aameyah:
Her dad has washed his hands off the issue as she refused to heed his advice. I think I'll advice her to talk to her mum.

I told her that she needs to react some times when he acts up. She said there was a time she did and he told her she would just burst a vein and she would just die. That he would just get married sharply to someone else...

He said that? And she is still there asking for advice?
Hmmmmn.

EfemenaXY:


I abhor guys who misyarn from both sides of the mouth!

Would you be saying this if the tables were turned? Where your wife openly tells you she's banging other guys to get pregnant, and has the effontry to call them up in your presence saying "I love you" whilst belittling you to them? Or tells you to watch p0rn with her because you as a man can't turn her on?

Would you still remember the analogy of what God has joined together let no man put asunder, knowing she's having unprotected sex with goodness knows who?

Guy, if you know you can't take an iota of this crap, then why should she? Because she's a woman? Because she's a lesser being?

Mtcheew.

Ll Efe you are fighting a losing battle here. Nigerian men's attitude towards women and marriage is stomach turning.

aameyah:
Thank you everyone.

I spoke to her reinforcing the need to tell her mum and she said she has resolved not to tell her. She said mum has high BP and she doesn't want to compound issues.

Apart from that, she said mum has the habit of going to his mum to complain and if his mum cautions him, he ends up pouring his anger on her in the secrecy of their home saying that her parents want to control him.

She says she has resolved to watch him silently in the face of provocation. Will that be adequate? I don't know, But What I do know is that I have to respect her decision.

I'm not giving up on my friend But you can only force a horse to the river. The rest is left entirely to the horse.

I appreciate all your kind concern. And I promise to keep you updated when there's a development of any kind. God bless....

Dinachi
She is a very neat girl and this neatness is evident in her surrounding. Also, she started seeing sex as work the moment he started acting like a robot to her. How do you penetrate a girl without even one kiss? Does that sound like fun?

I can recollect when they got married, she told me he was playfully complaining about her fixed nails that they were always digging into his shoulders during seks.

She decided to keep her hands to herself Because It's obvious he doesn't want her close....

Abeg leave this your friend she is very silly, what is the enjoyment inn being a victim. She is really starting to piss me off what is hiolding her there sef, no kids, abject misery ah ah kilode gan!

Maybe she gets off on being treated extremely shabbily. Sometimes you have to gather your strenght and wits about you and do the needful instead of talking up and down. there comes a time that you have to just be strong and take decisions regarding your own life!. Tell her to take control of her life

byvan:
We women should learn to be more rational and logical with our thinking. Why struggle to make a baby with a man that isn't ready to be a husband, let alone a father? What exactly does she intend to achieve with a pregnancy from this man? This man is even decent enough to show his disgust and has requested for a divorce, he is a better man than those that will string you along only to betray you at last. The society she is worried about will move on with their lives even if she dies today, so why on earth is she worried about peeps that really don't give a shi*t? Tell your friend to have some self esteem, let her love herself, if she develops HBP, this man will keep banging, she dies, banging continues, so what does she want out of this life? To answer Mrs or to live, which ever she chooses is ok by me but let her stop the complaints.

Had to quote you. God bless u jare. Some women n fish brain,very irrational being. A man had defined himself openly,yet you live n endure shit.

smartigo:

Had to quote you. God bless u jare. Some women n fish brain,very irrational being. A man had defined himself openly,yet you live n endure shit.

Beauty of a 'Nigerian' marriage

Merry Christmas

bukatyne:


Beauty of a 'Nigerian' marriage

Merry Christmas

Thank you ma. Same to you n ur family.

aameyah:
^
How is the man the broken one?

Both are broken and both are not connecting with each other emotionally.

The fact that the man can have an erection suggests no physical health complications but a deep rooted psychological one that in a large extent can reduce his sperm's fertility rate. The wife at the moment is too preoccupied with her own fertility issue not to have any accomodation for his, hence his resentment of her. The resentment even hightens whenever she mechanically pressures him for sex because by doing that she is only reminding him of his problem. Trust me, if he's been having sex with numerous girls as he claims and doesn't want her anymore, he wouldn't even be attempting to have sex with her. What's the point in doing that?

I don't normally advice married women because I can't claim to full empathize with them. But I'll suggest your friend attempts to connect emotionally with her husband or find someone who can. This's someone who asked you for her number and went further marry her ten years later while visiting her in the hospital before that. No man would that if he doesn't have good intentions towards the woman.

smartigo:

Had to quote you. God bless u jare. Some women n fish brain,very irrational being. A man had defined himself openly,yet you live n endure shit.

Even men aren't innocent of the fish brain thing, they compete quite favorably with women in that department. God bless you and compliments of the season .

byvan:



Even men aren't innocent of the fish brain thing, they compete quite favorably with women in that department. God bless you and compliments of the season .

I like your sense of humour. Thanks and amen. Compliments too.

This thread is quite old, nevertheless it was interesting going through the comments.

Just wondering why it never occurred to anyone that the husband may be a closet gay. I have come across this type of scenario before.

The signs are quite glaring. He won't allow the wife touch him, he finds it difficult to get an erection except he watches porn and even at that he goes limb once he is inside are. Hmm. These signs seems obvious to me.

Anyways wish your friend the best.

aameyah i see you viewing, how did it end?

MrsOJ

They are still together.
She hasn't told me a lot recently. But when she talks about the period that inspired this mail, she refers to it as "that time when they were having issues".
I take that to mean things have improved...but she is still TTC.

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aameyah:
MrsOJ

They are still together.
She hasn't told me a lot recently. But when she talks about the period that inspired this mail, she refers to it as "that time when they were having issues".
I take that to mean things have improved...but she is still TTC.

Good news then, wishing her marital bliss.

aameyah:
MrsOJ

They are still together.
She hasn't told me a lot recently. But when she talks about the period that inspired this mail, she refers to it as "that time when they were having issues".
I take that to mean things have improved...but she is still TTC.

How is this your friend doing now? Hope she's fine and with kids too? Life and it's challenges! It is well.

micxwell:

How is this your friend doing now? Hope she's fine and with kids too? Life and it's challenges! It is well.

Marriage is just a scary shit.