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Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by 5minsmadness: 1:46pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
EfemenaXY:Hahahhaa Just seeing this, ok I get it. The op is one of the longest I have ever seen and he refused to shorten it though the full story is very interesting. |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by crackhaus: 2:00pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
Timbuktou:That's the thing, no one says they shouldn't have a sense of importance or considerable self-esteem, everyone should...but when it comes to how anyone else outside of your family and close friends see you, better prove yourself beyond just looks and having a vag!na to get any kind of respect. Some women have been in polygamous marriages and succeeded - so when one young woman comes with the notion of being too special/important to support polygamy, I'm appalled. I mean, on what basis? Is it beauty, education, accomplishments, intelligence, or what exactly? I honestly want to understand this, cos the only explanation I have is the princess-complex. The women who were and are still involved in polygamous marriages are less women because of their choice, meaning they have no self-esteem. Lmao...what a joke. 3 Likes |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by EfemenaXY: 2:04pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
5minsmadness: Exactly. You did a good job on this one, thus my asking you to repeat the same gesture on the other thread. I'm too lazy to read epistles. Unless of course, it's got the hall mark of a good story. That intial hook. |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by Nobody: 2:18pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
Timbuktou: Who cares? Like I said, my self-esteem does not depend on other people's approval of me. Whether I look like Kim Kardashian or Patience Jonathan doesn't matter, I have a very healthy self-esteem and the foundation was laid a long time ago. And some people on this thread should stop projecting their self-esteem issues on women. Stop dreaming about polygamy when you probably cannot even keep one woman. That said, what have YOU got to offer that a woman will want you to come to her bed after you have inserted your d*ick into someone else some hours before? Yuck! 5 Likes |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by crackhaus: 2:43pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
She's still ranting, it must have hurt... Polygamy all the way, the women are available and willing... Boss! 3 Likes |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by cococandy(f): 3:07pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
I'm still agreeing with you. Since it is too late for you to affect the mindsets of those of us who have already grown without a Ehen. You can influence the future generation by what you teach your daughters and insist they carry on the legacy to their own daughters. In the end the beautiful world where what a man's loins wants is more important than how his wife feels about it can be achieved. And thanks to you for that. What again are you typing long speech for? Put your effort where your mouth is. crackhaus: 5 Likes |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by cococandy(f): 3:08pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
crackhaus:so what's stopping you? 4 Likes |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by cococandy(f): 3:17pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
You guys should not blame us for our princess mentality. It is our mothers' faults. They told us the time has gone when a lady has to put up with any kind of disrespect especially the grave disrespect of another woman being brought into your home as a competition or substitute. Clear message that the first one is not enough. You can't blame us for growing up that way. That's the only way we knew how. Train your daughters the way you want ladies to be. Beautiful, humble, hardworking, independent and willing to swallow shyte and a barrage of STDs No body will stop you. Now can y'all stop disturbing us with your unachievable sexual fantasies? I have fantasies too . The site will crash if I start trying to force them on readers. 3 Likes |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by Nobody: 3:20pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
carefreewannabe:1. Which means you're not qualified to determine whether or not wives in a polygamous home have any sort of self esteem or not. . Their self esteem does not depend on your approval, does it? 2. Oh, please, I'm the man. Simple. I carry enough man for multiple women. Fact. |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by Nobody: 3:22pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
Timbuktou: Did I say they have no self-esteem or that it depends on my approval? 2. Oh, please, I'm the man. Simple. I carry enough man for multiple women. Fact. I am not stopping you. Go ahead. 2 Likes |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by Nobody: 3:23pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
crackhaus: 1. True that. 2. Lol. They must be better than those I previously listed. What poor self esteem Kudirat must have had. 3. A laughable summation. Michelle Obama has more self esteem than Kudirat then. Funny people. They miss the forest for trees. |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by crackhaus: 3:24pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
cococandy:Lmao...if you don't bring my unborn daughters (whose business is none of yours) into your retort, won't you be able to make your point? If I decide to descend to your level and talk about your personal stuff, you'll start lamenting Just take the sublime message in my long post and deal with it - you don't have to like it, but you don't have to hate on it either...or are you confirming that you're one of those with the I'm too special, princess mentality? If you are, please tell us why you're special and cannot entertain a second wife... 3 Likes |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by crackhaus: 3:27pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
cococandy:Who said anything was stopping me? Or do you doubt my capabilities in having a harem of beautiful and endowed women at my beck and call? |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by crackhaus: 3:30pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
cococandy:What is unachievable about a man marrying more than one woman? Is it as impossible as you marrying more than one man? 2 Likes |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by Nobody: 3:33pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
carefreewannabe: 1. Well, it seemed implied in statements of your own self esteem. So, you're saying that women who agree to polygamy don't necessarily have self esteem issues? Just want to be clear. 2. Oh, I hardly have the will to have families all over the place. I might reconsider if you were willing to give it a try with me, though. But, be warned I have high standards. |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by cococandy(f): 3:33pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
No seriously that wasn't personal. That's the only sensible way I can think of whereby one can effect any change. I will also teach my unborn daughters what my mom taught me. How's that personal information? The kids are not even born yet? Well I hope you took my message too and stored in your archives somewhere. You don't have to like it either. Or maybe you do like it seeing as it will help you raise a new generation of great women. Of course I'm one of those with 'I'm a princess mentality'. The same reason why you're to awesome to share your wife is the same reason I'm too wonderful to share my husband. Why does that need explaining? crackhaus: 5 Likes |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by cococandy(f): 3:34pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
crackhaus:and I asked what's stopping you then? At least start with one. The closest you can come to two wives is on nairaland. deal with it. If it was that easy, why are you complaining about ladies with princess mentality? Since there are a million and one ladies willing to share, what's your complain about? 4 Likes |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by Nobody: 3:34pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
crackhaus:Key words in bold...and desperate too. Hehehehe. |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by Nobody: 3:37pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
Timbuktou: Exactly. 2. Oh, I hardly have the will to have families all over the place. I might reconsider if you were willing to give it a try with me, though. But, be warned I have high standards. Sorry, I am not willing to give you a try. I don't like it crude, I like it suave ... so much for standards. 2 Likes |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by cococandy(f): 3:40pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
crackhaus:yes I doubt it. Pictures or... 1 Like |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by Nobody: 3:43pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
carefreewannabe:Lol. Funny girl, the best men have always had more than the average share of women. Their being negates monogamy, deal with it. None of the best men in the world is monogamous, except, maybe, Obama who's under intense surveillance. And even he gets millions of untoward advances from women. Carefree, that's the reality of the life we live. Moreover, with your busy lives nowadays, you can hardly match the libido of a healthy male. Hehhehe. As for standards, you'd need to have a multi-flavoured thermostated vagiina, inflatable breaasts; no offence, really. |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by Nobody: 3:44pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
Timbuktou: In your world, not in mine. Carefree, that's the reality of the life we live. Moreover, with your busy lives nowadays, you can hardly match the libido of a healthy male. Hehhehe. Let him meet mine first. |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by Nobody: 3:47pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
carefreewannabe:Ah, Carefree. Ignorance is obviously bliss. Hmm, woman, are you taking a shot at an invite? How dare you? That's disgusting |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by crackhaus: 3:47pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
cococandy:At least start what with what? You mean get married? Is that a hard thing? Do you know how many marriage proposals I've had to turn down for my own sanity? Sorry I don't consider marriage an achievement, I know you do... deal with that! 2 Likes |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by Nobody: 3:49pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
I'm just a little shocked at housewives, who's only claim to importance cooking and breeding , claiming self esteem. It's laughable. Sad, even. 1 Like |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by crackhaus: 3:54pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
cococandy:Where did you see the complain? From what I remember, I made my comment and exited the thread - you're the one who brought me back here cos the comment hit you like a jolt of lightening. My dear, an expository on what I notice is not the same thing as complain - unless I should never state my opinions because guilty girls won't like it... NO CAN'T DO! 1 Like |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by Nobody: 3:57pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
Timbuktou: That's the reason why you sound so blissful then, now I understand. 1 Like |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by cococandy(f): 3:58pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
crackhaus:lmao. You want to be a polygamist without marriage. How are you going to get the plenty wives? Kidnap? I actually don't consider marriage an achievement. I got more marriage proposals than I could handle in my own time until I chose one person. It is nice to know you're getting plenty proposals too. I will remember that for the day you join the bandwagon of those who say women don't prosose to men. And guess what? So many women are dying to be with you, what better chance of building your harem than now? I'm sure they are willing to provide for themselves too,compete for your love, be at your beck and call and pamper you on top of all that. Just for a chance to experience your majestic awesomeness. liar! 4 Likes |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by crackhaus: 4:01pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
cococandy:I'm not too awesome to share a wife, no woman will be able to handle me and another man at the same time...she wan die? In the spirit of teaching our unborn children, you should make sure you teach your daughters to opt for divorce at the first sign of disagreement with their husband, even when they're caught cheating... 1 Like |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by cococandy(f): 4:02pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
crackhaus:dude you were complaining bitterly about the ladies with princess mentality and the 'I'm too special' kind of thinking That shouldn't even feature in your comment if it was that easy to garner the plenty brides. Since you agree it is the prevailing mentality among ladies nowadays( your exact words), then we both agree you've successfully contradicted yourself. By your own admission, it is not easy to find such ladies these days. You can keep arguing on both sides of the spectrum. For and against. Only you 4 Likes |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by Nobody: 4:02pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
carefreewannabe:Lol. Good one. Well, sis, don't say you weren't told. |
Re: The Apata Wives: Bonded By Uncommon Love by Nobody: 4:03pm On Jan 24, 2015 |
Timbuktou: Ok. |
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