MizMyColi:

What I like about this couple is the fact that they have seen MESS in their marriage.
That mess bore their Message to the world.

Honestly, I rarely pay attention to marriage counselors who paint marriage as one fairy tale like ish, who give this impression that they've always been in love and try to make light of their past and present issues. Selling false hopes.
There's rarely, if ever, a marriage that is ordained by heaven where there won't be heaven shaking issues.

But then, like the OP said, God'll use the imperfections in him to perfect the imperfections in you and vice versa.

Its not about being bound by a man or woman, it's a choice one makes.
There is no fear in love and there is no love in fear.

bukatyne:

Very correct

I think where our church miss it is insisting or piling everything up on the head of the wife

Then marriage becomes a chore

bukatyne:

Ok, what's major and minor to you?

What do you think worth's your hubby sleeping on the couch or denying him s.ex?

matify:

I am a married man and a christian at that but I am a rational being and I will not for any privilege it confers on me subscribe to those teachings and advise which impose what I cannot give on my wife because" it is written" .

When s*ex is not given consentually but begrudgingly when one party is upset still defines as RAPE.

Lawyers in the house, am I right or RIGHT?

bukatyne:

Very correct

I think where our church miss it is insisting or piling everything up on the head of the wife

Then marriage becomes a chore

bukatyne:

I no sabi law but if the wife is the one offended and she still offers hubby intimacy, I do not think it is molest

bukatyne:
So you see, they take their vows seriously and try to be the best.
They are not Christians in mouth

Godmystrength: What if you catch him cheating on you? The first best thing must be to close shop and get tested before you even think about talking about it.

@OP- all these things are easier to write than put to action. How can i be upset with someone and still act as if nothing happened? Forget about it been my husband now. It is just a natural thing. Once you are hurt/offended by someone, you can never ordinarily be the same with the person until it is sorted out.....And it hurts more when the offender is your LOVE.

diaris God ooo

SAMBARRY: In everything we are doing

Godmystrength:

moca: See Buky don become marriage consilor
All her threads these days na marriage this, husband and wife that
Marriage good o!

Abeg I dey look for my own true loff.
I only like usher, abeg who go connect us?

Tenk u in advance

Well done buky.
Obanye, pm me for omugwo special

babyoku1: "LOVE, Even When Angry"?
MADAM Poster, I don't agree with u AT ALL
Ask yourself and tell yourself the truth.
Will you continue to love 100% even if that man u adore and care for soooo much is cheating on you??
I need u to answer me sincerely.

Godmystrength: You are right. We had our women's convention the weekend in my church and the speaker that was invited on Sunday was just talking about women this women that bla bla bla. With all the men in attendance o. Saying things like what's in the OP and only one line for the men begging them to love their wives. You can imagine an irresponsible man in the congregation who will now go home and be trying to enforce what the speaker has said without any plan of changing his ways. he will now see the wife as not submissive. Whereas, when the men have their programmes, for the ones they manage to invite us(women), you will not hear things like that. Only success preachings on how to make it and be successful in life etc.

As if the woman is not a human being too.

Godmystrength: You are right. We had our women's convention the weekend in my church and the speaker that was invited on Sunday was just talking about women this women that bla bla bla. With all the men in attendance o. Saying things like what's in the OP and only one line for the men begging them to love their wives. You can imagine an irresponsible man in the congregation who will now go home and be trying to enforce what the speaker has said without any plan of changing his ways. he will now see the wife as not submissive. Whereas, when the men have their programmes, for the ones they manage to invite us(women), you will not hear things like that. Only success preachings on how to make it and be successful in life etc.

As if the woman is not a human being too.

Godmystrength: You are right. We had our women's convention the weekend in my church and the speaker that was invited on Sunday was just talking about women this women that bla bla bla. With all the men in attendance o. Saying things like what's in the OP and only one line for the men begging them to love their wives. You can imagine an irresponsible man in the congregation who will now go home and be trying to enforce what the speaker has said without any plan of changing his ways. he will now see the wife as not submissive. Whereas, when the men have their programmes, for the ones they manage to invite us(women), you will not hear things like that. Only success preachings on how to make it and be successful in life etc.

As if the woman is not a human being too.

SAMBARRY: You have time to be going to such meetings. I don't bother wasting hours of my time listening to such. I'll rather be sleeping

bukatyne:
I would never waste my weekend for such meetings unless my week was too exciting and I need something to dull it

dBard:

The mistake I see everyone making everytime, is to think issues like submission, love, respect, etc is 'Give and Take' ..
submission IS a commandment (esp f Christians) n it should b adhered to, if u choose to, Wholly irrespective of whether the recipient is appreciative or deserves it or not.
'Love ur wife as Christ Loves d church', is Unconditional and my inability to do so is a failure on my part and it is something to Strive towards.
It Is a tin of choice.

Should a woman give herself wen upset? sex is Mutual n it Is Wrong for her to do so wen she's actually Not giving herself to him. a woman in that sort of situation can calmly n respectfully decline. .or something.

The story of Smith Wigglesworths wife exemplifies wat d o.p is talking about ..I.m.o

dBard:

The mistake I see everyone making everytime, is to think issues like submission, love, respect, etc is 'Give and Take' ..
submission IS a commandment (esp f Christians) n it should b adhered to, if u choose to, Wholly irrespective of whether the recipient is appreciative or deserves it or not.
'Love ur wife as Christ Loves d church', is Unconditional and my inability to do so is a failure on my part and it is something to Strive towards.
It Is a tin of choice.

Should a woman give herself wen upset? sex is Mutual n it Is Wrong for her to do so wen she's actually Not giving herself to him. a woman in that sort of situation can calmly n respectfully decline. .or something.

The story of Smith Wigglesworths wife exemplifies wat d o.p is talking about ..I.m.o

purplesummer: Thanks OP.
Oya, where's my prince charming? Time to treat you like a king.

Godmystrength: The speaker was invited on sunday and it was during the main sunday service. So she was the one that more or less preached that day.

Amya: Reverence. . . That word. Well I think it's wronng in this context. Reverence is not 'submitting', mind you. Using that word for God is okay but using that for a fellow man though your husband, and one that upset you at that is just pushing it.

I'm up for couples resolving whatever issue they maybe having in a mature and respective way. It's only natural though that the upset party get it off their chest even if it means yelling.

Amya: Reverence. . . That word. Well I think it's wronng in this context. Reverence is not 'submitting', mind you. Using that word for God is okay but using that for a fellow man though your husband, and one that upset you at that is just pushing it.

I'm up for couples resolving whatever issue they maybe having in a mature and respective way. It's only natural though that the upset party get it off their chest even if it means yelling.

Godmystrength: We are all striving to do our best but it is just unfair when all you hear around is as if it only the woman that has to make the marriage work.
e.g,
question - why do some men gain weight after marriage?
most response - because their WIVES overfeed them, or feed them with nonsense. (wives' fault)
question - why do some women gain weight after marriage?
most response - because they seat around doing nothing and just eating all day and are just lazy to keep fit. (wives' fault)

For marriage to work, both parties must play their part and not just leave the whole burden on one of the spouse.

Amya: Reverence. . . That word. Well I think it's wronng in this context. Reverence is not 'submitting', mind you. Using that word for God is okay but using that for a fellow man though your husband, and one that upset you at that is just pushing it.

I'm up for couples resolving whatever issue they maybe having in a mature and respective way. It's only natural though that the upset party get it off their chest even if it means yelling.

Amya: Reverence. . . That word. Well I think it's wronng in this context. Reverence is not 'submitting', mind you. Using that word for God is okay but using that for a fellow man though your husband, and one that upset you at that is just pushing it.

I'm up for couples resolving whatever issue they maybe having in a mature and respective way. It's only natural though that the upset party get it off their chest even if it means yelling.

softy:

My adorable purpleberry, I am here oooooo!.....lolzzz

matify:

I am a married man and a christian at that but I am a rational being and I will not for any privilege it confers on me subscribe to those teachings and advise which impose what I cannot give on my wife because" it is written" .

When s*ex is not given consentually but begrudgingly
when one party is upset still defines as RAPE.

Lawyers in the house, am I right or RIGHT?