I was going through the news feed on Facebook yesterday when I saw a post where a guy was seeking advice on how to tell his wife to stop using his phone without hurting her feelings.

I simply replied him "Oga she is your wife and your phone is her phone.".

I was shocked this evening when I checked Facebook again and saw the number of replies my comment has gathered. Here is some of them.

1: From a Guy: Says who, why will she be going through his phone, when you marry allow your wife do dat. It is a No No for me.

2: From a lady: A normal matured woman shouldn't touch her husband's phone else she wants to die before her time she should engage her self in other things abeg.

3 From a Lady: It's a mobile phone and that automatically makes it a personal thing so therefore wife has no right to go through his phone and more so it's advisable for her to look away and stay healthy in her matrimonial home......


What Do You Think? Is Checking Your Partner's Phone That Bad?

Depends on the marriage

bukatyne:
Depends on the marriage

I think such marriage is half-dead.

Nothing wrong...since they both have nothing to hide

Depends on what exactly you are checking the phone for.

No it isn't.

I think a greater marriage, is a transparent one.

No
It depends on the existing r/ship btw the couple

I have no issues with u checking my phone
But pls don't question me when u see admirers msgs
Na u know wetin u find go my phone
U only see what u ask of

And yes if I go thru ur phone too, my loss/gain

MzNelly:
Depends on what exactly you are checking the phone for.

What are the things she is not supposed to check?

Dyt:
I have no issues with u checking my phone
But pls don't question me when u see admirers msgs
Na u know wetin u find go my phone
U only see what u ask of

And yes if I go thru ur phone too, my loss/gain

We talking about married people.

BTW the problem is not what your admirers sent to you, Your response to them is what may get him angry.

Check my phone at your own risk

not advisable, wht you don't know will never hurt you.

brito:
Check my phone at your own risk

He should get a shock absorber shey?


But a married woman/man shouldn't be keeping such in her phone.

Tallesty1:
I think such marriage is half-dead.

What I have learnt on NL and further interactions is that people's definition of what a marriage should be is so diverse.

It is extremely important that singles get someone with same mindset..

Tallesty1:
He should get a shock absorber shey?


But a married woman/man shouldn't be keeping such in her phone.

Its a mobile phone so stay off, I delete my msgs sha, I dey avoid problem. my phone was once destroyed cause of a msg.

Tallesty1:
What are the things she is not supposed to check?

The messages.
That's the height of insecurity.

Sometimes,even in marriage,somethings should remain personal.

What the eye doesn't see,the mind doesn't bother about.

It is only when you are hiding something that you will be scared when your spouse goes through your phone...

Clear Conscience Never Fears Midnight Knocking...

Don't go snooping else you just might get what you won't like. Avoidance is the just best, I think that's all I can say.

MzNelly:


The messages.
That's the height of insecurity.

What are in the messages if I may ask.

brito:





Its a mobile phone so stay off, I delete my msgs sha, I dey avoid problem. my phone was once destroyed cause of a msg.

Those minor texts could cause great problems if we are not careful with them.

Tallesty1:
We talking about married people.

BTW the problem is not what your admirers sent to you, Your response to them is what may get him angry.

And who says married women don't have admirers?

Infact I have more admirers than some single ladies

Tallesty1:
Those minor texts could cause great problems if we are not careful with them.

I don't keep msgs on my whatsapp o, if I want to sleep I off my data connection, Lolz

Like someone stated earlier it depends on your reasons for using your partner's phone, if it is just to make calls or browse then I have no problem with that.

Going through your partner's phone just to check their activities is not ideal for a healthy relationship.

E depend on d type of spouse wey them be. If them faithful, e no wrong. Bt if they are not,...

Tallesty1:
What are in the messages if I may ask.

If you have to sit down and start surfing through your spouse's phone, it's just too obvious you're sorting through it to confirm you have no rival.

Abi wetin you dey find inside im message?

there is nothing wrong with it
after all they are one flesh and body.



But if i see her searching my phone without any important reason eeh.war don start be that lol

brito:





I don't keep msgs on my whatsapp o, if I want to sleep I off my data connection, Lolz

The messages are no problem, but your response.

We have FREE access to each other's phone.

MzNelly:


If you have to sit down and start surfing through your spouse's phone, it's just too obvious you're sorting through it to confirm you have no rival.

Abi wetin you dey find inside im message?

Maybe they once gave you reason to suspect them. BTW the topic here isn't checking your partner's message.

Dyt:


And who says married women don't have admirers?

Infact I have more admirers than some single ladies

lols..... How do you handle them

Tallesty1:
Maybe they once gave you reason to suspect them. BTW the topic here isn't checking your partner's message.

Yes, you're taking it to a whole new dimension.

You're advocating for checking your spouse's phone if he/she acts suspiciously.
Okay.