Is it my parents or all Nigerian parents are like that.

Seriously, my parents are always on my back about everything. I can't even go anywhere without them calling and yelling and screaming for me to return home especially my mother.

My father really doesn't care. All he'll do is look at you and treaten to take my back to a boarding school in Nigeria. It's annoying.

My bestfriend is Nigerian also but her mother is the one being over-protective.

My cousin's and some of our Nigerian friends do the same thing.

Seriously is it just my family parents and my bestfriends/friends parents that are like that or Nigerian parents?

where do you live?

The case for me growing up wa sthat they were *nazis* when we lived here but when we were sent to Naija for secondary school, we could do whatever the hell we wanted

Apparently they believed roaming around in Naija was safer than in the states. Plus you are around fellow Nigerians so they're no "negative influences", yes parents can be that naive.

not all nigerian parents. My father was like a gestapo and the house was a wide prison. You couldnt even go fetch your ball across the street without permission.

gone are the days . . .

@ Topic,

Yea sometimes parents tend to be overly protective and over bearing. . . . .

and when u look at what goes on in the outside world these days u can't blame them. . .

I guess the best way to handle the whole thing is to prove to them that

u can be trusted and then with time hopefully they'll relax. . . .  

My mom can finagle anything out of anyone. . . she asks one question and you find yourself confessing to crap you did when you were 10 and this is on the phone coz she is in Nigeria!!!!

Someday when I have enough money, I'm gonna have our house swept for listening device because I am sure that woman has bugs all over the place.

So Ify, trust me. . . it's not just your parents and it probably is worse because you are a girl. My younger brother comes and goes as he pleases and no one bats an eye, my older brothers even egg him.

So uncool!

KarmaMod:

where do you live?

The case for me growing up wa sthat they were *nazis* when we lived here but when we were sent to Naija for secondary school, we could do whatever the hell we wanted

Apparently they believed roaming around in Naija was safer than in the states. Plus you are around fellow Nigerians so they're no "negative influences", yes parents can be that naive.

I live in America for the time being. We plan on movingback to Naija. And your right, when i'm in Naija my parents could careless what time i'm outside as long as i'm with a friend or so. If i'm by myself that's another chapter. It's like they believe Nigeria streets is safer than America(I grew up in Naija and i know that's not true).

@poster
There is nothing wrong with it just go to the inner city and you would find out and really appreciate your parents more.

I grew up in Nigeria and Beleive me my parents are very strict. You know In other countries you cant flog children

But growing up in Naija, My dad flogged the Hell out of Me!!!!

I was so convinced they adopted me cos I can't imagine you beating your own child the way I was.

hahaha, my dad was a dictator.

When ever he was around everyone behaved and if mama had any negative reports for him about you, you did pray that the sun stood still so that he doesn't return from work that day.

Anyway, in regards to why they may be more protective in foreign lands, i think it has something to do with the possibility of lossing a child in a foreign land; which in igbo land it's somewhat of an abormination for a nwadiala to die in a foreign land.

Baby Jinx:

My mom can finagle anything out of anyone. . . she asks one question and you find yourself confessing to crap you did when you were 10 and this is on the phone because she is in Nigeria!!!!

Someday when I have enough money, I'm going to have our house swept for listening device because I am sure that woman has bugs all over the place.

So Ify, trust me. . . it's not just your parents and it probably is worse because you are a girl. My younger brother comes and goes as he pleases and no one bats an eye, my older brothers even egg him.

So uncool!

DavidDylan:

not all nigerian parents. My father was like a gestapo and the house was a wide prison. You couldnt even go fetch your ball across the street without permission. 

gone are the days . . .

KarmaMod:

where do you live?

The case for me growing up wa sthat they were *nazis* when we lived here but when we were sent to Naija for secondary school, we could do whatever the hell we wanted

Apparently they believed roaming around in Naija was safer than in the states. Plus you are around fellow Nigerians so they're no "negative influences", yes parents can be that naive.

ALL FOR YOUR GOOD AND DONE MOSTLY BECAUSE THEY  LOVE YOU AND WANTED THE BEST FOR YOU.  BE THANKFULL YOU GUYS TURNED OUT GOOD.  MOST KIDS WHO NEVER GOTT THAT ARE MOSTLY JAIL BIRDS TODAY. JUMPING FROM ONE TROUBLE TO THE OTHER
@ JINX. it has nothing to do with bugs. it comes from experience. dont forget they were once young too. they know most things you think they dont know. my granny was one clever spy. she could read you like a book. we always tot she was every where.

I can't remember my dad flogging me, except once when I called my sister a bastard. My dad said his dad never flogged him and he doesn't believe in corporal punishment himself.

My mum? Everything, from slaps to a karate kick don land on me.

4 Play:

My mum? Everything, from slaps to a karate kick don land on me.

Well deserved Im sure

KarmaMod:

Well deserved I'm sure

Considering how relatively well behaved I was, don't think so.

I'm against corporal punishment though, didn't do me any good.

Im sure she wouldnt have karate chopped you if you were "well behaved" 4Play

so shush

Would have had you despatched to Helen Ukpabio's nursery myself, TOH.

Naija parents are overbearing but they do ''over pamper'' us in return. Many Naija guys are still living with their parents right into their 30s.

The day my mom will stop being over protective, that day, I go kill 10 cows

When I remember some of the flogging I got as I youth I still feel like crying.

if it were to be in the US, My dad would surely be in jail for child abuse.

Anytime my dad came in, you must always have a Physics, Chemistry or Mathematics book on your laps.

One day i ran home to watch soccer(Africa 95: Nigeria vs Mali) and he made me back the TV while the match was on.

sleekdot:

When I remember some of the flogging I got as I youth I still feel like crying.

if it were to be in the US, My dad would surely be in jail for child abuse.

Anytime my dad came in, you must always have a Physics, Chemistry or Mathematics book on your laps.

One day i ran home to watch soccer(Africa 95: Nigeria vs Mali) and he made me back the TV while the match was on.

rotflmao

roflol

sleekdot:

When I remember some of the flogging I got as I youth I still feel like crying.

if it were to be in the US, My dad would surely be in jail for child abuse.

Anytime my dad came in, you must always have a Physics, Chemistry or Mathematics book on your laps.

One day i ran home to watch soccer(Africa 95: Nigeria vs Mali) and he made me back the TV while the match was on.

Those beating and flogging of those days made us wht we are today unlike wht we see around us as today's kids.
@ poster.
A pig asked the mother why her mouth was the way it is and the mother pig told her to chill down when she grows she will understand why.
I believe when you experience wht it takes to have a kid, you will then decide either to overprotect them or leave them live carelessly

dayokanu:

I grew up in Nigeria and Beleive me my parents are very strict. You know In other countries you can't flog children

But growing up in Naija, My dad flogged the Hell out of Me!!!!

I was so convinced they adopted me because I can't imagine you beating your own child the way I was.

Now i know why you are twisted.
U prolly took more beatings than u shoulda taken.

Nigerian parents are just

Sauron,
Unlike your parents who gave up on you earlier when they discovered you were a lost case

dayokanu:

Sauron,
Unlike your parents who gave up on you earlier when they discovered you were a lost case

I wasn't a silly hilly billy like u. I had the freedom to do whatever i wanted.
As the only son in the house, chores flew over me head like i had no business with em.
I could go anywhere as long as i returned b4 10 pm.

i tire for the matter o, i'm over 18(shame will not let me say my age here sef!) and when i'm in town and i want to stay at my friends place my mum always wants to talk to his friends mum(one of these days i'll tell her mummy dont worry her mom is in the kitchen i'll tell her to tell her mom to call u bak when she's done---she'll throw a fit, lol)

lol

netotse:

i tire for the matter o, i'm over 18(shame will not let me say my age here sef!) and when i'm in town and i want to stay at my friends place my mum always wants to talk to his friends mum(one of these days i'll tell her mummy don't worry her mom is in the kitchen i'll tell her to tell her mom to call u bak when she's done---she'll throw a fit, lol)

Lol

@topic

It would be worse if you eventually move to Nigeria!!!

my parents were overprotective. well, looking back i'd say great job but back then i didn't like it. interesting while i was leaving my parents were crying saying who is going to protect me over there now haha. i told them well i got to go or i'd lose the award. the free full education package was just too much to ignore over a doting parents.

i think the overprotective nature of our parents is preventing the spirit of adventure most africans lack am i correct?

I wasn't a silly hilly billy like u. I had the freedom to do whatever i wanted.
As the only son in the house, chores flew over me head like i had no business with em.
I could go anywhere as long as i returned before 10 pm.

The freedom you had didnt help you and the community at all. Thats why you are so spoilt and rotten

@all replies

laffin my ass out

especially d guy dat said he was convinced, he was adopted
gosh i don la ff tire

iice:

My parents are sort of cool.
My dad is mellow but straightforward, my mom is more of the disciplinarian and a perfectionist.  She too talk - i dreaded those.  We always had some extent of freedom as kids.  And boy did we have some fun. She was more strict than over protective we used to think back then. But then again, we are very stubborn so she needed to be strict.  Thankfully she has mellowed down now through some moves like that

haha, yeh my mum had a lecture for every occasion when I did something wrong. Sometimes I felt like saying "just give me the beating and let me go!" lol