My fellow nairaland members what do you think about married couples that don't sleep together on the same bed,am not saying its bad for a women or man to have their own room for privacy sake but why do they go as far as sleeping differently or are they afraid to touch one another?Please lets help and put a stop to this

i dont see any problem in dat. if they want sex, they know how to go about it. its a choic even though i dont understand dat choice.

It doesnt make any sense, why are they couple since they dont or cant sleep on the same bed.

People sleep better when they sleep alone on a bed, so if a husband and a wife wants to sleep in the same room they need two beds. Married couples should sleep on different beds laid next to each other.

It's there choice in any case, but normally any married couple sleep together, u might never know the reason for the seperate beds.   

one of the partners might be prone to any of the following: snoring, burping, farting, scratching, kicking, punching or all of the above mentioned, while they r asleep. in that case sleeping in separate beds is a good idea. i wouldnt want to wake up with a black eye , moody, bruised and gasping for fresh air at 4 am in the morning.

your married so why sleep on separate beds, ??.
dont make sense
but hmmm if he snores like crazy then he needs to sleep elsewhere lol

there is no should or shouldn't here

if either one of them sleeps better on their own, cool
if getting a larger king sized bed solves the problem of space for both of them cool.


as long as the reason behind it is clear and none of them is hiding some other motive.

its not an issue if u dont make it one
else we'll have someone asking whether couples should share the same cup or plate

Why not if that is what they want.

its a free country.

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one of the partners might be prone to any of the following: snoring, burping, farting, scratching, kicking, punching or all of the above mentioned, while they r asleep. in that case sleeping in separate beds is a good idea. i wouldnt want to wake up with a black eye , moody, bruised and gasping for fresh air at 4 am in the morning.

True talk Aykay well said, now that is being sensible

As for me i hope my husband in not prone to any of the above mentioned by my friend here because i would love to wake up every morning with my husband , and the only think i would want poking me is (ehn ehen clears throat) [size=14pt]Stiff one [/size] . Every morning aaahhh bliss

don't think its right tho for married couple to be sleeping separately.

@ eurphoria

lol, every guy wakesup with a _{clears throat} 'stiff one' every morning. someone told me its due to good blood circulation. i guess he doesnt have the type of dreams i have.lol

@Aykay

_{clears throat} heheheehehe! what sort of dreams may yours be good sir? _{leave it for another day lets not go off topic}

Couples sleeping on diff beds in the same house is really not a thing I like cos since u're both married to each other I don't see why you would do such thing. Except you guys r just roommates.

maybe the couple have a problem thatz why they want to be alone

no i don't think they should sleep on different bed that is they ave misunderstanding! like one of ma neighbour sometime ago him and his wife ave their separate room just cuz of privacy!! and they ave kids too o! that was really bad, but it is good in someways that is if the husband is a talkative and always quarelling with the wife that will prevent him but i don't think is a good idea if u luv each other.

nope, not just rite!

@euphoria babes im totalli feelin u.
id loooove 2 wake up 2 a stiff one every day wid ma husband it wuld b heavenly.
i hope ma husby wont b a snorer though,cuz dat i cant stand(fortunately there r earplugs)!!
well no seperate beds 4 me,im certainly asking him bout dat b4 we get Hooked.

Well it is a personal matter, some people like their privacy, and are used to it, or for some religious, spiritual reasons , , well for me, my privacy is me and my wife, gisting, quarelling, under the sheaths, you feel me ,

You are busy complaining of couples sleeping on different beds in the same room, but I know of couples sleeping in different rooms will you crucify them?

Sharing a room helps build the relationship. The wife can have a room mainly for her clothes and stuff.
Sleeping together only when the couple wants to have sex or on special occasions has wrecked lots of marriages.

Sharing a room helps build the relationship. The wife can have a room mainly for her clothes and stuff.
Sleeping together only when the couple wants to have sex or on special occasions has wrecked lots of marriages.

I subscribe to seperate rooms but the same bed.
She'll have a room for her stuff or we'll have a guest room where I can take off to when a screw goes loose.

How can?we wil share the same room and bed,and thats love.compromise thats love.

Right on EmemJU, couldn't have said it better.

couple are meant to sleep on the same bed .if otherwise then something must be wrong with their marriage Vow!

why should they sleep on different beds are they not supposed to be one?

A lot of couple argue at nights instead of having that good sleep. I really hate to be disturbed. And when some ppl get married or start to leave with a woman for a year or two u'll understand how offending they could be. They think the bed is where they can discuss all the stuffs they have'nt said in days. Its annoying!!!!

Remember when ur tired too, you prolly dont want unnecessary disturbance or sex.

Couple should sleep on the same bed except if the woman is nursing a new born baby . An uncle of mine sleeps in a differen room cos his wife is dirty,she litters her clothes everywhere in d room. Actually ,they were sleeping in the same room thinking she was going to change but after 2 years she didnt .He had to tell her to move to the next room and that makes her feel bad.