I was discussing with my mum some days back about my uncle who is planning his wedding in a few months time, an argument came up between us about who should spend the whole expenses of the wedding..I was telling her, if a budget for the wedding is estimated to be 600k, the guys shouldn't just spend his life savings or resort to loans or borrowing. This should be splitted with his fiancee if not even 50% each, atleast she should be able to raise 200k outta 600k, but as a typical Nigerian,my mum started arguing on the fact that my dad paid his bride price without her giving him any money,I told her the days of a guy spending all him money on wedding is over, moreover wedding is not even an investment..... People in the house, Do u think atleast there should be a significant financial contribution from the female because my argument is based on the fact that they are both getting wedded, aiint they?

I believe shouldering responsibility for marriage should be done by both if they are working. leaving it for only the man is wrong.
Where the can afford it, let him do it

In this day and age with working WOMEN?

It should be shared. But not equally
70/30 with the man taking the bulk.
Or kpatakpata 60/40.
And the man MUST use his own earned money to pay bride price.

Bride price is one of smallest if not d smallest thing to be worried abt it... The whole wedding expense.. Apart from d bride price I tink everyoda thing should be shared..

Nw the men are talking......let the women come here to give their own view on the issue.

I believe the man should pay the bride price all by himself but all other costs concerning entertainment, white wedding and all the other unneccesary drama should be shared equally between the man and the woman. Or the richer person, whatever gender should carry the heavier responsibility.

royalsweetness: I believe the man should pay the bride price all by himself but all other costs concerning entertainment, white wedding and all the other unneccesary drama should be shared equally between the man and the woman. Or the richer person, whatever gender should carry the heavier responsibility.

Good one

well i don't think i know the standard way but in my own case, my husband's family took care of the engagement list i.e the yams, oil, box of clothes for bride etc. I didn't contribute to that.

But for the rest, we made a list of every expenses and shared it appropriately
eg me paying for reception hall and him paying for the photographs and video, he bought his clothing and i bought mine i.e suit, shoes, wedding gown etc, i paid for the IVs , he paid for the wedding program, we both paid for the rings, we took care of the feeding from my own side though his people still brought food when they were coming etc when i paid for something on his own list, he paid for something on my own list to balance it.

I can't really say specifically what the % of sharing is but we made sure neither of us carried a burden bigger than us.

[size=5pt]Na 2 of us marry each other.....[/size]

Godmystrength: .

I can't really say specifically what the % of sharing is but we made sure neither of us carried a burden bigger than us.

. Nw dats what I call understanding of equal proportion..no more no less. Not some gum chewing girl dat wnts the guy to and borrow money just because he wnts to marry...

[quote author=Godmystrength]well i don't think i know the standard way but in my own case, my husband's family took care of the engagement list i.e the yams, oil, box of clothes for bride etc. I didn't contribute to that.

But for the rest, we made a list of every expenses and shared it appropriately
eg me paying for reception hall and him paying for the photographs and video, he bought his clothing and i bought mine i.e suit, shoes, wedding gown etc, i paid for the IVs , he paid for the wedding program, we both paid for the rings, we took care of the feeding from my own side though his people still brought food when they were coming etc when i paid for something on his own list, he paid for something on my own list to balance it.

I can't really say specifically what the % of sharing is but we made sure neither of us carried a burden bigger than us.