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| 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by MizMyColi(f): 5:22pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
5 Reasons Not to Judge People: 1. You don’t know what is going on inside another person. How many times have you been asked how you are, and said “fine,” even though you weren’t? We all know this is true. We mask our pain. We suffer in silence. We put on the happy/smiley face when we are dying inside. Just because you don’t see it, doesn’t mean another person isn’t hurting. A person’s actions or behaviors may not be any indication of what is going on inside of them. 2. People are doing the best they can. I know this is sometimes difficult to believe about another person. I get that. It’s hard for me at times to believe that about others. But think about it. You know it’s true. It’s complicated! Life is complicated! People are complicated! There are a lot of moving parts inside and outside a person. Aren’t we all a little off – carrying pain, unhealed wounds, ways we protect ourselves, and other dysfunctions we have picked up a long the way? 3. You don’t have all the answers. At times we can look at another person’s life and just see all this stupid stuff it appears they’re doing. On the outside looking in, another person’s life seems pretty cut and dry to us in terms of what they should be doing or not doing or how they are handing a situation or whatever. It’s amazing how quickly we turn into the infallible personal life coach when it comes to another person’s life! 4. Being judged hurts. It’s quite possible that the most painful human feeling is one of being judged. There’s so much involved – silent pain; being misunderstood; rejection in the very moment we most need understanding, love and acceptance. 5. Every human being is worth love and acceptance. Judging people often leads to objectifying them. People are not objects. A suicide happens every 20 seconds. People will often show up in our lives at the end of their rope… hanging on by a thread. The expression of love, acceptance, understanding and kindness to someone who is struggling or hurting may be the difference between them giving up on themselves and life or finding the courage and hope to keep living. Give Everyone Grace. Source 5 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by Nobody: 5:25pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
Tell that to the self-absorbed!! It's human to judge na. People just like to cast people down for no/many reason(s). Most of which are selfish and annoying. I always try not to judge, even when I do so, I do it in my head. And most times, it stays there. |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by priscaoge(f): 5:28pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
-How well do u know the person? Have U walked in his/her shoes? Do u have all the complete information? How sure are u that what u think u know about the person is CORRECT? -B4 judging someone, make sure dat u know all facts abt this person. Maybe u don't know d whole story, that’s why it would be better not to make a judgment. It is very important to hold off until you know all facts. -No body on earth is Perfect! -Do unto others what u expect them to do unto u  -We all have different taste,One man's food is another dude's poison  -Look beyond appearance cos it might deceive U! 1 Like |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by Tallesty1(m): 5:30pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
When I was in elementary school, I got into a major argument with a boy in my class. I have forgotten what the argument was about, but I have never forgotten the lesson I learned that day. I was convinced that “I” was right and “he” was wrong – and he was just as convinced that “I” was wrong and “he” was right. The teacher decided to teach us a very important lesson. She brought us up to the front of the class and placed him on one side of her desk and me on the other. In the middle of her desk was a large, round object. I could clearly see that it was black. She asked the boy what color the object was. “White,” he answered. I couldn’t believe he said the object was white, when it was obviously black! Another argument started between my classmate and me, this time about the color of the object. The teacher told me to go stand where the boy was standing and told him to come stand where I had been. We changed places, and now she asked me what the color of the object was. I had to answer, “White.” It was an object with two differently colored sides, and from his viewpoint it was white. Only from my side it was black. Sometimes we need to look at the problem from the other person’s view in order to truly understand his/her perspective. Author Unknown 7 Likes 7 Shares |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by TRADELYN: 5:30pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
Being judged does not always mean 'WRONG/BAD.' It's either you are judged right or wrong! "You shall know them by the fruit of their labour." Everybody must/will be judged whether you like it or not. |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by MizMyColi(f): 5:32pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
shoefreak: Tell that to the self-absorbed!! It's human to judge na. People just like to cast people down for no/many reason(s). Most of which are selfish and annoying. 1 bag of tushly made popcorn for you, and Coke Zero. I do that too, judging in my head, and staying there. If it's ever brought to my consciousness that I just judged a person, I just smile and try to think good thoughts towards them and possibly make excuses for them. I'm consciously working on making it (judging in my head) a thing of the past, or at least, to a bare minimum. |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by dytbabe: 5:33pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
I don't judge I reason with every situation I frigging hate to be judged *frowns* 1 Like |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by ALKARULEZ615(m): 5:34pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
FP material... Catchu on FP |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by pickabeau1: 5:37pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
i dont understand the op Are u talking about the act of having opinions which can be called judging also Are u talking of praising or condemning people which is also judging Are u talking of the negative result of judgement whiich? |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by okotv(m): 5:39pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
I judge people a lot although it occurs only is my head. I just expect too much from people and if you don't meet up you are gone....I solved this issue because I shared with a close female friend who gave me reasons why I should change...the guide was beautiful and yes shout out to you....blizbenoni even though you are forming hard lady. |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by Dygeasy(m): 5:45pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
The only question I like to ask myself or any judge is, "If you were in the person's shoes, would you have acted differently or done it better?" 2 Likes |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by Nobody: 5:49pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
Dygeasy: The only question I like to ask myself or any judge is, "If you were in the person's shoes, would you have acted differently or done it better?" |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by chibwike(m): 5:52pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
I dont judge people because i wont like it if anyone judges me(wrongly). Sometime the face or the attitude might not be what the heart says. 1 Like |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by Nobody: 5:53pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
I don't judge people because I don't know what's going on inside anybody. I only know me and I know me like I don't even know me so who am I to judge people when I know how it's going for me.... 1 Like |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by crackhaus: 5:54pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
I would rather that people develop some level of self-awareness, a meter by which we monitor our thoughts and feelings so we know exactly when we have crossed that line from just knowing a person to judging that person. I say this because, whether we like it or not and as individuals living in a society comprised of people with differing attitudes, dispositions, and some benign biased objectivity... we all unconsciously judge others and form opinions on them without even realizing it. Judging others is not the issue really, the problem begins when we deal/act/treat them based on that personal judgment and opinion we already hold them to. This is where some self-awareness is needed. With it, one can safely form opinions but at the same time be aware that this judgement/opinion may not be as we think it to be. With this ability on hand and if need be, we can then make an effort in getting to know a person beyond the judgment we hold of them. 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by Nobody: 5:58pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
I remember the days when I was a freaking legalistic, judgemental, self righteous a$&h¤le. I wouldn't even attend FCS in sec school because I felt I was holier than them all. Then I read To Kill A Mockingbird by Harper Lee and God be praised, I was cured of my bull$h¡+. My favourite line in the whole book was where Atticus Finch said this: " You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view... Until you climb inside of his skin and walk around in it." 1 Like |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by MissSlimbody(f): 6:08pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
I have always have this in my head: . . . People always have reasons for acting the way they do. |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by AriDsexy(f): 6:10pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
If u don't know me,don't judge me.....even if u do,don't judge so that u also don't get judged. |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by daveP(m): 6:15pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
Diff views to judging. The 'what do you think is the right thing'. The 'if you were in his/her shoes' The saying 'the truth regardless of whatever it may be' Those in the 3rd actually get bashed the most. 'judge not, so you wont be judged' is one of the misquoted/misunderstood bible verses ive seen. Overall, im nt hasty to do so-unlike me to judge/conclude to easy. But the why question will keep bugging me |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by Nobody: 6:15pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
crackhaus: I would rather that people develop some level of self-awareness, a meter by which we monitor our thoughts and feelings so we know exactly when we have crossed that line from just knowing a person to judging that person. Impressive! 1 Like |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by daveP(m): 6:17pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
IrishKez:youre back  |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by Nobody: 6:18pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
daveP: Diff views to judging.Hmmmm...... |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by Swagavillage(m): 6:26pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
in case |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by daveP(m): 6:36pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
FrankySnow: Hmmmm......hmmm  |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by Nobody: 6:38pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
priscaoge: -How well do u know the person? Have U walked in his/her shoes? Do u have all the complete information? How sure are u that what u think u know about the person is CORRECT?My sister, the bolded is one reason I try not to judge anybody because even me gan.....you see this thing we call cloth, it covers so many things. If only you can see through to people heart eh, hmmm. You don't know anybody until you go close to the person. Most people are not the way they look and If you don't go close you won't know them so why judge them? People act the way they do for many reasons. Here on nl all I know and see are people's monikers but I know nothing about the people behind the monikers i see so judging is a No for me. 1 Like |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by Nobody: 6:39pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
daveP: hmmmIts nothing Dave, she just woke up. |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by daveP(m): 6:40pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
FrankySnow: Its nothing Dave, she just woke up.aha, im nt judging now!! |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by Nobody: 6:44pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
daveP: aha, im nt judging now!!I never said you did. 1 Like |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by priscaoge(f): 6:48pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
FrankySnow: My sister, the bolded is one reason I try not to judge anybody because even me gan.....you see this thing we call cloth, it covers so many things. If only you can see through to people heart eh, hmmm.My points exactly! Now let me tell u something! I have someone that pretends a lot,if u see her eeh,u will so swear that she's a saint. She gives advice like Mother Teresa . People judge her base on her appearance n the way she pretends. Mstcheww. Sometimes when they praise her,I will just smile n shake my headBut if u spend a day or two with her? OMG u will so hate her character. Cloths indeed covers multitude of attitude. Don't judge anyone until u spend quality time with d person or know their real true story! |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by MizMyColi(f): 6:48pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
crackhaus: I would rather that people develop some level of self-awareness, a meter by which we monitor our thoughts and feelings so we know exactly when we have crossed that line from just knowing a person to judging that person. @pickabeau1 Crackhaus has summed up the matter  and I think that's what the writer was driving at too. |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by pickabeau1: 6:51pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
crackhaus post is very clear n says judging/having opinions of others is impossible to avoid.... it is ur post that im trying to get albeit quoted from somewhere... so i ask again ....which is it Is it judging to form an opinion that is the issue or making decisions based on our judgement of them MizMyColi: |
| Re: 5 Reasons Not To Judge People by Nobody: 6:53pm On Sep 22, 2014 |
priscaoge:Lmao. Mother Theresa kwa  Have you ever tried to ask her why she behaves like that? |
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