Femi lost his amiable wife four years ago.He has two kids aged 6 and 8years respectively. Two years he found another lady who loves his kids dearly and promised to take good care of them.The challenge Femi is facing now is that the lady is bloating or rather growing too big for his liking.Initially she weighed 45kg and slim but now she weighs 97kg with very big tummy.He never liked fat ladies. They have a baby now but he is contemplating a divorce cos she sometimes snore heavily at night which is very embarrassing to Femi. He confided in me that when he saw stretch marks underneath her armpit and questioned her about the likelihood of becoming fat she denied that her mother was never a fat woman.The baby also took after her in size as she weighed 5.00kg after birth.Though the woman has embarked on dieting but it seems not to make any difference.Please advice my friend because they are Christians and his wife loves him dearly.

Mschew.

That your friend is confused

I really don't think he loved the lady at first

so because of fatness, he wants to divorce his wife?? the man needs help! rabbish!!

I am not saying he should divorce her but I understand that he has a problem.
She doubled in size. This is too much.

this is a very funny post.

Ask him if he will be happy if his wife decides to cheat and divorce him simply because he got broke. He is to support his wife in her weight loss journey. He has to understand that once a woman adds twice her weight, it is very difficult to loose it all fast. He has to exercise patience and keep encouraging her to hit the gym as regularly as possible. Is he gonna keep divorcing women simply because they added weight? should women avoid getting pregnant to please men? Adding weight during pregnancy is perfectly normal but a woman has to be careful not to allow herself get so fat that it becomes difficult to loose it.

Divorce,on top weight gain?
Marriage means you have to pull through it together.He should work with her in her journey to shed the weight.It won't happen quickly,he has to be patient too.

Thanks for your replies but I must say that it is not as easy as most of you think.There is something every man cherish in a woman that attracts you to her. I wish you knew my friend and how he has emaciated.His mother has been pleading with him to leave Tina but he insisted that she lied to him.He simply doesn't like fat women.He has even refused to pick my calls because of this. Candid speaking I love this couple and Femi's children love Tina very dearly.My heart is bleeding right now.

nikky5:
Thanks for your replies but I must say that it is not as easy as most of you think.There is something every man cherish in a woman that attracts you to her. I wish you knew my friend and how he has emaciated.His mother has been pleading with him to leave Tina but he insisted that she lied to him.He simply doesn't like fat women.He has even refused to pick my calls because of this. Candid speaking I love this couple and Femi's children love Tina very dearly.My heart is bleeding right now.

Then give them a season ticket for the gym.

She should also do a medical check-up, it is not normal to gain so much weight, not even during pregnancy.
Something could be wrong with her thyroid. A dysfunction can lead to rapid weight gain.
The good news is, it can be easily tested and treated.

Your wife gains weight and the first thing he thinks is "divorce "

End time husband

nikky5:
Femi lost his amiable wife four years ago.He has two kids aged 6 and 8years respectively. Two years he found another lady who loves his kids dearly and promised to take good care of them.The challenge Femi is facing now is that the lady is bloating or rather growing too big for his liking.Initially she weighed 45kg and slim but now she weighs 97kg with very big tummy.He never liked fat ladies. They have a baby now but he is contemplating a divorce cos she sometimes snore heavily at night which is very embarrassing to Femi. He confided in me that when he saw stretch marks underneath her armpit and questioned her about the likelihood of becoming fat she denied that her mother was never a fat woman.The baby also took after her in size as she weighed 5.00kg after birth.Though the woman has embarked on dieting but it seems not to make any difference.Please advice my friend because they are Christians and his wife loves him dearly.

As a Christian, he can as readily divorce his wife as he can dis-father the child they have together. No, capital N.

What was he looking as she ballooned? He should have intervened way earlier - even, and especially if the condition is medical.

Nothing to do here except to support his wife. She also should be willing to work at it. You can lead a horse to water...


TV

^{**thank God got foresight & discernment - I checked out my wife' mum and made sure WTB was a little below the ideal size when I married her. Everyone shine eye wella before marrige. Shut am tight after !**}

freecocoa:
Mschew.

boosted! You are fat

TV01:

^{**thank God got foresight & discernment - I checked out my wife' mum and made sure WTB was a little below the ideal size when I married her. Everyone shine eye wella before marrige. Shut am tight after !**}

but is it ethical & moral to check the size of one's potential mother-in-law before proposing? was it really foresight for you or you got lucky?

i used to know a chic that was size 8 way back in naija in her early 20s.....then her family moved to the US via visa lottery. 3 months after arriving in america, she became size 18.

i am 100% certain she would have maintained her size 8 if she never traveled out of her comfort zone in lagos. what i am trying to say is - "other factors" get in the way of these things sometimes.

spyg1:
boosted! You are fat

I'm fat, oya do your worst.

nikky5:
Thanks for your replies but I must say that it is not as easy as most of you think.There is something every man cherish in a woman that attracts you to her. I wish you knew my friend and how he has emaciated.His mother has been pleading with him to leave Tina but he insisted that she lied to him.He simply doesn't like fat women.He has even refused to pick my calls because of this. Candid speaking I love this couple and Femi's children love Tina very dearly.My heart is bleeding right now.

Emaciated because somebody added weight? Is he normal at all? Is he a baby or what?

freecocoa:
I'm fat, oya do your worst.

Give me the opportunity nahn, make i show you my worst

coogar:


but is it ethical & moral to check the size of one's potential mother-in-law before proposing? was it really foresight for you or you got lucky?

i used to know a chic that was size 8 way back in naija in her early 20s.....then her family moved to the US via visa lottery. 3 months after arriving in america, she became size 18.

i am 100% certain she would have maintained her size 8 if she never traveled out of her comfort zone in lagos. what i am trying to say is - "other factors" get in the way of these things sometimes.

It falls under "due dilligence" - and plain ole' common sense

There's a old Ukrainian saying "before you marry a woman check out her mother" - paraphrased somewhat.

You are spot on about environment change - and that must be factored in ! I once met a girl fresh from Naija. Fabulous figure, but within 3 months she had rolling flesh everywhere - even at the knees

My wife was born and bread in the UK, not up to 3 years in Nigeria in total. Exposure to KFC won't make a difference ! Diligence must be manifold .


TV

TV01:

It falls under "due dilligence" - and plain ole' common sense

There's a old Ukrainian saying "before you marry a woman check out her mother" - paraphrased somewhat.

You are spot on about environment change - and that must be factored in ! I once met a girl fresh from Naija. Fabulous figure, but within 3 months she had rolling flesh everywhere - even at the knees

My wife was born and bread in the UK, not up to 3 years in Nigeria in total. Exposure to KFC won't make a difference ! Diligence must be manifold .

TV

this is a brilliant point!
in a nutshell, you have to "western-test" a woman before marrying her.....especially if there's a future plan to settle in the west.

some environments are fatty-friendly.
a woman who has eaten all the eateries western societies have to offer and she still manages to be very fit are the jewels.

coogar:


this is a brilliant point!
in a nutshell, you have to "western-test" a woman before marrying her.....especially if there's a future plan to settle in the west.

some environments are fatty-friendly.
a woman who has eaten all the eateries western societies have to offer and she still manages to be very fit are the jewels.

Exactimondo! The West is deadly - weight wise - to any Naija fresher who is not disciplined. Especially those that are at that point were the metabolism slows down or likely to give birth in the near future.

I went to a birthday party recently - if you see the parade of gbo gbo big girls - and they are hungry. Wifey said she couldn't tell if they were eyeing me or my plate of rice, moin-moin and pepper stew

Avoid like the plague.


TV

TV01:

Exactimondo! The West is deadly - weight wise - to any Naija fresher who is not disciplined. Especially those that are at that point were the metabolism slows down or likely to give birth in the near future.

wicked!!!!!!

I went to a birthday party recently - if you see the parade of gbo gbo big girls - and they are hungry. Wifey said she couldn't tell if they were eyeing me or my plate of rice, moin-moin and pepper stew

Avoid like the plague.

TV

most london parties are trash these days. it's like showcasing obesity of the naija chics here. the ratio of fat chics to the fit ones is about 40:1. they all wear black to hide the weight & the ever-present protruding bellies.

coogar:


this is a brilliant point!
in a nutshell, you have to "western-test" a woman before marrying her.....especially if there's a future plan to settle in the west.

some environments are fatty-friendly.
a woman who has eaten all the eateries western societies have to offer and she still manages to be very fit are the jewels.

i love my sexy slim self even after a kid u wunt blive i av any.
i eat healthy and nature has its effect.

ephee:


i love my sexy slim self even after a kid u wunt blive i av any.
i eat healthy and nature has its effect.

ephee, provide a pictorial evidence
after all, pictures say a million words.

If he is really thinking about divorcing her, he is an idi0t and you are equally an idi0t for asking this question on his behalf.

Yields:
If he is really thinking about divorcing her, he is an idi0t and you are equally an idi0t for asking this question on his behalf.

Yields:
If he is really thinking about divorcing her, he is an idi0t and you are equally an idi0t for asking this question on his behalf.

Something tells me that Op wants the man.

Odilafta:
Something tells me that Op wants the man.

Is the OP not a man?

Orisirisi!

Divorce his wife cos she got some extra fat

Again I say ORISIRISI

@nikky5- please tell your friend to be quick with his divorce proceedings and stop wasting the ''fat'' woman's time.....