opibycar: I don't want to marry a lady that loves me. Yes you
heard me right! I don't want her to love me I just want
a woman that will be submissive to me. A woman that
will always go with what I said even when I'm wrong.
A woman that won't complain even when I cheat. A
woman who won't say B when I say A
....Now that's a good wife.
My ideal woman, my dream angel. Afterall, the Bible
says in Ephesians 5:22 and 25 Vs 22 says: "Wives,
SUBMIT yourselves to your husbands as to the Lord."
Vs 25 says: "Husbands, LOVE your wives just as
Christ loved the Church and gave His life for
it. So it is not your duty to love but to submit. Leave
the loving for me to do and just submit unto me.

5minsmadness:
But she doesn't know, does she.

Op, how recent is the photo? Like Ify said are you sure its a serious thing or a mere fling?

Secondly there's something one of my friend's girlfriends did. Dunno if its right but here goes.
She casually initiated a discussion with her fiancee just before they were getting married to tell her about all his past relationships, plus all the girls he has ever slept with. She said she was used to guys being cheats -not that he is a cheat - but that so no girl will come and drop a bomb shell on their wedding day.
I know the boys book on coded relationships advise other wise but my guy confessed every every. He said he was glad to get it off his chest and he wanted to see her reaction anyway. Funny enough she accepted it and till now they are happily married (as far as I know). At least he constantly praises her wisdom and swears to us that he hasn't had the need to look outside his marriage since.

Kk story over. What I'm trying to say is, you can tell your friend to initiate a kind of discussion like that where the guy talks about his flings since he is about to enter marriage so he can get anything off his chest. He might laugh and say hell no, or he might just come clean if he is in fact doing anything wrong.

My suggestion.

freecocoa: From my dealings with the female species of this country called friends, I've come to learn how to mind my business when it comes to relationships.


I became the enemy after trying to advise some on the guys who beat and cheat on them, they ended up telling the guys how I said he is this and that bla bla bla, leading to the guys seeing me as their enemies, the ladies sef started behaving strange towards me, so Omo even if I catch your husband/bf ontop another woman, I go just form blindness.

OP use the first case where you told her about the guy cheating as an eye opener, it's her life and I bet she's seen some signs if the guy's really a cheat.

EfemenaXY:

Frecocoa, that wasn't a real friend to start with and you're best rid of her.

opibycar: I don't want to marry a lady that loves me. Yes you
heard me right! I don't want her to love me I just want
a woman that will be submissive to me. A woman that
will always go with what I said even when I'm wrong.
A woman that won't complain even when I cheat. A
woman who won't say B when I say A
....Now that's a good wife.
U r lookin 4 a barbie doll!
My ideal woman, my dream angel. Afterall, the Bible
says in Ephesians 5:22 and 25 Vs 22 says: "Wives,
SUBMIT yourselves to your husbands as to the Lord."
Vs 25 says: "Husbands, LOVE your wives just as
Christ loved the Church and gave His life for
it. So it is not your duty to love but to submit. Leave
the loving for me to do and just submit unto me.

iwakolewa: I'm posting this on behalf of a friend,don't know what to advise. .....

I've been friends with her for over eight years now, we are like sisters,about six years ago, her boyfriend crossed the line and asked me out...I got furious and told her about it,but she didn't end the relationship with the guy,they had a little quarrel and reconciled. ...four months later,the relationship ended.. she found out he was getting married.
I've been married for over five years now ,and I have been praying for her to get a good guy to settle down with,and over time, she's been in and out of relationships,she's kind of naive and meek...more like guys take advantage of her meekness.

Two years ago, she met a really cool guy,we all like the guy and it was obvious he likes my friend and they've been dating since then. ..and now,they have set a date for their wedding at the end of the year....

My kid sister came home from school some days ago,they had an award night where she won some awards and she was showing me pictures, I saw my friend's fiancee's picture on her phone with some of her friends, she's never met the guy before,I asked about the guy and she said the guy is dating one of her friends,my friend is in her late 20s,my sister is 19,I was so shocked I kept asking about the guy from my sister.

Now I don't know what to do,I love my friend, don't want to break her heart, but I also don't want her to get hurt...Please advise me on what I can do.

emma2002: You've got to do everything in your power to expose this evil or else after the marriage when issues begin to show up [especially with the fact that this type of problem sticks around and hardly goes away] your conscience will be greatly troubled and you may not be able to forgive yourself for keeping mute, not to talk of your friend who will later realize you were aware and kept silent.

My Suggestion: Do not speak with your friend first, attempt to get the audience of the guy show him all the evidences and together see how he can confess to her and possibly be out of the picture until they have reconciled. Your friend will thank you forever, when she discovers you were behind the scene orchestrating the event.

Assuming he refuses, you now know better the stuff he is made of and have a better reason to open up to your friend.

My opinion though...

elipheleh: shut up and mind your own bussiness, enemyof progress. jealousy go kill you.
fitst you must be stupid to expect a single handsome gut to have only 1 girlfriend. seriously he has not married your friend yet so that is normal.

besides girls date several guys at thesame time. so what is wrong if a guy does it?
bastard amebo

elipheleh: shut up and mind your own bussiness, enemyof progress. jealousy go kill you.
fitst you must be stupid to expect a single handsome gut to have only 1 girlfriend. seriously he has not married your friend yet so that is normal.

besides girls date several guys at thesame time. so what is wrong if a guy does it?
bastard amebo