"Wives, Reverence Your Husbands Even When Upset"! ~ OEV

I don't care how upset I may get with my husband, there is no "dog house" for him. There is no "Sleep on the Couch" for him or no denial of sex. That is not how I treat the man that I prayed for just because I may be upset with him. So what happens when I'm upset with him? The same thing that happens when I'm not upset with him. We will work it out, but sometimes we cannot work it out until much later when the children are sleep, but until then, he's gets the same benefits of marriage while I'm upset with him as he does when I'm not upset with him. Reverence of my husband is not based on what he does or does not do. Reverence of my husband is a commandment from God Himself, to me as a wife and I am to do it whether I'm upset with my husband or not. This is what those older wives in the Lord taught me a few years back (Titus 2) and this is what I have been applying in my marriage ever since they told me that. It has not always been easy but with the grace of God and the strength of Christ I am able to reverence my husband even when I am upset with him. Had I known this before 2009, my husband and I may have NEVER separated! Point?

Wives, don't dishonor your husbands when you're upset with them; reverence them anyway. They are not dogs nor our children that we get to punish or put in "time out" when we are upset with them! We are not their "gods" that we get to choose how we punish them when they may cause us to be upset. In fact, we don't get to punish them at all. No, what we get to do is be their wives, their GOOD THINGS, their lovers and friends ALL the days of our lives!

And before a wife says, "But what about when they...." stop right there. This is TO wives FOR wives, not to or for husbands. We wives must be accountable for OUR actions and OUR behavior. In fact, here's what the word of God says on this matter.

1 Peter 3:7 (NIV), "Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives..."

Eph 5:33b, "...and the wife see that she reverence her husband".

Prov 31:12, "She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life".

We can't claim Prov 31 wife status by constantly behaving opposite of that. We must do what the word says and keep doing our husbands good, even when we are upset with them. Remember our post entitled "LOVE, Even When Angry"? Well today I'm talking to wives on a personal level because God is not pleased with the way many "Godly Wives" have been treating their husbands by withholding sex, kicking their husbands out of the bed, putting them on the sofa and many won't even cook for their husband when they are upset with them. No we Godly Wives are to be set apart and not do things the way the world does but instead do things like we are daughters of Sarah. Remember 1 Peter 3:6 says, "Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters you are, as long as you do well..." So let us continue to "do well" by reverencing our husbands even while we are upset with them.

Know that when we do this, not only may our husbands be won over to repent for whatever it is they did to make us upset in the first place but also, God will be pleased with how we behave towards our husbands even when we are upset with them. Be Encouraged Wives!

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teeo: I wish all women would agree to this, but no they won't. The first thing they do is close shop when he offends them .

Nice one OP....

bukatyne:

Very true

I always say husbands and wives should see themselves as Christian brothers and sisters and treat each other like that and even better

I do not understand why a husband will be nice to all the women in his unit, respect them etc. and can't do the same at home or why a woman would respect her pastor more than her husband.

what baffles me is a woman kneeling for a pastor when she doesn't kneel for her hubby or dancing after the pastor, cooking for him etc. when she cannot do such at home.

Our first duty of service is to our spouses

Honestly, until we begin to love our mates despite who they are, what they do or do not, what they bring to the table or do not, we may never be truly able to enjoy the heavenly bliss that marriage is meant to be.

Is it easy? No!
Will it take time? Yes!
Can you do it on your own? No!

Just remember this always, that where there's a will, there's a way.

teeo: I wish all women would agree to this, but no they won't. The first thing they do is close shop when he offends them .

Nice one OP....

carefreewannabe: So what are wives suppossed to do when ...

1 ... a husbands cheats on them?

2 ... a husband cheats on them and infects them with a STD?

3 ... a husband beats them up?

4 ... loses his salary on gambling?

bukatyne: And before a wife says, "But what about when they...." stop right there. This is TO wives FOR wives, not to or for husbands. We wives must be accountable for OUR actions and OUR behavior. In fact, here's what the word of God says on this matter.

1 Peter 3:7 (NIV), "Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives..."

Eph 5:33b, "...and the wife see that she reverence her husband".

Prov 31:12, "She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life".

matify: Crap!!!

What is good for the goose is also good for the gander and that is the gosple truth and not the antiquated ink of male chauvinists whose thought-train have little relevance in our dynamic and contemporary world.

Women! Don't be blinded by those contraptions of men to hold you bound .

Godmystrength:

According to OP

anyway, i am still waiting for what is expected of the husband to do even when the wife upsets him..

Godmystrength: What if you catch him cheating on you? The first best thing must be to close shop and get tested before you even think about talking about it.

@OP- all these things are easier to write than put to action. How can i be upset with someone and still act as if nothing happened? Forget about it been my husband now. It is just a natural thing. Once you are hurt/offended, you can never be the same until it is sorted out.....

diaris God ooo

Godmystrength:

According to OP

anyway, i am still waiting for what is expected of the husband to do even when the wife upsets him..

matify: Crap!!!

What is good for the goose is also good for the gander and that is the gosple truth and not the antiquated ink of male chauvinists whose thought-train have little relevance in our dynamic and contemporary world.

Women! Don't be blinded by those contraptions of men to hold you bound .

bukatyne:

She is talking about withholding sex or food or sending him to sleep in the guest room when he offends but honestly I agree that offences have different levels and this couple in question try their best not to do major offences.

When they wanted to separate one time they were having issues before they started this Facebook page, the husband moved in back with his parents and waited till their issue was resolved.

He did not go to a lady's place; he did not see it as a license to cheat etc. he stayed faithful till their issue was resolved.

So you see, they take their vows seriously and try to be the best.

They are not Christians in mouth

Godmystrength:

According to OP

anyway, i am still waiting for what is expected of the husband to do even when the wife upsets him..

bukatyne:

Lol!

It is not easy and depends on the offence

If she catches him on another woman...

God who knows everything also said a man could divorce his wife only on the grounds of adultery, that is to say that, if the husband is caught in infidelity only then should the woman act in that a way that wouldnt reverence the man. So if it isnt the offense of Adultery, it could be settled later, but they shouldnt close shop

bukatyne:

Lol!

It is not easy and depends on the offence

If she catches him on another woman...

bukatyne:

Lol!

It is not easy and depends on the offence

If she catches him on another woman...

MizMyColi: ^^^ This is supposed to be a two-way thing.
I remember she posted last time on the Husband's testimony, where he, the man had to do all the apologizing, at fault or not.

Things did get better for them. You might wanna read that too, if you haven't.

bukatyne:

She is talking about withholding sex or food or sending him to sleep in the guest room when he offends but honestly I agree that offences have different levels and this couple in question try their best not to do major offences.

When they wanted to separate one time they were having issues before they started this Facebook page, the husband moved in back with his parents and waited till their issue was resolved.

He did not go to a lady's place; he did not see it as a license to cheat etc. he stayed faithful till their issue was resolved.

So you see, they take their vows seriously and try to be the best.

They are not Christians in mouth

carefreewannabe: So what are wives suppossed to do when ...

1 ... a husbands cheats on them?

2 ... a husband cheats on them and infects them with a STD?

3 ... a husband beats them up?

4 ... loses his salary on gambling?

dBard:


I've a response t dis, something that happened some yrs back t a friend..tho they weren't married sha but.....
she was t travel wit her fiance, went t his house, outta boredom, n met him@ home wit his ex..he, in boxers, she jst having had her bath. She walked out, without causing a scene, waited, helped him prepare n dey traveled f d occasion n came back wit her still 'normal'..n likewise f d next cpla days. after 2 -3 days, he came confessing n begging n promising.

So u see, it applies even in dse situations

Godmystrength: And what/who determines what offense is major? What may be minor for them in her family and she can overlook might be major for me in my house and make me boiling?.......... anyway, i see the OP as a form of encouragement and not ''this is how you MUST do it''......... The christian race is an individual race.....

bukatyne:

understand they are talking to a Christian audience and do not expect such anyways

bukatyne:

Ok, this is for women only

The same message will definitely be to the men also

I get where you're coming from.
I'd prolly feel that way if I hadn't seen the story from a male angle

Godmystrength: Maybe it will even be better to be posting the two-way things on same thread. i.e if you want to post something about a man, better get the part for the woman and post together. By doing so, everybody will come there and pick whatever is relating to them. no fighting or condemnation or castigation or guilt