For Jules Pomerance, walking around
without a stitch on in front of her son
Jordan is the most natural thing in the
world.
The mother-of-three happily potters round
the house in the nude, doesn’t wrap a towel
around herself when she leaves the
bathroom after a shower and she and
husband Nigel often enjoy a naked snuggle
in bed with Jordan and his sisters.
But Jordan isn’t a baby or a toddler — he’s
13.

Many will find his mother’s actions
unsettling and say it’s time she started
covering up in front of him. Some experts
even believe she risks causing long-term
psychological damage to her son.
Jules, from Hertfordshire, is adamant she’s
doing nothing wrong. ‘I see no reason to
stop as Jordan gets older,’ the 44-year-old
insists.
‘Nudity has nothing whatever to do with sex
as far as I’m concerned, and as our son
has already reached puberty it’s not going
to make any difference now. If anything, I
think that “normalising” nudity is the best
way of countering the over-sexualisation of
our children.

‘Of course, if Jordan asked me to put some
clothes on I would respect that. But so far
he has always felt comfortable with it.
‘As a family we are frequently naked
around the house, especially in the
mornings when the children get into bed for
a cuddle with my husband and me.’
So is Jules right? Are we nothing more than
a country of prudes where even though it’s
easy for boys to access graphic pornography
— displaying unnaturally hairless and
artificially enhanced young women’s bodies
— in seconds on mobile phones and laptops,
it’s frowned upon for them to see their own
mothers’ naked bodies?
Is it unhealthy for boys to see their mothers
undressed once they have reached puberty
or, indeed, at any age? Is there a right
time to cover up in front of your son?
Jules, who runs her own face and body
painting business and is married to Nigel, a
45-year-old jeweller, cannot remember
her own parents ever being naked in front
of her — the closest she got was one
holiday, when she says: ‘I remember
walking into our hotel room when my father
was getting dressed and him moving behind
an armchair so I wouldn’t see him without
his trousers on.’
She has never had any inhibitions about
showing her body. Given her own upbringing,
she has no idea where her relaxed attitude
towards nudity comes from, but says she
hopes her daughters Daisy, ten, and Lily,
seven, will share her confidence.
‘I’m not a supermodel — I have a scar on
my tummy from having a Caesarean with
Jordan and like most mums I’ve got my fair
share of stretch marks.
‘But I am happy with my own body and
always have been. Nudity is very normal to
me.
‘One reason I’m keen for my daughters to
see me naked was because, last year, Lily
started to comment that her thighs looked
fat. I was horrified and wanted to show her
that people come in all shapes and sizes
and that no one looks like they do in
fashion magazines, not even the models
themselves.’
Jules also hopes that seeing her naked will
help her teenage son to have a more
realistic view of women’s bodies when he’s
older. She says: ‘The women Jordan sees in
magazines are airbrushed versions of the
female form. I hope seeing the real thing
will help.’
But is it possible that her behaviour might
ultimately be harmful?
Scientists who have explored the subject
suggest the age you start covering up may
be key. One U.S. study found exposure to
parental unclothedness for those aged six or
under had benefits when it came to their
capacity for affection and intimacy as
adults.
But another found that boys who saw their
parents in the nude from the ages of six to
11 were more likely to have permissive
attitudes towards sexuality and more sexual
partners.
Sexual and relationship psychotherapist
Margaret Ramage believes that given the
special bond between mothers and their
sons there are risks for boys who see their
mothers naked after they are about eight.
‘Although there is nothing intrinsically
“wrong” in nudity between family members,
it can have effects we cannot predict,’ she
says.
‘Neuroscientists have found there is a sexual
template in the brain that begins to develop
around seven or eight in a boy, and it might
be inhibited by the sight of his mother’s
naked body, which could possibly affect him
in later life.
‘The brain has its own ways of dealing with
such things, often not under our own
control. As a therapist I have seen adult
men who slept in their mothers’ beds in
their teenage years and who later
complained of a complete lack of sexual
desire. Although it’s not conclusive evidence
it is enough to alert one to the possible
dangers.’
She adds: ‘If nudity were a totally non-
sexual matter we wouldn’t be thinking about
this. But in our culture, nudity is very much
a sexual matter, with mystery, excitement
and arousal all linked to it. Generally, it is
important that children are not exposed to
adult sexuality in any form.’

Jordan says he supports his mother’s
attitude to nudity, and doesn’t feel it’s
anything unnatural.
‘I honestly don’t feel at all embarrassed
about seeing my mum naked. It’s not as if
she just suddenly started doing it. It is just
normal in our house,’ he says, adding that
he wouldn’t feel comfortable seeing a
friend’s mother naked.
But that’s unlikely, as Jordan admits: ‘Most
of my friends’ families are not like mine.
‘If mates come over unexpectedly I
wouldn’t just take them up to my room
without calling out, “Is everyone decent?”
first. But I think it’s good to be relaxed
about nudity in the family and will probably
do the same with my children when I grow
up.’

Sex therapist Sarah Fletcher says there are
benefits for children who see their parents
naked.
‘I think up until adolescence it is helpful
for children to see their parents in the
nude as it models a positive attitude
towards their bodies,’ she says.
‘It helps prevent them growing up believing
their own bodies are in some sense
shameful. But in puberty I think there
need to be more boundaries and respect for
what they might feel is awkward or
embarrassing.’
Parenting coach Judy Reith says teenage
boys usually indicate when it’s time to start
covering up. ‘They suddenly begin shutting
doors, finding it embarrassing if their mum
is wandering around naked,’ she says.
‘Adolescence is a time of huge emotional
and mental turmoil. It is tough enough for
today’s teens outside of home, so I would
encourage mothers to be sensitive to their
teenager’s reaction to unclothedness. It’s a
normal part of growing up.’
Mother-of-three Karen King, 44, considers
herself open-minded, but stopped letting
her sons see her naked when they were
seven or eight.
Karen, a director of her own estate agency,
who lives near Leatherhead, Surrey, with
husband Ray, 57, a communications
consultant, says: ‘I’ve always believed it’s
important to treat nudity in a way that
removes any stigma and ensures my
children feel confident in their bodies. The
trick is to know when a line has to be drawn
in respect of their bodies and your own.’
Karen is mum to James, 20, who’s studying
chemistry at Oxford University, Sarah, 18,
who has just secured a place at Oxford
Brookes to study psychology, and Daniel, 14.
She adds: ‘Until they were seven or eight,
my body, naked or otherwise, had been a
source of essential comfort for my sons.
After all, it had nurtured all three
children through pregnancy and then
breastfeeding.
‘I’ve aIways slept naked and I treasured
those skin-on-skin cuddles with them when
they were very small — medical experts say
it encourages a close bond and feelings of
security between parent and child. I’d pad
around the bedroom naked in front of
them, or share baths with them. They were
totally at ease running about with no
clothes on.’

But she says by the time James and Daniel
each got to around seven or eight their
hormones were starting to kick in and if a
woman appeared on the TV screen in a
bikini they were ‘all eyes’.
She adds: ‘With the internet, film and TV,
it’s very easy for boys to find images of
women naked or scantily clad so, sadly,
they seem to be more sexually aware at a
younger age now.
‘So when James was about eight I decided
that I needed to cover up.

‘Suddenly, I felt there needed to be a
demarcation between my body as their
mummy and the bodies of other women as
objects of desire.
‘There was a growing awareness that my
sons knew too much about the female body
as a sexual form and that I was their
mother and needed to be in a different
category.
‘I wanted to maintain a respectful
perception of me as their mother.
‘So although I still sleep naked and walk
round with nothing on in front of Ray, now
I always grab a bathrobe before leaving the
bedroom and shut the door before getting
changed.
‘An added factor in covering up was the
need for my sons to understand that they
must respect their sister’s need for privacy
about her body and all its changes as she
got older, too.’
She adds: ‘Around seven and eight was also
the age Daniel and James started to feel
more awkward about me seeing them naked,
too.
‘If Daniel catches sight of me in my bra
and knickers he’s mortified and says: “Oh,
Mum, cover up!”
‘While I respect other mothers who continue
to be open with their unclothedness in front of
their sons, I think they are removing the
thrill and anticipation of discovery that is
part of the relationships their sons will
eventually have with their future partners
or wives.’
Sexual and relationship therapist Margaret
Ramage agrees and thinks mothers of sons
should be aware of the possible
consequences of their actions. She says:
‘Once a boy reaches puberty it is much
harder to know what the long-term effects
of seeing his mother naked might be.’

source: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2736090/The-mother-s-proud-parade-naked-13-year-old-son.html?ito=social-facebook

Ops,
Haaaaaaaaaa! Too long oooooo. My eyes dey pepper me oooooo . Abeg,summarize. Will come back to comment.
thanks in advance

@OP: Pic(s) pls.

You know the saying..."A picture says a thousand words" or something similar.

this post is longer than a list of hell-bound people

This op sef, you expect me to read this epistle?

Pics or itdidnthapp u n

Seeing unclad bodies of relatives can usually be awkward especially for teens who are starting to experience and notice sexxual changes in their own bodies.

I do not support the overly liberal tone and disposition of the family in the article regarding nudity, but heck it's their business at the end of the day if everyone involved is comfortable with it.

Summmarize in one sentence please

In some cultures being na.ked in front of family members is very normal.

I refused to read the entire post. Kilode ?

She is a disciplinarian GOAT.

carefreewannabe: In some cultures being na.ked in front of family members is very normal.

in most cultures being na.ked in front of family members is very abnormal

careytommy:
in most cultures being na.ked in front of family members is very abnormal

So?

too loooong pls!

An epistle that long and no picture




I will pass

We didn't ask you for the long post all we need is evidence to back this up! Pictures bro pictures!

all this long story and no pics of her uncladness ....mtcheww

seankay: We didn't ask you for the long post all we need is evidence to back this up! Pictures bro pictures!

exactly!

Scumbag

I was expecting to see a picture of the naaked mother and son.

The next news we'll be reading is: Son, 15, impregnates Mother.

The mother is senseless.

Post toooooo long. Can't read it now.

I have a friend, 30 yrs of age who still goes around butt nekkid at home. She is not the only one. Her father, mother, sisters and brothers go around the house in their birthday suits.

Personally I don't see anything wrong with it. To each his own.

Ishilove: I have a friend, 30 yrs of age who still goes around butt nekkid at home. She is not the only one. Her father, mother, sisters and brothers go around the house in their birthday suits.

Personally I don't see anything wrong with it. To each his own.

For real?

Tallesty1: For real?

Yep

Was expecting to see a picture,am seriously disappointed.

Why dem no write their family biography and history join.
I was reading and reading with no end in sight.
Mtchew.

Anyway I think this woman is probably killing her sons' desire for sex when they grow up.
My opinion.

benELOHIM7: this post is longer than a list of hell-bound people

lmfao

seankay: We didn't ask you for the long post all we need is evidence to back this up! Pictures bro pictures!

All am saying ...

The woman has a point sha.

Iberibe!

carefreewannabe: In some cultures being na.ked in front of family members is very normal.

I'm sure being näked is normal in your family!