jaelz:
I'm a young girl of 28 years. I'm married to a lovely husband that loves me so much but my problem is this. I married my hubby as a virgin but the first time we made love, he was expecting to see blood which he didn't and since then he has been accusing me of telling him lies about being a virgin.
I asked few of my friends and they told me that yes that blood is suppose to be a proof to that. I became more confused as I know deep down in me that am saying the truth. I confided in my mother and she told me the story of my life.
My mum said that when I was 4years old that our tenant called me into his room to come and take toys. The next thing she saw when I came out from the man's room was blood coming out from my vagina.
Immediately she called my father and they went to meet the man and lo and behold he had ran away. My problem now is should I explain to my hubby all this? Will he still love me? My readers please i need your honest advice.

did he marry u becos he loved u or becos u were a virgin?

This one just dey carry nairalander's play

freeboy604:




The husband has every right to have felt disappointed, even though the husband did not married her because she was a virgin he was very proud that his wife was a Virgin based on what his wife told him which would have strengthen their bond/trust, now that it turn out to be the opposite he is looking and thinking of is this how we are going to continue with a relationship that is supposed to be everlasting? He is a human being and as it is now, I will advice you allow your mother do the explanation to him, that you were not told on till this issue came up, with time he will overcome this challenge. Good bless.

Good. can this woman be my wife?

Since your husband is more interested in seeing blood, tell him to always kill a ram and shed its blood b4 and after having sex with you. Nonsense, bloody husband.

eminent007:


sure u meant to say "All well and good"

Obviously you know what a typo is; congratulations.

As usual people talking rubbish here... What is he values virginity? The men who have posted insults towards the husband are hypocrites....

The man's issue is not whether she is a virgin or not but the fact she lied to him from day one till the night of their first sex (though it wasn't a lie because she thought she was one)... As one poster said, let your mum tell him the truth as she told you

Onyinyechi1008:


and you from pluto to think that there are nt virgins out there:p

perhaps 2 out of a 100.

The disappointment from your hubby is understandable. Let me ask, if there was no blood, was there a triumphant entry? Because that should make you a liar, not the lack of flow.

jaelz:
I'm a young girl of 28 years. I'm married to a lovely husband that loves me so much but my problem is this. I married my hubby as a virgin but the first time we made love, he was expecting to see blood which he didn't and since then he has been accusing me of telling him lies about being a virgin.
I asked few of my friends and they told me that yes that blood is suppose to be a proof to that. I became more confused as I know deep down in me that am saying the truth. I confided in my mother and she told me the story of my life.
My mum said that when I was 4years old that our tenant called me into his room to come and take toys. The next thing she saw when I came out from the man's room was blood coming out from my vagina.
Immediately she called my father and they went to meet the man and lo and behold he had ran away. My problem now is should I explain to my hubby all this? Will he still love me? My readers please i need your honest advice.

Such an experience that isn't cherished.

(As some people have said here, it would have been easier of you had known about it and told your husband aforehand. ).

I feel your dad should be the one to explain to your husband about the recent news you just got( man to man). It should make things a lot better cos he might think you and your mum framed the story( just saying!) .

I was also abused as a child ( but i was aware and told my husband while courting my story)and married a virgin with little blood shedding on our first night.

All is well sis

imsuboi:
No offense.. Your husband is an illiterate like Buhari

Animal of your type calling Buhari an illiterate, What will you call your father who is a product of a broken condom, conceived through Blow-Job and born on the highway as that's where most accidents happen?

Una no fit read, she probably cldnt rmba wat happened @ dat age, so d mom had made it clr dat she was disvirgined @ age 4. All she need 2 do is jst xplain 2 d hubby abt d event and she meant no harm,cos if she had recorded such event in her memory, she won't claim 2 b a virgin..

Juzzybabe:

Do u know am having the same problem with my husband that until today he still calls me a bloody lair and finds it hard to think I didn't lie about my virginity Tho i was never touched or raped ooo. I tot I was the only one and always felt so shy to tell any1 about it. humm

Na wa o.All your hubby needs is education.You two should have built enough trust while dating.

imsuboi:
No offense.. Your husband is an illiterate like Buhari

How's he an illiterate? Maybe his reason for marrying the OP is the promise of blood on the first day of sex. He's disappointed and feels cheated. Same thing one smallie did to me, she said she was a virgin but as I dig the well reach I no jam blood.

OP please don't tell your husband, you can lie that when you were young and was washing your "apute republic", you pushed your finger in too deep and you noticed a little blood then but didn't think it would affect your being a virgin. Just wash him sha! Please don't forget to thank me later if my wash pays off.

jaelz:
I'm a young girl of 28 years. I'm married to a lovely husband that loves me so much but my problem is this. I married my hubby as a virgin but the first time we made love, he was expecting to see blood which he didn't and since then he has been accusing me of telling him lies about being a virgin.
I asked few of my friends and they told me that yes that blood is suppose to be a proof to that. I became more confused as I know deep down in me that am saying the truth. I confided in my mother and she told me the story of my life.
My mum said that when I was 4years old that our tenant called me into his room to come and take toys. The next thing she saw when I came out from the man's room was blood coming out from my vagina.
Immediately she called my father and they went to meet the man and lo and behold he had ran away. My problem now is should I explain to my hubby all this? Will he still love me? My readers please i need your honest advice.

Thanks for using Counter Attack for your husband.

na God Catch AM

Why are you married to him in the first place"
With a shallow thinking man like this your are bound to have a lot of problems"

crisycent:


How's he an illiterate? Maybe his reason for marrying the OP is the promise of blood on the first day of sex. He's disappointed and feels cheated. Same thing one smallie did to me, she said she was a virgin but as I dig the well reach I no jam blood.

OP please don't tell your husband, you can lie that when you were young and was washing your "apute republic", you pushed your finger in too deep and you noticed a little blood then but didn't think it would affect your being a virgin. Just wash him sha! Please don't forget to thank me later if my wash pays off.

OP don't listen to him. Don't ever lie to your husband. Furthermore, your mother claims someone called you into a room. Theres no proof that he did anything and you have no memories. Explain to your husband the science of the hymen. It is not rocket science. Lying to your husband is a big no no. Please do not do it

megareal:
Hubby is just showing his ignorance. Some women dnt bleed their first time. Get someone maturer to explain that to him...Even if you weren't abused as a kid, you still may not have bled.

Are u soooo sure about this, did u conduct a research or u just came up with this by some popular hear-say??

I don't know what is wrong with some lady
why telling your guy you a virgin even if u are it doesn't make sense, ladies are fun of saying as if being a virgin is every thing in this life. Nowadays we guys doesn't care about virgin, what we are looking for is beauty and good behavior, virgin without good character is worthless and naughty.
One lady is here in my street wasting her time telling me she is a virgin, immediately the love i have for her just fade away, she might be a virgin but too quick to tell me therefore i m not interested in her priority.
Some ladies are the genesis of their problem. I think they should try to keep relationship than saying irrelevant thing. If you think your virginity is so important to you just go and stay in the village.

No-one wuld be in d husband's situation and not act d same way,,,una don 4get say he must av endured so much til afta weddin,,,,I tink u nid a prior explanation to prove to him u we're truthful,,,in my own opinion,,,its wuld be beta if u inform ur mom,,tel her to help u explain dis issue of ur childhood experience to his mum or someone u knw he respects a lot(make sure its an older female),,let d person talk to him,,nd make him see reasons why u shld be trusted,,,am sure if he luvs u jst lik u stated here,,he wuld surely get ova it,,,dis issue sounds trivial,,bt d fact is d way u handle dis foundational problem mite tell a lot about d longetivity of ur marriage,,,

Amhappy:
Everybody does not bleed the first time. You can take him to someone (possible a doctor) who will explain that to him or make him ask goggle. His expectation was dashed sha,eyaaaa.

Is it their last night that they will bleed?

All these lies you people are sharing here o, diaris godo o

All these not-all-girls bleed on their first day of intercourse will give more girls the gut to be lying about their virginity and deceiving guys with: not all girls bleed, hmm, hmm

soulglo:


OP don't listen to him. Don't ever lie to your husband. Furthermore, your mother claims someone called you into a room. Theres no proof that he did anything and you have no memories. Explain to your husband the science of the hymen. It is not rocket science. Lying to your husband is a big no no. Please do not do it

The mom told her she was raped. Will her own mother lie? What's worst? Telling her husband that she was raped or telling her something to avert all that insult? On your own oo.

U2ice:


Well in ma opinion, gainin ur trust bac is very paramount so I fink ur mum shud do d work of explainin 2ur husband...cos if I b ur hubby I no go believ ur good mornin o
Meanwhile nt every1 bleeds on dia 1st time

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The problem now is that the hubby might consider it a concocted lie by herself and her mum.

This is why parents should explain things to kids when they turn adult, like 18 to 21 years old.
Especially something as serious as this.

Eljay24:
Why are you married to him in the first place"
With a shallow thinking man like this your are bound to have a lot of problems"

Put yourself in the man position
The man have some type of expectations
Hopefully, he can move pass that

jaelz:
I'm a young girl of 28 years. I'm married to a lovely husband that loves me so much but my problem is this. I married my hubby as a virgin but the first time we made love, he was expecting to see blood which he didn't and since then he has been accusing me of telling him lies about being a virgin.
I asked few of my friends and they told me that yes that blood is suppose to be a proof to that. I became more confused as I know deep down in me that am saying the truth. I confided in my mother and she told me the story of my life.
My mum said that when I was 4years old that our tenant called me into his room to come and take toys. The next thing she saw when I came out from the man's room was blood coming out from my vagina.
Immediately she called my father and they went to meet the man and lo and behold he had ran away. My problem now is should I explain to my hubby all this? Will he still love me? My readers please i need your honest advice.

story 4 the gods

I did not bleed the first time and I was a pure virgin, please tell him to read this, not all virgins are bleeders.

Some guys self am sure he's not a virgin. I suggest your mum should tell him everything dah happened.

alutacontinua:



I dunno how but you just know the story tellers

;Dhahahahahaha. Very funny! Thanks for the comic relief.

soulglo:


We are gathered here today to discuss emm, emmm. Okay before we start let us pray

Allureoftheseas:
If you're really concerned about proving it to him you can take him to sexologist or gynecologic which will explain it to him that sometimes membrane can be damaged, hence no blood. Some women are born without it.
I could say - make him research it on the internet but frankly, I believe he's too shallow to listen to it. Specialists will explain it to him clearly.
Still I would be really disappointed in a man that values your virginity higher than you.
Next time take ketchup with you and plaster it all over the bed. Tell him to clean up this mess

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Hmmmmm... More like it!

romzyxy:



lol.......nt is fault he took indian hemp.

jaelz:
I'm a young girl of 28 years. I'm married to a lovely husband that loves me so much but my problem is this. I married my hubby as a virgin but the first time we made love, he was expecting to see blood which he didn't and since then he has been accusing me of telling him lies about being a virgin.
I asked few of my friends and they told me that yes that blood is suppose to be a proof to that. I became more confused as I know deep down in me that am saying the truth. I confided in my mother and she told me the story of my life.
My mum said that when I was 4years old that our tenant called me into his room to come and take toys. The next thing she saw when I came out from the man's room was blood coming out from my vagina.
Immediately she called my father and they went to meet the man and lo and behold he had ran away. My problem now is should I explain to my hubby all this? Will he still love me? My readers please i need your honest advice.

Wats all dis bouh virginity stuff? Was ur husband a virgin wen he married u? Love conquers all