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Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by Baro(m): 9:41pm On Oct 28, 2008 |
I had this impression that second wives are always evil, jealous and troublesome, but presently i have a neighbour who is a third wife, from what i observed from our few contacts as neighbours , i think she is humble and respectful. I can hardly see any "second wife" trait in her. So i was actually wondering if its morally right or wrong for a woman to be a second wife or third wife as the case may be, considering the fact that some so called second wives could actually be good and morally upright persons whose marital status was occasioned by circumstances. What do you think |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by igwe11(m): 9:55pm On Oct 28, 2008 |
It has to do with nature and environment,good girl remains good either as first,second or third wife while atimes the environment might play its parts in changing the IQ of d girl forcing her into standing up to d challenges of polygamy (this means the problem is probably not from her but from the previous wife/wives). In another context for non moslems , woman can either be the second wife when she fails to get d first class position in a home;menace from bad character. so this type ended up as a second wife with their poisonous character. I shall stop here 4 now. Regards, I |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by Nobody: 9:56pm On Oct 28, 2008 |
I would rather be unmarried for the rest of my life than be a second wife, haba 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by whatever90(f): 10:20pm On Oct 28, 2008 |
each man to one wife,but pple have turned everything upside down wt their stupidities |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by tope2000(f): 10:25pm On Oct 28, 2008 |
Second wife ko |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by igwe11(m): 10:33pm On Oct 28, 2008 |
In addition to what i ve said, If I were to be a lady, i would prefer to be the first and the only wife. But atimes one can't predict except for d devoted Christian families |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by whatever90(f): 10:34pm On Oct 28, 2008 |
tope2000: but u r,cos stephen is already married to rebellious still u dey chook ur nose |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by tope2000(f): 10:36pm On Oct 28, 2008 |
whatever90: Im still not second wifey oo I allowed stephen to marry the girl because i like her n plus they both live in US, u see im a considerate pesin |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by naijababe2(f): 11:50pm On Oct 28, 2008 |
no it ain't right to be a 2nd wife. 2nd wife? whats the woman thinking of? |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by ifyalways(f): 12:34am On Oct 29, 2008 |
It depends sha though i can't be one @OP No,its not wrong. |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by Andala: 1:13am On Oct 29, 2008 |
No,a second wife is an Adultress that needs to get her own husband,It's written in the bible |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by virgie(f): 1:39am On Oct 29, 2008 |
Once came across a guy who wanted me for a second wife cos he found after marriage that they were both AS. so he wanted me to have kids for him. Of course I said No, cos it diidn't feel right to me playing a second fiddle by being a second wife. |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by BabyJinx: 1:54am On Oct 29, 2008 |
Baro: Of course third wives are okay, it’s the second and fourth ones that are bad. It is that their yeye even number trait. You know what that is right. . . I’m talking about the “2nd wife trait” you were expecting in the 3rd wife. The most devilish of them wives is the 16th wife because she is even number 3 times over. . . ya know 8, 4 and 2. Me, I advice men everywhere to stay away from 16th wife, if you can skip to 17 wife, do so without batting an eye. [size=3pt]Rotflmao, Osirisiri on NL. What is 2nd wife trait? Are you born with it or is it nurtured?[/size] @ Igwe1 Mr. Igwe it's so nice to see you on the romance section. Awwww! A man who isn't adverse to learning how to romance that special one. Goodness, I am teary eyed, right now. You know who is sooo lucky!! |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by Morenike3(f): 1:57am On Oct 29, 2008 |
Second wife? rotflmao. He dares not |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by savanaha: 1:57am On Oct 29, 2008 |
Baby Jinx:This was funny as hell! They should stay away from the 2, 4,6, 8, 10 only marry odd numbered wives. They can do it I believe in them I can't believe this is being discussed. Second and third wives still exist in Naija? When will men learn, one is not enough they want 2, 3, 4, 5 trouble. |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by Angolobabe(f): 6:14am On Oct 29, 2008 |
cant be one thats trouble.nigeria men needs to change. |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by ashe2(f): 9:12am On Oct 29, 2008 |
do u know the first wife is considered as the wife and the others are not? i think its pathetic bin second wife |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by bigfather(m): 9:47am On Oct 29, 2008 |
ashe2: Not in most cases, cus i could remember the former lagos state military administrator Col Buba Marwa, he goes to any function with both wives and they take turn to represent him anywhere . whatever90:It is wrong to call it stupidity, are you aware that some religions allows marrying more than one wife ? So long as you can take care of them. And some circumstances may warrant you having more than one. But come to think of it,what about guys who go about having xtra marital affairs, are they better of ? |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by Nobody: 10:12am On Oct 29, 2008 |
I dont think its that bad, being a second wife. Some religion and traditions permit it, so It cant be wrong. Though personally I wont do that, but I dont condemn those who do and I dont see them as 'bad'. |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by chisomquee: 3:09pm On Oct 29, 2008 |
it is not acceptable,i will always be first not second handed,used wife. |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by ayomifull(f): 6:18pm On Oct 29, 2008 |
I HEARD YARADUA AND GOODLUCK ARE LOOKING FOR SECOND WIFEYS, ANYONE INTERESTED? |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by libertyinc: 6:57pm On Oct 29, 2008 |
forget about the issue of being a second wife.we are supposed to promote fidelity in marriage and not promote it.the issue of second wife is suppose to be completely out of the question, IF YOU ARE A CHRISTIAN!!!.Being a second wife means yu are interfering with somebody's marriage and we all know that ''WHAT GOD HAS PUT TOGETHER LET NO MAN PUT ASUNDER''.i am yet to see any polygamous family that experiences peace,even if there seems to be hamony amongst wives.because as soon as the man dies,u will know that the so called peace was absolutely false.''A WORD IS ENOUGH FOR THE WISE'' and ''HE THAT HATH AN EAR LET HIM HEAR''.don't be a second wife.u'll be doing yourself more harm than good[/color][color=#000099] |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by webman(m): 7:09pm On Oct 29, 2008 |
2nd wife or 86th wife as a case in Niger, More than one wife is way of enslaving womanhood and disrespect women all over the world, Sincerely speaking, any man with more than a wife is a cheat, a liar and absolutely irresponsible and you should check the lifestyle of such man. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by igwe11(m): 7:19pm On Oct 29, 2008 |
Its rather unfortunate to be the second wife unless the man is widower |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by vivaladiva(f): 7:42pm On Oct 29, 2008 |
am always happy to be a second wife, so long as i can also have a second husband and maybe a few concubines |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by webman(m): 8:20pm On Oct 29, 2008 |
vivaladiva, the foundation of home will be affected with your theory |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by rubi(f): 8:29pm On Oct 29, 2008 |
As for me I must be the first and the last @Topic If that makes you happy and comfortable that ok |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by webman(m): 9:02pm On Oct 29, 2008 |
rubi, To maintain a woman's dignity you are very right |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by sistajay(f): 9:54pm On Oct 29, 2008 |
I can NEVER be second best in a man's life. |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by Vannesa(f): 10:24pm On Oct 29, 2008 |
Which kind second wife,second ko,second ni.Am certainly not a party to such marriage.lets be real it doesnt pay at last |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by spikedcylinder: 11:34am On Oct 30, 2008 |
webman: Of course it would be. Yet the man having more than one wife firmly roots the foundation of a home in place. Good thinking webman, good thinking. |
Re: Is It Right To Be A Second Wife? by lucabrasi(m): 1:08pm On Oct 30, 2008 |
its not right,im from a polygamous family and i can tell you that you might see them all getting along but there are always undercurrents,tensions in the house,petty jelousy envy e.t.c and this is assuming money isnt an issue |
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