An Ikorodu Customary Court has today, Friday 23 January, dissolved an 8-month-old marriage over the constant harassment from the husband’s mother-in-law.

Following constant harassment of Mr. John Obah, 37, by his mother in-law, the Customary Court dissolved his eight-month-old marriage to Gift, 21.

John Obah, a trader, had approached the court asking to divorce his wife over allegations that his mother in-law always came with dangerous weapons to fight him each time they had misunderstanding. He also told the court that his wife did not sleep at home regularly as a house wife.

He said, “My wife often goes to her parents’ house and stay overnight for three times in a week. Anytime I have a misunderstanding with my wife, my mother in-law usually comes to fight me with dangerous weapons. I will be physically abused and my clothes torn by both of them; my mother in-law usually curses me that I will die like a fowl. Upon the incessant threat from my mother in-law, I changed the padlock to the house but they still came to burgle it. Anytime she demands for money and I don’t give it to her, her mother will come to insult me. Although our disputes were later settled by my father in-law but I don’t think I can cope with their continuous troublemaking.”

The estranged wife, and a mother of one, said her husband battered her so much that she usually runs to her parents’ house for safety.

She said, “He doesn’t even respect my parents and he has not been taking good care of me. I am no more interested in the marriage; I want to go back to school.”

The court’s President, Mr. Olu Adebiyi, in his judgment, granted the couple divorce and warned them to refrain from harassing and molesting each other.

He also said the petitioner should pay N5, 000 to the respondent for the monthly upkeep of their only six-month child and that the child should be in the custody of the mother. He also ordered the mother in-law to steer clear of the petitioner’s ways.

http://www.bellanaija.com/2015/01/23/lagos-court-dissolves-8-months-old-marriage-over-mother-in-laws-constant-harassment/

dre11:
Just eight months old marriage and they are back to the courts for seperation






What did this two individual see in each other that made them to sign the dotted lines.......

And
When is interference from the in-laws become negative?

qualified:
The girl's family married out her quite too early. I guess she wasn't matured in mind yet when she got married. Now she is divorced at 21!

qualified:
The girl's family married out her quite too early. I guess she wasn't matured in mind yet when she got married. Now she is divorced at 21!

pickabeau1:
But the girl says the MaN beats her

dre11:


Don't you think the beating must have started before they did get married


So, the lady did know that the man is capable of beating her....... Yet she had to get pregnant for him before they had the martial vows

qualified:
The girl's family married out her quite too early. I guess she wasn't matured in mind yet when she got married. Now she is divorced at 21!

pickabeau1:


He may have pretended

We don't know when beating started

dre11:


Pretence is the game
But,

Is it possible to pretend all thought the relationship before u walk down the alter

pickabeau1:



Some do it

dre11:


Am guessing the lady wasn't observant



There is no way he won't be off guard for a day
Maybe she just look the other way saying its might be a mistake........


Because someone that just turned 180 degree all of sudden in marriage must have give her the vibe but she never picked it

Babe2sure:



Later in life, when asked what her greatest regret is? She will say, 'marrying too young'. (Baby wife palaver).

Her mother's interference does not help matters.

And the husband disrespecting the wife's family is wrong.

All these combined to make their differences irreconcilable.

Babe2sure:



Later in life, when asked what her greatest regret is? She will say, 'marrying too young'. (Baby wife palaver).

Her mother's interference does not help matters.

And the husband disrespecting the wife's family is wrong.

All these combined to make their differences irreconcilable.

yemmit90:
The foundation of their union is faulty.

The age gap between them is just too much.

The girl is immature and lack basic home training to understand the concepts of marriage.

The girl is not ready for marriage

The husband might be too dominant and rigid.

The husband lack respect towards her family.

The husband is not take good care of her.

dre11:


Being matured is not a matter of age or size

But, I have this feeling that she was being materialistic for her to have fall for the guy


Because she would have seen the pointers but ignore them because she wants to satisfy her thirst and greed

qualified:


I disagree with u on both points. Age is very important in maturity especially when marriage is involved. Divorced at 21? Meaning the marriage/ relationship started at about 19! How do u expect a teenager or someone that young to recognize those signs or pointers?

Saying " she wants to satisfy her thirst and greed?
Hmm, are u the woman-beater in question? Because that statement is just too judgmental for the poor girl!

And don't forget, research has it that most woman-beaters are poor and frustrated, so there may not be wealth involved.

dre11:


Hum
Omotala married at the age of 18years and she still keeps her marriage till now
I know a lot of ladies that married at 19 and 20 and still use wisdom to keep their home because they are matured in that aspect


Also, I know of ladies that married at 30 and their homes aren't no more

When u talk about maturity..... Age plays little part on it but its you, experience, upbringing, information and capacity to develop faster in all hemisphere.

qualified:


Pls don't use what happened in the 19th and 20th centuries to judge this 21st century. They are not the same, no matter how u deny it.

JEITO:
37-21, the age cap is way too much na

cococandy:
The mother was protecting her child.

You beat my daughter, I beat you too if she can't beat you back herself.

Kini big deal.