A friend of mine is going through a bitter divorce. Her husband is a dog. She has caught her husband many times in hotels with different women. The last one was she caught her husband bleeping a girl in his office. Now she filed for a divorce many of her church members ate condemning her for seeking to divorce her husband. They opined that its unforgiving unchristian and ungodly to seek for divorce. They advised her to pray to God for a changed life.

I thought I read that the only ground for divorce is adultery. So why the fuss?

Every cheating dog deserves to be killed and fed to the vultures.

If you've vowed that you'll stick together for better for worse , i dont know why ordinary cheating should call for divorce of one's partner.

Here we go again....

Christianity bashing,Male bashing
All in the mix


Yes she is allowed to divorce on grounds of Infidelity


If she is convinced she is right, let her divorce for her sanity and sexüal health. Its her life..people will talk

Even a head pastor's(oyakhilome) wife is divorcing.. So what's the big deal.

Because religious faith without common sense makes someone a zombie.

Caseless2: If you've vowed that you'll stick together for better for worse , i dont know why ordinary cheating should call for divorce of one's partner.

which vow? I dont know what is wrong with u Christians. Someone is cheating and get caught many times and he dont realise his sins. And u still want his wife to stand there? What if he infect her with hiv, std and the latest one EBOLA.

Caseless2: If you've vowed that you'll stick together for better for worse , i dont know why ordinary cheating should call for divorce of one's partner.

Wow! How convenient that the cheating should be ordinary. Not surprised at the gender such a statement is coming from. Cheating is cheating. There is nothing ordinary about it. Even if males are sometimes excused as being ''polygamous'',cheating ruins so many years of hardwork,efforts,sacrifices. Cheating is absolutely wrong. One question for u. What wld u do if ur wife cheats on u continously? Dn't tell me ur answer. Tell yourself.
@ Topic,i'm sure the bible allowed marital seperation on basis of adultery. If seperation wld give her peace of mind,she should go ahead. By the time the man wld infect her with HIV or ebola,i'm sure the church members will be the first to stigmatize. Abeggi!

Christainity condemns adultery in strong terms;“‘If a man commits adultery with another man’s wife—with the wife of his neighbor—both the adulterer and the adulteress are to be put to death.


dultery
27 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’[e] 28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. 30 And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.

Divorce
31 “It has been said, ‘Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.’[f] 32 But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery

However, it is human hypocrisy that is in play in cases like this where people choose verses that soothes their own purpose and ignore the ones that tells then the truth.

If you read the history of the Israelis you will find that men would put away their wives for no just reason after taking her youth and virginity hence God said do not leave the wife of your youth and he hates divorce because of its abuse at that time. It was the same abuse of the divorce process that made Jesus say only adultery can be a good reason for divorce to minimise the cases of divorce.
Then a man could write his wife a decree of divorce just because he felt like it with or without justification.

As for the church people they are just people that they are in church without understanding fully the words of God doesn't actually make them christains. Every human has their bias, a Christian in as much would avoid a situation where a couple would have to divorce would still go back to the bible and understand that sometimes divorce needs to happen for the safety and sanity of a couple and will not judge or condemn the parties involved.

What's the question here? Is this thread about the title of the topic or the story itself? Because both are different.

God does not want divorce because He expects love and forgiveness to rule marriages.However,divorce is permitted on grounds of adultery.It's practical because it puts the health of the partner at risk and ruins so many things.

Divorce is not the first option but if after periods of trying to make things work and there is no change,divorce can be the last resort.

Even one of the girls she nyashed will file for divorce when her husbdand cheats on her.


Women are wonderful creatures.


I can't tolerate a cheating partner and my spouse is 100% free to file for divorce if I cheat on her.

GentleMimi:
Wow! How convenient that the cheating should be ordinary. Not surprised at the gender such a statement is coming from. Cheating is cheating. There is nothing ordinary about it. Even if males are sometimes excused as being ''polygamous'',cheating ruins so many years of hardwork,efforts,sacrifices. Cheating is absolutely wrong. One question for u. What wld u do if ur wife cheats on u continously? Dn't tell me ur answer. Tell yourself.
@ Topic,i'm sure the bible allowed marital seperation on basis of adultery. If seperation wld give her peace of mind,she should go ahead. By the time the man wld infect her with HIV or ebola,i'm sure the church members will be the first to stigmatize. Abeggi!

dis gal don come back and, na me she come start with.
Of all bad things in a marriage and having vowed to ignore them for better...for worse, i think adultery is the list on the rank considering the fact that men are polygamous by nature. Besides, the men use condom whenever they go on cheating spree. So fear no HIV, but ebola(cos in this case u have to wear complete protective gear to avoid being infected).
NB: TRUCKPUSHER de look for u.

Caseless2: dis gal don come back and, na me she come start with.
Of all bad things in a marriage and having vowed to ignore them for better...for worse, i think adultery is the list on the rank considering the fact that men are polygamous by nature. Besides, the men use condom whenever they go on cheating spree. So fear no HIV, but ebola(cos in this case u have to wear complete protective gear to avoid being infected).
NB: TRUCKPUSHER de look for u.

@ first bolded,LMAO!
@ second bolded,tripple bullshiiit. Stop tripping over dog shiiit. ''Polygamous in nature''. Oh yeah,we ladies can decide to be biiitches by nature too. A man who has self-control and self-worth never makes excuses for adultery.
NB: i steal hin prick?

Caseless2: If you've vowed that you'll stick together for better for worse , i dont know why ordinary cheating should call for divorce of one's partner.

Which one is ordinary cheating again?

E no get wetin person no go hear for this world!

GentleMimi:
@ first bolded,LMAO!
@ second bolded,tripple bullshiiit. Stop tripping over dog shiiit. ''Polygamous in nature''. Oh yeah,we ladies can decide to be biiitches by nature too. A man who has self-control and self-worth never makes excuses for adultery.
NB: i steal hin prick?

dont go this path. When ladies decide to be b1tches , they wear out easily. As in u grow old quickly if u sample every man out there. Men live/last long with 'polygamistic' instinct.
As for truck's prick, he said u stole it. Pls return it.

kreamidiva:


Which one is ordinary cheating again?

E no get wetin person no go hear for this world!

it is ordinary compare to other things the 'for better for worse' vow is making u to accomodate.

One thing i know about most of us Christians is that we live in absolute denial.

Things are going wrong,u are seeing it with ur korokoro eyes and u are still making excuses quoting the Bible. That all will be well.


I just distanced myself from a lady who came to give me reasons why i shouldn't separate from my abusive and cheating husband. When i narrated most of my experiences to her,she was screaming. Then after screaming,she would say "but nne,it's not the will of God for u to be separated from your husband. He is your husband, bla bla bla...".

Well,i know my Bible well enough to understand that God Himself was speaking and said "it is not my wish that you perish" and He went ahead to say again "I know the thoughts that I have towards you. Thoughts of good not of evil to bring you to a future and hope".

God has given us the wisdom to take appropriate steps especially when we are in the situation that isn't His will for us.


The blessings of God maketh rich and ADDETH NO SORROW TO IT!

Caseless2: dont go this path. When ladies decide to be b1tches , they wear out easily. As in u grow old quickly if u sample every man out there. Men live/last long with 'polygamistic' instinct.
As for truck's prick, he said u stole it. Pls return it.

Yeye somborri.

Caseless2: it is ordinary compare to other things the 'for better for worse' vow is making u to accomodate.

Hmmm... my brother, none of those "for better for worse" phrases are easy o. And faithfulness to one's partner IMO should be one of the most important aspects of the "for better for worse" vow to be held very close to one's heart.

Caseless2: If you've vowed that you'll stick together for better for worse , i dont know why ordinary cheating should call for divorce of one's partner.

Ordinary cheating? Smh

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kreamidiva: One thing i know about most of us Christians is that we live in absolute denial.

Things are going wrong,u are seeing it with ur korokoro eyes and u are still making excuses quoting the Bible. That all will be well.


I just distanced myself from a lady who came to give me reasons why i shouldn't separate from my abusive and cheating husband. When i narrated most of my experiences to her,she was screaming. Then after screaming,she would say "but nne,it's not the will of God for u to be separated from your husband. He is your husband, bla bla bla...".

Well,i know my Bible well enough to understand that God Himself was speaking and said "it is not my wish that you perish" and He went ahead to say again "I know the thoughts that I have towards you. Thoughts of good not of evil to bring you to a future and hope".

God has given us the wisdom to take appropriate steps especially when we are in the situation that isn't His will for us.


The blessings of God maketh rich and ADDETH NO SORROW TO IT!

It is well with you sis.

Caseless2: If you've vowed that you'll stick together for better for worse , i dont know why ordinary cheating should call for divorce of one's partner.

So cheating is ordinary wow!I've got work to do then.

thorpido: It is well with you sis.

Thank u thorpido.

I do kegels o. They said it's good for pregnant women abi?

smokescreen4: So cheating is ordinary wow!I've got work to do then.

i need a lapdance!

kreamidiva:

Thank u thorpido.

I do kegels o. They said it's good for pregnant women abi?

Not just pregnant women but those who have had children.

Caseless2: i need a lapdance!

nah I will give that cute corper behind my house dat dance, you guys make it easy for married women dis days, unrepentant cheats.

smokescreen4: nah I will give that cute corper behind my house dat dance, you guys make it easy for married women dis days, unrepentant cheats.

i'm a gudman.

Caseless2: i'm a gudman.

Aha

olubukato:

Aha

smokescreen4 must give me a lapdance.

Caseless2: smokescreen4 must give me a lapdance.

In your dreams.

thorpido: Not just pregnant women but those who have had children.

Ok sir.