You have to give life a meaning for yourself, start your life and step away from the past. Interact, its part of learning, you don't have a friend?

If your mum does not call you, why dont you call her?

Do you have siblings?

I feel your pain,trust me.
Just continue loving yourself the more,live in the present and forget the past..
Trust me when you make it,they would all come around..

Jesus is the best anybody can have as friend and more,,,.
Feel free to holla at me though.

Op, the only way to get rid of the sadness you have in you is to resolve that the loneliness you feel must stop. Dnt you have siblings? extended family members? Reach out to them. You should also converse with your mum often even though she doesnt. Be the one to take the initiative of reaching out and keep it that way. That way, you are re-establishing a connection. Family is all that matters in this life. How about your social life? Try to make friends. Good friends. Start by showing concern for people, people that would normally not expect your attention. Undue loneliness, if left unchecked, can be harmful and can cause depression. It can affect you psychologically. this is why you feel this way.

firstEVA:
If your mum does not call you, why dont you call her?

Even if I do, it seems as if I am forcing myself on her, the convo never never goes beyond the surface. Makes one wonder if that truly is his mum!!

Sophyrocks:
Op, the only way to get rid of the sadness you have in you is to resolve that the loneliness you feel must stop. Dnt you have siblings? extended family members? Reach out to them. You should also converse with your mum often even though she doesnt. Be the one to take the initiative of reaching out and keep it that way. That way, you are re-establishing a connection. Family is all that matters in this life. How about your social life? Try to make friends. Good friends. Start by showing concern for people, people that would normally not expect your attention. Undue loneliness, if left unchecked, can be harmful and can cause depression. It can affect you psychologically. this is why you feel this way.

When I say I am alone I mean it in the strictest sense of the world. My family live in the east while I live in Lagos. My siblings have also shunned me. Its cuz they don't understand me. I know am weird. People have called me wicked and heartless, but that's not who I am.

DoctorFaust:



Even if I do, it seems as if I am forcing myself on her, the convo never never goes beyond the surface. Makes one wonder if that truly is his mum!!

such is life my dear, don't feel too bad about it. i'm sure she may be going through some kind of stress herself. be strong, hold on. mix up with people, dont be all alone in self pity, most people who do not have family love, have love from friends, once again mix up, go out, have a girlfriend, it shall be well with you.

DoctorFaust:






When I say I am alone I mean it in the strictest sense of the world. My family live in the east while I live in Lagos. My siblings have also shunned me. Its cuz they don't understand me. I know am weird. People have called me wicked and heartless, but that's not who I am.

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DoctorFaust:






When I say I am alone I mean it in the strictest sense of the world. My family live in the east while I live in Lagos. My siblings have also shunned me. Its cuz they don't understand me. I know am weird. People have called me wicked and heartless, but that's not who I am.

You say thats not who you are? Then prove them wrong by showing concern for people and reaching out. Actions speak louder. Mix up with people around your vicinity. People will always have a wrong impression of you if you dnt show them that they are wrong. Always wanting to be alone will make people avoid you. But when you draw close to people, people will draw close to you. You will continue to feel this way as long as you continue to be lonely.

I is sad that your family is not working out bu the good news is_
It is time for you to set up your own family. Meet a girl, fall in love and set up your own family.
Do not vest too much energy in mending bridges in this state you are now rather create a new bridge.
As you focus on building your own family something amazing will happen--
The bridge to your mother and siblings will somewhat improve or at least it wouldn`t tear you apart.
Above all - snap out of it.. I mean the impending depression!
Tell yourself it is well..IT IS WELL!
You need to love yourself and believe inyourself. Even if you are difficult, you still deserve the love of your mum and siblings.

Open up and interact with people.

mutter:
I is sad that your family is not working out bu the good news is_
It is time for you to set up your own family. Meet a girl, fall in love and set up your own family.
Do not vest too much energy in mending bridges in this state you are now rather create a new bridge.
As you focus on building your own family something amazing will happen--
The bridge to your mother and siblings will somewhat improve or at least it wouldn`t tear you apart.
Above all - snap out of it.. I mean the impending depression!
Tell yourself it is well..IT IS WELL!
You need to love yourself and believe inyourself. Even if you are difficult, you still deserve the love of your mum and siblings.

thank you so much... That made me feel awesome.. The only thing that has struck home on my thread... God bless!!

What of your future? When you're alone with closed eyes and your mind drifts off and paints you into a happier place, where does it take you? Sharing your despair on NL is brave of you, but we are still here on your thread. Share your desires too, maybe you'd gain some practical help

If you want to be loved, you have to make yourself available for that love. Try calling your loved ones, pay visits, xmas, easter, etc, gist about things you hear happening, eg so and so is getting married. Ask them about themselves, we all like to talk about ourselves, dont we? Pay a visit when you hear one is sick, etc. Set a timetable for calls and do not postpone any. Give the little you have, even if it is 1k. Volunteer to take up some family responsibilities, not financial, eg going to represent your family in a meeting,occasion, etc. Say what you think and clarify whatever issues someone might raise against you, dont just keep quiet and for peace to rain, accept what you know isnt true. As much as you would want to create new bridges, you still have to mend the old ones so you dont have a feeling of being lost or not knowing where you are coming from. Above all, love yrself, spoil yourself silly, take care of yourself, look for friends with similar interest, find a hobby and do it regularly, so when you seat in your recliner at 80, you wouldnt have any regrets about what you should have done differently.

Bye fam.... This is harder than I thought. I will deactivate my account shortly. NL isn't helping much!!

He has truly deactivated o, God have mercy. OP, life is never static, you just have to keep trying and believing, hoping you won't do anything silly. Not worth it.


I was going to ask why people always say you are wicked and heartless? You need to show love to get love in return. God bless.