances at rich suitors. Trust me when we get to crossroads like this, the answer lies in time especially when we take a deep breath n remain calm to see it(now till end of your nysc i belive is more time enough). Then to your man, he is making tangible effort to increase his pay like doing extra jobs or taking another available low pay job that gives time to do others and earn more or he is just where he is moving only for a bigger uncertain job. Encourage him to do the former as the latter is not ok for one hoping to marry soon. Finally there's truth in the above that says 'some broke niccar sabi love'. So chilax with a clear mind look at the situation and his hustling attitude critically. You will know what to do sooner than you imagine with the contented contents of your peaceful heart. 3 Likes |
Re: .... by bruf: 6:05am On Aug 18, 2014 |
EfemenaXY:Thank you so much ma,I'll be willing to wait. |
Re: .... by bruf: 6:14am On Aug 18, 2014 |
soulglo:I really do appreciate this warm advice of yours. Thank you. |
Re: .... by bruf: 6:20am On Aug 18, 2014 |
Floodgater: Why is he the one making the move for marriage now considering his low income, is he scared of losing you or something i havnt thought of? You are unstable and indicive now cos you dont want to say tomorrow you missed a good man or chances at rich suitors. Trust me when we get to crossroads like this, the answer lies in time especially when we take a deep breath n remain calm to see it(now till end of your nysc i belive is more time enough). Then to your man, he is making tangible effort to increase his pay like doing extra jobs or taking another available low pay job that gives time to do others and earn more or he is just where he is moving only for a bigger uncertain job. Encourage him to do the former as the latter is not ok for one hoping to marry soon. Finally there's truth in the above that says 'some broke niccar sabi love'. So chilax with a clear mind look at the situation and his hustling attitude critically. You will know what to do sooner than you imagine with the contented contents of your peaceful heart.Yes he does extra jobs,to add to his income,I'd say he's hardworking,its just a pity that the beautiful job that befits him hasn't come,but we're trusting God it will come sooner than we expect. Thank you so much. |
Re: .... by bruf: 6:23am On Aug 18, 2014 |
Thank you all for your advices,they are very valid,God bless you all for showing concern. Do have a beautiful week ahead. |
Re: .... by richyblink1(m): 2:05pm On Aug 18, 2014 |
Before considering marrying him, you need to sort certain things. 1. What is he doing about his prevailing circumstance (little pay). 2. What are his chances of making it, ie, his approach towards making it big or better. 3. Does he have a defined and laid down plan to actually archive his aims. 4. Are you included in his plans and decision making. 5. Do you guys have the same winning attitude and approach as regard the subject matter. Ie, are you both operating on the same atmosphere of positivity. It's true that we can't predict the future, and it's equally true that you have 50/50 chance of making it or otherwise. But how far you see, what you see and what you believe will take you a long way not just in marriage, but In decision making as well. Determination they say leads to success. But it's worthy to note that he can change after making it. Determination and perseverance can take you to the top, but it takes character to keep you there. In other words, you can't predict humans when their status changes 1 Like |
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