KarmaMod:

Rofl

Can you imagine how disgusting this dude smells? A chic with a weave must have turned him down during his stinky "toasting" hence the angry thread

Your duty isnt to harass woman for what they put on their heads, it's for you to take English classes and work on your grammar. Olodo elede.

KarmaMod:


Can you imagine how disgusting this dude smells? A chic with a weave must have turned him down during his stinky "toasting" hence the angry thread

Your duty isnt to harass woman for what they put on their heads, it's for you to take English classes and work on your grammar. Olodo elede.

*osisi:

First off,I actually feel offended when you refer to me as Nubian.
I'm a black,Igbo Nigerian lady.I had never heard the word Nubian till I arrived the USA and always from these sort of people and there's nothing Nubian about me so please lose that description.
Call me African if you're short of a proper description and I'm sure I'm not alone in this.

If your black your a nubian whether you like it or not. Nubian is just another word for black.

[b]Secondly, who do you think you are to tell people (who have not complained to you) what they feel and also insist that you know the solution to their feelings.[/b]That s the beginning of madness if you don't know.
There's no concrete evidence anyway to show that applying a perm causes cancer as you've thrown around loosely with your half baked "african studies" mentality.If there is, kindly cite the study.

we are all black and we share the same collective struggle; one of which is the fight against colonial mentality. I know the psychological state of my weave wearing perm loving nubian sistas and what they really think deep down in their hearts about their nappy hair. I come from a black woman and i overstand their problems. I am not a stranger to this but i am analysing the situation objectively from without that particular thought system.

Thirdly ,you cannot impose your own feelings of insecurity on other people.If you felt insecure in your so called nubian-ness and then permed, jherri curled or added weave to your hair,that doesn't mean I have the same feelings about myself

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I have no insecurities and as a matter of fact i am amongst a very few nubian men who has the confidence and balls to call you fake sistas to order.

That's why you're you and I'm me.
That we're of the same race,doesn't necessarily mean that I must feel the same exact way you feel about things.
So please speak for yourself.
Speak of your own experiences and leave it at that ,rather than try to shove your annoying gospel down our throats [b]and then throw a tantrum when people disagree with you.[/b]quote]

You will not believe how many brothas think the same way but are scared to voice it.
By the way, I never threw tantrums, what are you talking about? They may seem like tantrums to you because the turth hurts.

Tatase:

@ fayahsoul
I just looked at all your past NL posts o. You are a very scary person. I'm quite scared of you militant types. Like so much anger and hate and condescension to people who are not like you and who don't think exactly you.

Tatase:

@ fayahsoul

Um excuse me, I don't know where you're getting your info but not all africans are Nubians. Nubians are the oldest recognized african civilization but we're not all Nubians. That's a specific ethnic group that actually still exists today. It's very African-American-ish to be saying something like that as though no real identity exists. I don't need to search for an identity, I know where I'm from and thank God I know where my ancestors are from. I don't know what your upbringing was or where it was to have resulted in such racial identity-consciousness. I grew up in Nigeria and none of the Nigerians I know feel the need to constantly reassure themselves about their race or to do things to make them black enough or whatever. I think more about my nationality and my ethnic groups than I do about my race because it's not really an issue for me. 

You're entitled to your opinion about my subconscious but since it is MY subconscious, and since I know best about who I am and what I feel, I think I'll take your opinion with a pinch of salt. Maybe for you, permed hair or whatever affects your sense of self, but for me it doesn't. For me it's easy and my hair grows and is quite thick and healthy and so I'm happy.

I think your concern for your "sisters" is good and very honourable, however, I think you're a little too liberal in your generalizations. I could judge you for not using deodorant or for your other personal habits, but that's your choice, and it's not my place to make a generalized judgement call about you, I don't know you.

I think my definition of being African (a term I can agree with) is different from yours. I'm African because I am and because that's where my soul feels at home. I don't think being African is about having to look a certain way or be a certain way or do certain things or like certain foods or anything. It's not anyone's place to define for another something that is so personal. It's not at all like gay marriage like you said. Gay marriage is something you can see, what my sentiments and my ideas and my view myself are, these things are not something that it is your place to try to define because you don't know me and it's a personal thing.

You don't know enough about each individual person to just judge them by their hair. It's like judging someone by their skin or nationality. Are all black people the same? Are all Nigerians the same? Even if you get to my ethnic group, are we all the same? Do we all like the same things? Have the same thoughts and ideas? Are your feelings the exact same as that of even your siblings? There may be those who feel the things that you have described, but it's certainly not everyone. Next thing you'll say Africans should only wear African fabric, that Western clothes are a sign of oppression of our colonial masters or something, and that our traditional fabrics should only be sewn in traditional styles none of this new-fangled ankara outfits. I mean, y'know? It's a bit much. 

fayahsoul:

In nubia(and world wide), the representation of God as white is widely accepted and as a result nubian females attempt to emulate this eurocentric image of God. And in the west they also wear weaves and perms for job security. all these are further compounded by global western media outlets and dominant ideologies (which are replete with embedded images) that protay the white female as a universal standard of beauty. Note that this is a psychological warfare that takes place in the subconscious and subsequently manifests as self-hating practices.

DavidDylan:

fayahsoul, is your "wife" white?

don't worry, you're no longer in the minority so please leave our sisters and their hair alone.

UNLEASHED:

@Gamine
This ain't about going around in your birthday suit, it's about imitating, making use of artificials to look hmmm

we don't care if you grow your bia bia to 1 foot,we don't care if you grow out your sideburns like a castrated chia pet.We don't even care whether you have a pot belly,or receeding hair line, we just won't date you

tope2000:

Rubbish thread
It ought to be locked

Only thing I personally see as self hate is YES GAMINE, colored contacts. Also add blonde weaves on black women. Now that's someone with issues. Anything else, it's just women looking for ways to make their hair styles versatile.

*osisi:

Keep away from girls whose hairstyles are not to your taste but don't tell us what or what not to wear on our hair and everywhere else.

milknhoney:

Seriously I'm starting to believe the Original Poster is a Born-Again African.
I mean who seriously preaches about {Nubian} this and {Nubian} that.
Who is this {Nubian} anyway??
He is obviously a proclaimed (westerner) trying to get in touch back with his {African} roots.
Nubian ko, [i](old)[/i]bian ni.