You don’t know him or her until there is a quarrel. A quarrel tests character. Knowledge grows from disagreement. Love is a deeper knowledge of your partner. It is not just the romantic feeling, it is the feeling of tolerance, the feeling of acceptance and understanding.


A quarrel reveals weakness. It displays maturity.
A quarrel creates a platform for t
he woman to submit and the man to show love.
Don’t run away from confrontation. A confrontation will give you revelation. To walk away or to continue becomes clearer. Too much quarrel that ends with physical abuse is a danger sign. It is saying , ‘Quit!’


A quarrel creates room for patience. And patience is a virtue that can sustain a relationship. Any relationship.

An engaged couple came for counseling. They were preparing for marriage. The Pastor asked, “How are things going?”
“Great”, they said enthusiastically.
“Really?” the pastor asked.
“Yes”, the couple chorused.
“Have you had any quarrel? Any disagreement?”
The woman responded, “No o. It has been wonderful all the way”. And both stared at each other with a smile.


The pastor nodded his head. “No ,that is not good at all. I can’t wed you both”
“Why?” the lady asked.
“Go and have a quarrel. Disagree on something. Hurt yourself and see how much you can forgive yourselves. See how you can disagree to agree. Your courtship is too good to be true”.
The fight is important. It test your compatibility. But you must fight fair. I am not talking about throwing insults at each other or physical assault. I am talking about disagreements.


Marriage is not for two perfect people. It is for two imperfect people who seek to make their marriage perfect. They work hard to make sure that they are together. They have a deep understanding for each other because they realize that they are both fragile, human. And so they look up to God

What goodness lies in quarrelling?

Spaced bookd

I beg to disagree. The notion has been on sick one and unfortunately, we have believed this sick notion and end up applying them to our lives which ought not to be. Love, fights and quarrel have no correlation.

Really

It's imperative that you know your partner's character, and that would include knowing how they handle conflicts/disagreements.

The Op is actually spot on. You dnt know your partner fully well until you both disagree on something. Disagreement exposes weaknesses, exposes either maturity or immaturity. The success of a relationship/marriage is dependent on how disagreements are sorted. If you always avoid confrontation/communication believing issues die down on their own, small problems will grow to big problems, resentment and accumulated grievances are bound to happen.

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Sophyrocks:
The Op is actually spot on. You dnt know your partner fully well until you both disagree on something. Disagreement exposes weaknesses, exposes either maturity or immaturity. The success of a relationship/marriage is dependent on how disagreements are sorted. If you always avoid confrontation/communication believing issues die down on their own, small problems will grow to big problems, resentment and accumulated grievances are bound to happen.

Better put.

How do you get to the point of marriage without any disagreement whatsoever? Unless una two na robots or someone is pretending.

EnlightenedSoul:


Better put.

Thanks.

Owk, i will remember to av a quarrel wit her nxt time we meet.

Haywhymido:
Owk, i will remember to av a quarrel wit her nxt time we meet.

so u NO know say after quarrel comes sweet sex.

Sanchez01:
I beg to disagree. The notion has been on sick one and unfortunately, we have believed this sick notion and end up applying them to our lives which ought not to be. Love, fights and quarrel have no correlation.

Exactly. It starts from little disagreement to bigger ones.

Yeah, you have your differences but most have taken this to heart and would go all out to look for a reason to disagree just to fulfil this false notion and may never return to the path of sanity after that thus creating problems that where non existing.

U will never know what your partner is capable of until the fight.
How else will u know their level of patience,tolerance,respect and
most importantly,their capacity to forgive and accept the other's
shortcomings? Disagreements brings out the worst in other people.
Better to know what you are dealing with and be prepared before tying the knot
than to step into a world of suprises later on.

I agree. It's a mistake to think love cannot thrive in differences. If the two are not prefect then there will be spots of friction. Resolution is the way you know the love is real.