Sibling rivalry occurs most commonly among adults, teenagers or even among children. However the extent and seriousness of this rivalry becomes more profound as we get older. As each brother or sister find partners of their own, the emphasis shifts from each other to the newly found spouse or partner. Negative suggestions like jealousy, competition and other sorts of issues creep into the sibling relationship, creating discord between brothers and sisters. As a parent, sister or brother, or even as a friend, you can adopt the following strategies to help mend the relationship between siblings.


1.1
As a parent of adult children, try not to choose sides or show favorites.

This encompasses many facets of daily life and most importantly deals with simple everyday issues. Parents tend to often dote on their richer, more successful sons or daughters, who seemingly make them proud parents. Focus on the simpler less successful kids as well and help them along with patience and love.


2.2
Do not compare siblings under any circumstances.

Siblings may have the same genetic makeup but ultimately they are unique individuals who make their own print and their own story in this journey of life. Rather, encourage one to help the other.

3.3
Avoid interfering husbands or wives from ruining the relationship.

If one's spouse shows remorse or indifference, find a workable solution around this problem. You can either choose to visit siblings on your own, without the presence of your disgruntled spouse. Alternatively plan your own private get together and leave spouses behind. This may not be easy to accomplish, but it is possible if you only try.

4.4
Protect each other in times of trouble and difficulties.

Others should know well enough that you will not tolerate slander against a brother or sister. Others will inadvertently know where to draw the line in order to protect their own relationship which they intend to have with you.

5.5
Make time in your busy schedule to communicate and keep in touch.

This can include a polite phone call, forwarding e mails to each other or any other form of establishing family ties. Avoid lengthy or long breaks away from each other. This will only help to create a distance or weaken the bond between yourself and other siblings.

6.6
Encourage the children of siblings ( cousins ), to participate in joint activities.

These may include play sessions,going to the movies, a day at the beach, excursions, a day at the park etc. This will indirectly bring the parents (siblings), closer together.

7.7
Help each other to grow financially and morally.

Take over from your parents by helping a younger brother or sister get through university, graduate school etc. At the same time this does not mean allowing a younger sibling to sponge off you. Financial help should also incorporate some form of responsible behavior on the part of the other.

8.8
Reflect on your childhood memories as often as possible.

This behavior strengthens the bond and creates warmth and compassion amongst siblings. This can be also used as an attempt to repair or restore broken or strained relationships between siblings. It also reinforces a sense of belonging and creates a sense of commonality amongst each other.

9.9
Avoid competing with each other.

Life is not a contest and there is no winner amongst siblings. Be proud of each others achievements and see them as your own. This success should be a part of the bigger family, the bigger picture and should bring you joy rather than grief.

Courtesy:
http://understandingyourfamily..in/2015/01/9-ways-on-how-to-avoid-sibling-rivalry.html

Good... Lemme Create a backup till when i become a father

Lemme add mine

Give the equal opportunities in life
Let them have an opinion, don't silence their dreams

Sibling rivalry can not be completely avoid. One should just let nature take its course.

remsonik:
Lemme add mine

Give the equal opportunities in life
Let them have an opinion, don't silence their dreams

I see parents that impose their own opinions on their kids without allowing the kids expressing their own will as tyrants or rather myopic in their reasoning abt life.

@op, great write up. Also more here on this topic here:
http://nigerianparentsforum.com/npf/strategies-for-parental-and-sibling-bonding/9451-bonding-the-key-to-a-peaceful-family

smartmom:
@op, great write up. Also more here on this topic here:
http://nigerianparentsforum.com/npf/strategies-for-parental-and-sibling-bonding/9451-bonding-the-key-to-a-peaceful-family

Nice, thankz dearie

Seun, front page

I av seen nasty sibling rivalry especially sisters.