We’ve all gone through hard times. And we all get through them.
However, some get through them better than others. So what is their
secret? Most of it has to do with attitude. Here are 13 things to
remember when life gets rough:

1. WHAT IS, IS

Buddha’s famous saying tells us: “It is your resistance to ‘what is’
that causes your suffering.” Think about that for a minute. It means
that our suffering only occurs when we resist how things are. If you
can change something, then take action! Change it! But if you can’t
change it, then you have two choices: (1) either accept it and let go
of the negativity, or (2) make yourself miserable by obsessing over it.

2: IT IS ONLY A PROBLEM IF YOU THINK IT IS A PROBLEM

Many times, we are our own worst enemy. Happiness is really
dependent on perspective. If you think something is a problem, then
your thoughts and emotions will be negative. But if you think it’s
something you can learn from, then suddenly, it’s not a problem
anymore.

3: IF YOU WANT THINGS TO CHANGE, YOU NEED TO START WITH CHANGING YOURSELF.

Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. Don’t you know
people whose lives are chaotic and stressful? And isn’t that largely
because they feel chaotic inside? Yes, it is. We like to think that
changing our circumstances will change us. But we have it backwards
—we need to change ourselves first before our circumstances will
change.

4. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS FAILURE - ONLY LEARNING OPPORTUNITIES.

You should just wipe the word “failure” right out of your vocabulary.
All great people who have ever achieved anything have “failed” over
and over. In fact, I think it was Thomas Edison who said something
like, “I did not fail at inventing the light bulb, I just first found 99
ways that it didn’t work.” Take your so-called “failures” and learn
something from them. Learn how to do it better next time.

5. If you don’t get something you want, it just means something
better is coming.

That’s hard to believe sometimes, I know. But it’s true. Usually, when
you look back at your life, you will be able to see why it was actually
a good thing that something didn’t work out. Maybe the job you
didn’t get would have made you spend more time away from your
family, but the job you did get was more flexible. Just have faith that
everything happens exactly the way it’s supposed to.

6. Appreciate the present moment.

This moment will never come again. And there is always something
precious about every moment. So don’t let it pass you by! Soon it will
just be a memory. Even moments that don’t seem happy can be
looked upon as something that you might miss someday. As the
country song by Trace Adkins says, “You’re gonna miss this…you’re
gonna want this back. You’re gonna wish these days hadn’t gone by
so fast….you may not know this now, but you’re gonna miss this…”

7. Let go of desire.

Most people live with “attached mind.” What this means is that they
attach themselves to a desire, and when they don’t get it, their
emotions plummet into negativity. Instead, try to practice “detached
mind.” That means that when you want something, you will still be
happy whether you get it or not. Your emotions remain happy or
neutral.

8. Understand and be grateful for your fears.

Fear can be a great teacher. And overcoming fears can also make you
feel victorious. For example, when I was in college, I feared public
speaking (one of the top 3 fears of all humans). So I find it humorous
now that not only do I speak in front of a group every day by being a
college professor, I also teach public speaking! Overcoming fears just
takes practice. Fear is really just an illusion. It’s optional.

9. Allow yourself to experience joy.

Believe it or not, I know way too many people who don’t allow
themselves to have fun. And they don’t even know how to be happy.
Some people are actually addicted to their problems and the chaos in
them so much that they wouldn’t even know who they are without
them. So try to allow yourself to be happy! Even if it’s just for a small
moment, it’s important to focus on joy, not your hardships.

10. Don’t compare yourself to other people.

But if you do compare yourself, compare yourself with people who
have it worse than you. Unemployed? Be grateful that you live in a
country that gives unemployment compensation, because most people
in the world live on less that $750 a year. So you don’t look like
Angelina Jolie? Well, I bet there are more people who don’t than do.
And you are probably way better looking than than you think. Focus
on that.

11. You are not a victim.

You need to get out of your own way. You are only a “victim” of your
own thoughts, words and actions. No one “does” something to you.
You are the creator of your own experience. Take personal
responsibility and realize that you can get out of your hard times.
You just need to start with changing your thoughts and actions.
Abandon your victim mentality and become victorious. From victim to
VICTOR!

12. Things can—and do—change.

“And this too shall pass” is one of my favorite sayings. When we are
stuck in a bad situation, we think that there is no way out. We think
nothing will ever change. But guess what? It will! Nothing is
permanent except death. So get out of the habit of thinking that
things will always be this way. They won’t. But you do need to take
some sort of action for things to change. It won’t magically happen
all on its own.

13. Anything is possible.

Miracles happen every day. Really—they do. I wish I had enough
space to write about all the miraculous things that have happened to
people I know—from healing stage 4 cancer naturally to having their
soul mate appear out of nowhere. Trust me: it happens all the time.
You just need to believe it does. Once you do, you have won the
battle.

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