Motivational speaker/CEO of Visible Impact/
husband of make-up boss lady, Tara
Durotoye, Fela Durotoye reveals how his
father left his mum for a nursing student and
died just as he was about to leave his
mistress to get back with his wife. So sad…….
Read the interesting revelation below:
My father died because of an extra-marital
affair. He had a great marriage but at one
point in time he cut it off and left his home,
few years later he died. He even died some
days to when he was supposed to return
home to my mother. He died a mysterious
death because the lady said, if I will not have
you, nobody will. Few years later, the woman
ran insane and was saying all over that she
killed my father. So now that I’ve seen what a
strange woman can do to a man, it makes
sense to stay in one place so I don’t put so
many life at stake.

He died in 1982, I was 11 years old. It was so
devastating because he went beyond just
being my father, he was my best friend. He
left home in 1977. I must have been six years
old. He was gone for five years. It was at the
point where he was trying to get back to his
wife that he died in 1982. I never knew what
it was like to be a child because my father
never treated me like one. I was also his best
friend, he used to relate with me like an
adult . Even when he left my mum at Ife and
was at Ibadan, I used to go to Ibadan every
weekend. My relationship with him blossomed
till he died. He would send his driver to come
and pick me up every weekend. I had to learn
how to deal with seeing him and the other
woman if I wanted to enjoy my dad. But I was
always the centre of attraction every weekend
I was with him. The woman was not a major
thing I will deal with because my father would
give us total attention. Before the separation,
my father was a professor in physiology while
my mother was a lecturer in Geology.

After he left the University of Ife, he went to
set up consultancy firm in medical equipment
and so on. My mum remained a professor at
Ife. My mum was one of those amazing
human beings that you can ever imagine. I
cannot tell you how she did it but you can be
such that it was God that helped her. And the
most difficult part was that watching a man
you of loved die in your hands. By the time
my father was dying, my mum was right
there. He died with his heads in her hands. I
do not know how anybody would have done
that. Many times my mum said maybe she
should not have let him go. She always says
that if she knew that the end of the matter
would have been that way, she would have
followed him with the other woman, she
would never let him go. I do not think that my
father followed the other woman willingly, it
was programmed. It wasn’t natural. I don’t
think that he was in his total senses. His
siblings were so upset with him, they had to
leave him. We should not have allowed him to
go into the hands of the devourer.
He used to tell me, don’t worry it is all going
to be alright. Meaning that we are all coming
back as family. I could see that he always
wanted to go back home. His death was one
of the most difficult things I had to overcome.

My mum had traveled on sabbatical to
Belgium and at one point my father was
passing through Belgium. And they had a
very short meeting and who knew maybe the
signal of the remote control did not get to
Belgium. I think somehow the love was
rekindled and there was a gentleman, Rev.
Faniku who was also in Belgium at that time.
He took it upon himself and work on it for
almost a year and my dad was almost back to
his senses. My mum is incredible brilliant
and beautiful. There was no basis for
comparison with the other woman who was a
nursing student.

Then he fell ill with diabetes but there was no
record of diabetes in our linage. He feels sick
on Wednesday and died on Sunday morning.
He just finished a meeting with my mother
and he told the other lady that my mum was
coming back home that she has to leave. She
told him if she will not have him than nobody
will (kaka kekumajesese, afisawadanu). By
evening he had come down with a flu. By
Monday he was already really sick, by
Tuesday he was in the hospital and my
Wednesday he was dead.

I have never talked about my dad like this
before, I don’t know why I am doing it with
you. You must be very special. I learnt that
no matter how gifted you are, your destiny
can be truncated by a woman. I saw the joy
of a successful marriage and I saw the pain of
an unsuccessful one. I choose i will go for
the joy of a successful marriage. Before my
wife and i got married we went to pray and
tell God that none of the things that happened
in our parent’s marriage would happen in
ours. We have tried so far.

Before the separation, they won the couple of
the year award twice on campus. My father
was an incredible brilliant man. He was the
youngest professor in Nigeria as at when he
became a professor in 1976. He was 35 or
36. My mum was beauty and brain. They
were the happiest couple you can never
imagine together.
A mistake of falling for a nursing student who
was not even in his department caused all
sort of troubles

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[quote author=Britzdon][/quote]
So on point bro. Ka chineke mezie okwu

because an extramarital affair killed fela's father doesn't mean an extramarital affair will kill another person's father. What is not good for the geese is good for the gander so you should always watch what your destiny can carry and what it cannot carry eg there are some people that can steal 10001 times and they will never get caught, the moment some other people try to steal just once, they nab them.