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Myths And Facts Of Sexual Violence: The Rapists And The Victims by AfricanApple(f): 12:21pm On Dec 10, 2014 |
Sexual violence/ rape is one of the scariest aspects of sexual pervasion. The UN General Assembly 1993 defined violence against women as any act of gender based violence that or is likely to result in physical, social or psychological harm including threats, coercion or arbitrary deprivation whether in public or private life. There are different types of rape: date, acquaintance and marital rape, rape by strangers and gang rape. AfricanApple: These are some of the myths and facts of sexual violence MYTH: rape victims are guilty of fornications MYTH: there is a misconception that rape is provoked by the victim and that a woman can ask to be raped wearing provocative clothing, letting a man pay her way or going to his home MYTH: all rapists are not normal, they are maniacs, monsters and sick MYTH: it is only strangers in the dark that are raped MYTH: if a person spends a lot of money on the opposite sex, he/she has right to have sex with the person MYTH: women mean 'yes' when they say 'no' MYTH: only beautiful women in mini skirts are raped MYTH: the victim could have stopped the rape Extracted from: Stemming the tide of sexual violence/rape in our society by Oforune Endurance 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Myths And Facts Of Sexual Violence: The Rapists And The Victims by Nobody: 12:33pm On Dec 10, 2014 |
Kinda agree with most things summarised here, except of course MYTH: women mean 'yes' when they say 'no' ...and not in terms of se.x. A great percentage of women actually mean "yes" when they say "no", and that can inform a man's insistence. That men extend it to se.x is certainly their (the men's) fault. However, women need to change that general perception of hesitation when deal or interact with men. |
Re: Myths And Facts Of Sexual Violence: The Rapists And The Victims by Nobody: 2:45pm On Dec 10, 2014 |
space booked |
Re: Myths And Facts Of Sexual Violence: The Rapists And The Victims by AfricanApple(f): 3:28pm On Dec 10, 2014 |
goofyuncut:that's not true, this is where you guys get it wrong. if she eventually says yes to something she has been saying no, it doesnt mean that she didn't mean the no. we can always change our minds. I could remember one guy on this forum long time ago, that requested to send me pm, I told him not to do it, and I meant it, amidst the guy's persistent something occurred that made me finally agreed one thing is that, whether a person means it or not, what she/he told u is what u should respect, especially when it comes to sex. if what the person want is to say yes and she say no, she is definitely gonna be a loosed, not your own cup if tea. let people who live in denial face the consequences of if 1 Like |
Re: Myths And Facts Of Sexual Violence: The Rapists And The Victims by Nobody: 3:50pm On Dec 10, 2014 |
AfricanApple:Therefore, she did not say yes, therefore, she was raaped! smh |
Re: Myths And Facts Of Sexual Violence: The Rapists And The Victims by AfricanApple(f): 4:27pm On Dec 10, 2014 |
Timbuktou:even if you did not know the meaning of rape, at least I defined it in my post or are you a rapist 1 Like |
Re: Myths And Facts Of Sexual Violence: The Rapists And The Victims by Nobody: 4:41pm On Dec 10, 2014 |
AfricanApple:Is your father a rapist or are you mad? 3 Likes |
Re: Myths And Facts Of Sexual Violence: The Rapists And The Victims by AfricanApple(f): 4:54pm On Dec 10, 2014 |
Timbuktou:eya 2 Likes |
Re: Myths And Facts Of Sexual Violence: The Rapists And The Victims by Nobody: 5:17pm On Dec 10, 2014 |
AfricanApple:Damn. 2 Likes |
Re: Myths And Facts Of Sexual Violence: The Rapists And The Victims by 5minsmadness: 6:16pm On Dec 10, 2014 |
Why do we like deceiving ourselves? The Whiteman comes and brainwashes us and just because the link or source is from the Whiteman then it must be true? Even when we see the situation with our two nak£d eyes and our brains tell us the truth, it is whatever the Whiteman tells us that we start following like zombies? Damn. Oyibo people really did a number on the black race. MYTH: there is a misconception that rape is provoked by the victim and that a woman can ask to be raped wearing provocative clothing, letting a man pay her way or going to his home MYTH: only beautiful women in mini skirts are raped |
Re: Myths And Facts Of Sexual Violence: The Rapists And The Victims by 5minsmadness: 6:39pm On Dec 10, 2014 |
MYTH: women mean 'yes' when they say 'no' As for this, I have lost not one or two but three relationships because I acted like a gentleman and took the lady for her word when she said 'no'. Ladies have a way of 'fronting' and saying no when they really mean yes. I don't know where they learnt it from, and I was falling prey for this trick until the second and third one told me months later that when I made a move on them and they said no and I stopped...they were disappointed! A lady is supposed to show some resistance, they edplained, so the guy doesn't see them as cheap. Silly me, once they said no I respected thier choice and moved on to other things, not knowing what they really meant was 'keep going'! Ladies cant keep eating their cake and having it. It is either they chose one thing or the other and stop confusing us guys! 1 Like |
Re: Myths And Facts Of Sexual Violence: The Rapists And The Victims by cococandy(f): 10:21pm On Dec 10, 2014 |
What has this got to do with the white man? 5minsmadness: |
Re: Myths And Facts Of Sexual Violence: The Rapists And The Victims by AfricanApple(f): 11:49pm On Dec 10, 2014 |
5minsmadness:did the soap water that iya basira poured in your eyes stop u from seeing the name if the author? that book was written by a Nigerian and i got it from the national library of Nigeria in the nigerianna section you think everything posted here is actually from the net? FYI, here is a post of mine to someone today AfricanApple:I'm not an hypocrite. I don't just believe everything come to think of it, the fact that not everything a white man said is true does not make everything they say lies. we should just be open minded. okay? |
Re: Myths And Facts Of Sexual Violence: The Rapists And The Victims by AfricanApple(f): 11:56pm On Dec 10, 2014 |
5minsmadness:when they say no, let it always remain no, if they leave uvcos of that, they are the loosers why are u complaining about loosing people who are scared to show their feelings? how will u even cope with them @emboldened, any woman who tells u that, has one single to herself hypocrite of what difference does it make when he knows you want it and only resisting to pretend decency. you don't want to be perceived as cheap, why not hold yourself till your wedding night. only girls with low mentality do such thing |
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