The divorce rates today are increasing. The reason could be lack of communication, physical abuse, alcoholism or may be lack of love. Today, people get married very quickly and get divorced even more quickly. But they fail to visualize the negative impacts it could have on not just them but others also. They forget that life is the combination of both good and bad times and thus they rush in to get divorced with the first fight they had with their spouse. Here are some disadvantages of taking divorce. Hope it helps!

1. Bad Impact On Children:
Not just the couples who have split up are affected by the divorce, but also the children suffer and are affected with negativity. A research has proved that the children of a split-up couple are more prone to depression and low-confidence or even violence than others. Sometimes they end up blaming themselves for the divorce and in most of the cases they don’t even believe in the existence of a happy marriage. In many cases it was found that it was very difficult for them to take the sides of one parent. They want to be with both of them not just one of them. They never see love in their own home so they are the ‘Haters’ mostly.

There are some factors at home that are bad enough that unless they can be eliminated, a divorce might be better for the children. These include violence against the children or the spouse, continuing and open substance abuse, recurring inappropriate expressions of anger (like constant yelling or destruction of property), and continuous involvement of the children in the conflict between Mom and Dad. In the absence of one of these factors, however, research indicates that[i] children of intact but unhappy homes are on average happier and better adjusted than children whose parents have divorced[/i]. This is true even when parents make all the right decisions to help their children through divorce.


2. Divorce hurts:
We all know this in our minds, but it takes going through divorce to know in your gut just how painful divorce is. Imagine whatever adjectives you wish. Chances are they don't adequately describe the deep, searing, pain that comes from tearing a relationship at the same time that you adapt to the many other changes in your life that often flow from divorce. During divorce, you will likely feel things, think things, say things, and do things that you would never feel, think, say, or do during any other time of your life.


3. Changes Relationships with Friends and Family:
You were married for years and in this time there would be many friends and other people connected to both of you or just you. You may have considered your Best Friend like your BFF or some other one as your well wisher but after a divorce it won’t be very surprising if they act strangely or when you feel they are not the same with you anymore. With a divorce, their views about you could have changed. They may be witnessing the pain of the other one and may consider you as the bad person. So, with a divorce you don’t lose just one relationship but more!


4. Financial Challenges:
After Divorce you may feel like you have now turned poor because when you were married you always got what you wanted but why not now! With the legal procedure of the divorce emptying your account you could face other issues also. When you are married you feel responsible for anything and everything. You would think it is your liability to provide the necessities and facilities to your family. So you may be saving for it, or you may be investing safely. But once you are single again, you feel like flying free and you end up money-less with empty bank accounts.


5. Separation
When you were in that bad patch with your partner, you felt like leaving the next moment. But once you are divorced, you will surely miss them. And it is a perfectly normal thing as you have shared a lot of memories and you have known each other for years. They were your better half. But now you are single and you would miss the intimacy that you two shared; the laughs, the fights and everything about them. You may end up calling them and crying over it.


6. The Sanctity of the marriage is destroyed
A marriage is a holy union and supposed to hold despite all odds. If you believe in the inherent sanctity of marriage as an institution, you should work extra hard to keep it together. There are loads of people falling in love at first sight, getting married quickly and filing for divorce by the end of the month. Every other day, you hear of couples getting divorced. Marriage, as an institution, has become less holy. People seek quick fixes or rather, quick divorces, instead of ironing the differences. Be a role model and fight for your marriage. Be the couple that valued the institution of marriage and made it work, despite odds. If there’s anything worth fighting for, it is a relationship that once had promise and potential.


7. It creates a void
You said you were fed up of them. You said you are tired of this marriage thing. You felt like wanting that freedom again. You needed your single life again. You can’t be with them anymore. Okay. But what now? Are you ready to be single again? Do you really think you are capable of living that life again? In these years you were totally dependent on them. And they were always there for you whenever you needed them. Would you be able to live with that Void in your life? After Divorce, you will be all alone. Remember it.


8. Health Issues
A study has proved that the divorced people are found to be more ill then the others. After this big event in their life, their normal life is surely disturbed.A Chicago study involving 8,652 people aged 51 to 61, found divorced people have 20% more chronic illnesses such as cancer than those who never marry. They are also more susceptible to depression, heart ailments and diabetes, over the long term.


9. Starting a new relationship from scratch isn't easy.
Humans are social animals. The need for companionship is a basic human need. Everyone needs someone in their life to love and to be loved. It may be easier to forgive the person you know than start another relationship from scratch with someone whose behaviors you are unaware of. Knowing a person from start again could be a task. Moreover, with the new dating spree may come multiple sex partners, and the chances of Sexually transmitted diseases also increase.
For some people, sex with your married partner becomes boring. However, sex can become more experimental and fun with a partner over the years as you get more comfortable and expressive with each other!. Not to mention the benefits of having only one partner and consequently safer sex.


10. Coping with a new partner may be tasking.
Coping with a new partner may be a task If you have invested a lot of time and effort in the previous relationship. You have spent years getting accustomed to your partner’s way of life, likes, dislikes, habits, temperament, etc. Any other relationship and marriage will take as much time and effort. Are things really so bad, that you’re willing to throw all this away, to take your chance on another relationship that may or may not be the same? Chances of a second marriage ending in divorce are two-fold, as most people subconsciously look for someone similar to their first spouse.


Everyone has some issues in their life. Life is never smooth. But it eventually gets better. So don’t you think it would be better to try so that things between you two work out? It can’t be that bad! You can solve the problems, you should at least try. You loved that person with all your heart once. But all of it will be lost after the Divorce. If your partner is essentially a good person and you truly love him/her, you can find a way to work through this rough patch. As cliched as it sounds, love does make the world go round. People do crazy things in love. Seek professional help before you take any big decision. A trained and certified counselor will help you sort differences, and your marriage could become stronger than it was before.


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You and divorce these days.

Anyone planning divorce you?

Why get married?.... The impact on children is really the disadvantage

Not supporting divorce,but at times its better to walk out of a toxic marriage..

Marriage is good when both partners are on the same page,else prison break is imminent.

cococandy:
You and divorce these days.

Anyone planning divorce you?

Just ruminating about the ugly consequences of it, the way some people throw the word around this forum like it is Akara.

Yomieluv:
Not supporting divorce,but at times its better to walk out of a toxic marriage..

Marriage is good when both partners are on the same page,else prison break is imminent.

no two human beings on this planet can always be on the same page forever. That is why they are individuals. There is bound to be disagreement, some lasting minutes, others lasting days and years. It is the ability to pass through these trying times that is the true test of a relationship.

5minsmadness:

no two human beings on this planet can always be on the same page forever. That is why they are individuals. There is bound to be disagreement, some lasting minutes, others lasting days and years. It is the ability to pass through these trying times that is the true test of a relationship.

thank God you said we are all human.

Meaning we handle things differently..no one size fit all solution in marriage.

5minsmadness:

no two human beings on this planet can always be on the same page forever. That is why they are individuals. There is bound to be disagreement, some lasting minutes, others lasting days and years. It is the ability to pass through these trying times that is the true test of a relationship.

I like this post

Yomieluv:
thank God you said we are all human.

Meaning we handle things differently..no one size fit all solution in marriage.

Nobody is talking of one size fitting all. If you are going into something as serious as marriage you should be matured enough to weather the storms that inevitably come with it. Getting a divorce just because you can or because you discovered your partner isn't everything you dreamed s/he would be is grossly immature and irresponsible and will hurt you on the long run.

woky:
I like this post

thank you.

5minsmadness:

Nobody is talking of one size fitting all. If you are going into something as serious as marriage you should be matured enough to weather the storms that inevitably come with it. Getting a divorce just because you can or because you discovered your partner isn't everything you dreamed s/he would be is grossly immature and irresponsible and will hurt you on the long run.

bro,no matter how careful you are,just pray to God for good marriage,people change after marriage. A once loving partner can be bedrock of hatred,talking from first hand experience...

People react differently to issues,what you can take in stride,is enough to end some people's marriage. My cousin left his wife,claiming she's dirty. This is someone he dated for 6years before marriage.

So marriage is very complicated..

Yomieluv:
bro,no matter how careful you are,just pray to God for good marriage,people change after marriage. A once loving partner can be bedrock of hatred,talking from first hand experience...

People react differently to issues,what you can take in stride,is enough to end some people's marriage. My cousin left his wife,claiming she's dirty. This is someone he dated for 6years before marriage.

So marriage is very complicated..

As in, your cousin divorced his wife because she was untidy in the house?
did they do church wedding? Did they have children?
I can understand some things will make a marriage unbearable but untidiness sounds a little petty to me.

Royver:


As in, your cousin divorced his wife because she was untidy in the house?
did they do church wedding? Did they have children?
I can understand some things will make a marriage unbearable but untidiness sounds a little petty to me.

they have a daughter,they did church,and court.

We are thought my cousin was joking,till they separated,and later head to court for divorce.

Separation is not only a short added for kids. It's a long-time danger to their learned execution, their skills to focus on connections, and their psychological well-being.
http://www.beanyblogger.com/kenpatrick71/2017/11/17/why-hire-a-divorce-lawyer/

What about a situation where before you marry your wife that something unusual like this happen and despite all odds the husband tried all his best to make it work but the wife promicious life inherit from her parent does lett go,with the husband shortcoming and possible to make it work again because of the children,loneliness been the husband and fearing of another case of such,how would the husband go about this situation

nice one op