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Is It Right? by Nobody: 10:40am On Sep 18, 2014 |
I mostly frequent d romance section, nd since am a mother of an 11 year old son, I think its only right for me to also be on d family section too. So here's my problem, tho am not married but I have a kid who is 11 nd he calls me by my name nd some people r like its wrong its wrong, but I don't rily know, how its goin to affect me or if it will, pls can I hear honest opinions 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Right? by MizMyColi(f): 10:45am On Sep 18, 2014 |
In African tradition, calling an elder by name is a taboo, especially in an informal setting. How much more, a mother - married or not. imo, it just doesn't seem and sound right. @Ihedinobi2, please contribute. @Tallesty1, abeg show face. @Temigracie, Softsparkyy, Wait o, hope you're not pulling a rozay this time? 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Right? by kreamidiva(f): 10:47am On Sep 18, 2014 |
I don't think it'll pass o cos the kid is 11yrs old already. Try and make him call you mummy. Being called mummy makes my head swell small. Lol 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right? by Nobody: 10:50am On Sep 18, 2014 |
MizMyColi: In African tradition, calling an elder by name is a taboo, especially in an informal setting.Thank u dear, no o, I woudnt joke in dis section |
Re: Is It Right? by Nobody: 10:51am On Sep 18, 2014 |
kreamidiva: I don't think it'll pass o cos the kid is 11yrs old already.I know mummy sounds nice, but I think it'll make me luk or sound old, lolz so I kind of prefer my name but wen he does dat in public people r like abomination! |
Re: Is It Right? by kreamidiva(f): 10:54am On Sep 18, 2014 |
rozzay: Look or sound old Nah.... it makes you look and sound s£xy...lol |
Re: Is It Right? by Nobody: 10:56am On Sep 18, 2014 |
kreamidiva:Lolz ok, so how do I tell him to start calling me mummy now |
Re: Is It Right? by MizMyColi(f): 10:57am On Sep 18, 2014 |
Oh, Rozzay, you're not bothered. That's cool But that your reason tho' 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right? by MizMyColi(f): 10:58am On Sep 18, 2014 |
rozzay: Reason with him |
Re: Is It Right? by Dayjhihannon01(m): 11:12am On Sep 18, 2014 |
My lil sis is in the same boat with u Rozzay.. Dough her boy is jst around 4.. She calls her Aunty ----... But like he's coming up to call her mummy mi now.. You may not be the one to correct him, maybe one of ur close relations dat is also close to him, may even be neighbours.. They just av to tell him with criousness in their faze ''Sam(knw dats not his name),, She isn't Rozzay, she is mummy, my mummy, mummy mi, momma,''' or whatever u think will be most comfortable for you... Try that and thank me later 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right? by Tallesty1(m): 11:14am On Sep 18, 2014 |
It is common among girls. Some prefer to be called aunt or their real name but methinks it is wrong. He should call you "mummy" married or not and you should be proud of it because it didn't easy. |
Re: Is It Right? by blank(f): 11:25am On Sep 18, 2014 |
Its your life jor. Don't live it by others standards. You have done this for 11 years and all of a sudden you want to change? Whatever rocks your boat. |
Re: Is It Right? by Nobody: 11:25am On Sep 18, 2014 |
Thank u all, ok ill try my best sha |
Re: Is It Right? by kreamidiva(f): 11:30am On Sep 18, 2014 |
rozzay: My daughter was calling me my name too when she was around 2 because everyone around me was calling me my name. So my dad started saying stuff like "mummy xyz, come and carry xyz", then they'll ask her to go and call her mummy. When they finally started calling me mummy xyz, she cued in. |
Re: Is It Right? by Nobody: 11:38am On Sep 18, 2014 |
kreamidiva:Hmmmm, nobody go do dat one for my hus o. Lolz, tho he knows am his moda but d name calling is not just used to him |
Re: Is It Right? by englishmart(m): 11:47am On Sep 18, 2014 |
It seems you are not much older than your son.. He sees you as immature person to call mummy. How come you are just complaining now? This is what you should have tackled long ago.. Or maybe you were shy to be called mummy.? And I think it's getting too late to make amends.. Talk to your son now, and tell him you are his mom. And therefore deserve to be called mummy, and not rozzay. Lol. no time 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right? by Nobody: 11:49am On Sep 18, 2014 |
rozzay: I mostly frequent d romance section, nd since am a mother of an 11 year old son, I think its only right for me to also be on d family section too. So here's my problem, tho am not married but I have a kid who is 11 nd he calls me by my name nd some people r like its wrong its wrong, but I don't rily know, how its goin to affect me or if it will, pls can I hear honest opinions this is aruuu.... rozzay dnt u shunn im or flog im...? |
Re: Is It Right? by Nobody: 11:50am On Sep 18, 2014 |
MizMyColi: In African tradition, calling an elder by name is a taboo, especially in an informal setting. hehehehehe.....Mizmycoli....Am here ooo.. I dont think it is okay if he calls you by her name....It'll get to a time, it'll be very hard to change him....And make him call you mummy... 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right? by Nobody: 11:52am On Sep 18, 2014 |
richommie:Lolz, I don't flog him, I don't bliv in flogging kids, I just shout if am upset with him, he s been calling my name right from wen he started talking so its not a flogging issue |
Re: Is It Right? by Nobody: 11:56am On Sep 18, 2014 |
englishmart: It seems you are not much older than your son..Thank u dear, yep am just like his elder sis cos am in my mid 20s, nd @ first he called my mother mum, but he actually knows am his mum cos I play my modaly roles nd in sch I go dere wen his parents r called so dey all know, but I just tot abt it since am old enof to be married if he calls me my name in front of my hubby will he like it. |
Re: Is It Right? by Nobody: 11:59am On Sep 18, 2014 |
temigracie:Thank u sweets ill start working on it |
Re: Is It Right? by Nobody: 12:01pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
rozzay: -it depends on the type of. man...but if na me......he must change. our tradition dnt accept such!!!! mba! this is nsoala!!!! |
Re: Is It Right? by ihedinobi2: 12:09pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
MizMyColi: In African tradition, calling an elder by name is a taboo, especially in an informal setting.Like you said, it's African. But it's also American...and European...and Oriental....and Asian...oh and Indian too. You'll find that all over the world, there is this common thread running through that younger people address the older with some mark of respect. So it's something about human nature not just African culture. I think your boy needs you to put him in his place, @rozzay. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right? by Nobody: 12:15pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
rozzay: You are welcome, sweets... |
Re: Is It Right? by Nobody: 12:28pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
ihedinobi2:Thank u dear |
Re: Is It Right? by bennyrazz: 12:52pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
I don't know where people get the logic of what is right or wrong from cuz what is right to you might be wrong to others. @op, if you feel comfortable with your son calling you by your name, whats the problem now? oh oh, you were kinda of keeping the identity of him being your son and you being his mother from him for your own selfish purposes and those around you now see it as been odd and insensitive and you want to reverse the trend? like I use to say, some people are the architects of their own problems. 2 Likes |
Re: Is It Right? by Tymax(m): 1:06pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
Hmmm. Someone in your family, or maybe one of your friends has to introduce the mummy thing to him. It'll be weird for you tell him: "Junior, call me mummy." Just saying... I'm really impressed cos you're so open-minded about this. |
Re: Is It Right? by Nobody: 1:53pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
bennyrazz: I don't know where people get the logic of what is right or wrong from cuz what is right to you might be wrong to others. @op, if you feel comfortable with your son calling you by your name, whats the problem now? oh oh, you were kinda of keeping the identity of him being your son and you being his mother from him for your own selfish purposes and those around you now see it as been odd and insensitive and you want to reverse the trend? like I use to say, some people are the architects of their own problems.Bros no con my thread con curse me na, abeg, its like u r misunderstanding me, its d mummy dat is d issue, he very well knows am his moda like I said cos I do my responsibilities as a mum, so don't make conclusions u don't know of ok. Thank u for ur reasonable comment 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right? by thorpido(m): 2:50pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
Get people around you to correct him.Also get them to call you mummy bomboy when around him.He'll get the message with time and change. |
Re: Is It Right? by bennyrazz: 2:51pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
rozzay:I think I misunderstood you, well sorry for that and sorry if you felt insulted in anyway. 1 Like |
Re: Is It Right? by Nobody: 2:54pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
thorpido: Get people around you to correct him.Also get them to call you mummy bomboy when around him.He'll get the message with time and change.Thanks dear, some do but its not working |
Re: Is It Right? by Nobody: 2:55pm On Sep 18, 2014 |
bennyrazz: I think I misunderstood you, well sorry for that and sorry if you felt insulted in anyway.Its ok dear 1 Like |
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