Closetoheart:


Uhmmmm. What am I supposed to do? Leave him?

My dad told me that despite all the things my mum did to him (some were obvious to us- the kids), he vowed not to divorce or separate from her. Because his dad divorced his mum and that made his life difficult. He sacrificed his love, happiness an d joy for his kids so that we would not be raised in a broken home. So would that be too much to sacrifice for my children? The only reason I will leave my husband is if he marries another wife or commits any other atrocity of that category. I am not blindly in love, but I am just wise.

thorpido:
I'm not pro-divorce.I actually encourage forgiveness and reconciliation.
However,I do see so many people hurt in marriages(especially women)and it doesn't make sense to keep staying in such marriages.A woman told me of how she recently found out her husband has a baby from another woman.I'm I going to tell her to keep staying in that marriage if she wants to leave.Can she really be happy in that union?
The reality is that your hubby can pick up and infection outside and you could get infected if you sleep with him.You say you will protect yourself but I don't see how a woman will keep having sex with her husband with a condom.
Seek a genuine change for your husband.Encourage him to see a counsellor and better still a sex therapist.

mutter:


What can a woman do?
How can she prevent it? She either takes it or leaves.
You know this is something that is very painful for a woman, and it makes marriage so difficult. But what choice does the woman have. At some stage you get tired of screaming, shouting, crying, hurting and so on.
You just resign yourself to it so you can have some sanity and energy to focus on your kid`s.

The other question is why should one be in a permanent stage of protecting ones self against imminent danger?

Tallesty1:
Some women really have fish brain, she don smash the phone n destroy all d evidence. Who is gonna loose now?

Call her ppl, deny everything, accuse her of jumping into premature conclusion and insist that she apologize, maybe she'd learn her lesson.
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Joke aside, please stop chatting with that girl, when you are in a relationship or marriage, you must not do something that you won't like your partner to do to you.

Now answer me, will you be happy to see that type of chat in her phone?

If no, then why did you leave it your phone? You have no respect for her and her feelings.

If you are not ready to be open and honest in your marriage then you had better allow her to remain with her parents.

5minsmadness:

What would be your reason for going through his phone

elantraceey:
You are married not dating !!!!!! Should there really be such privacy and secrets in marriage?


I can't imagine dating someone that i can't go through his phone not to talk of getting married to one.

What was the chat like? Why am i even asking ? What kind of chat will infuriate a wife like that?


And you could still get angry



lemme stop joor

Closetoheart:


Uhmmmm. What am I supposed to do? Leave him?

My dad told me that despite all the things my mum did to him (some were obvious to us- the kids), he vowed not to divorce or separate from her. Because his dad divorced his mum and that made his life difficult. He sacrificed his love, happiness an d joy for his kids so that we would not be raised in a broken home. So would that be too much to sacrifice for my children? The only reason I will leave my husband is if he marries another wife or commits any other atrocity of that category. I am not blindly in love, but I am just wise.

auntymi:
u too get S.EX sensE, u said it all no plus nd no minus

MizMyColi:


Tallesty1
Making Sense Since Time imoriver.

Biko preach it.

Yes you have a point too.
We as ladies need to learn self control. No matter how angry anyone makes us.

I'm not saying I've finished learning how to control anger o, but sometimes, if I'm tempted to burst into a fist of rage.....I just ask myself first......
"What will this gra gra achieve now."
Other times, I really can't help it and I vex ......normally

Tallesty1:



FAINTS

Tallesty1:
I will like to see you angry one day.

They say, calm ppl are dangerous when they are on edge.

That's if they eventually snap, because they are known(@least majority of them) to manage anger perfect well............

I was angry today na. See Below

You should ask questions first before jumping into conclusions.
You on the other hand quoted me to make a rather unscrupulous comment by implying that I might likely get to have more than meets the eye with a person who harmlessly asked for my help and I gladly reciprocated.

Now, that's rude.


If you or anyone else think of me as rude and whatever ill-thought there is, it means my goal is gradually being accomplished.
It is perfectly okay to be human, flaws et al.

I am Human, not God. Like everyone else, I am capable of faltering - it's your cup of chinese tea if you can't stomach that.

You're right though. That's the bane of a Type 9.
Everyday, I find that I lose the capacity to get angry and cuss rabidly.
Sometimes e dey vex me sef.

Someone will annoy me and instead of me to bear a grudge or remain angry for long, I find that I actually bless them in my heart and sometimes apologise sef

Other times sha, I damn the consequences and get angry.
I might end up feeling miserable though.
No one is worth making me miserable, so I do my best to keep my cool

MizMyColi:




I was angry today na. See Below


You're right though. That's the bane of a Type 9.
Everyday, I find that I lose the capacity to get angry and cuss rabidly.
Sometimes e dey vex me sef.

Someone will annoy me and instead of me to bear a grudge or remain angry for long, I find that I actually bless them in my heart and sometimes apologise sef

Other times sha, I damn the consequences and get angry.
I might end up feeling miserable though.
No one is worth making me miserable, so I do my best to keep my cool

Tallesty1:
Lols, This one happened online So I didn't see your face.

What I want is to see the expression on your face when you are angry. Watch it's color change and predict ur next move. That's all.

Weird thoughts thou............


I do get angry once in a while but I don't show it. Partly because of the person I wish to become and partly because I do hard starting when I am angry.

I have learned to control it sha because it is very bad when I am "really" angry. very very bad.

Owh, offline?
Hmmm.....

I reserve my comment

Enoquin:
It really is depressing what some folks have turned marriage into. Last december, you lied before God and many witnesses. And that's why I respect athetists, at least their stand is known...unlike the 'christians' who profess to follow the steps of christ but live worse than most atheists.

Your assumption of 'living happily' is pure delusion. On one hand is you having your cake (wife and girlfriend/mistress) and eating it, on the other hand is a purely ignorant wife. December - Feb 11 is darn too short for you to misbehave and misyarn.

While some women can live with a cheating or abusive husband or men with an abusive wives, others cannot. Background of the victim is mostly important when giving advices especially if we want to break the cycle of emotionally dependant parent on their offspring(s). Some people can swallow akamu, others cannot. Some can bear to have co-wives, others cannot. Some cannot withstand secrecy and unnecessary privacy in their marriages, others can. What one can bear so they do not reach their breaking point is peculiar for each individual.

So, OP if you no longer desire your wife for this high 'wrong' she has committed. Go and return her brideprice then...If not buckle up and make that marriage work, it takes the reduction of 'I' for 'we' to work.

As for women, I know how emotional we can get but take a breather before you go smashing phones, tables and cars or before you start wailing. Times have changed ogbon is now required.

There was a time when men were kind and their voices were soft and their words inviting....there was a time, then it all went wrong - I dreamed a dream (Anne Hathaway)

MizMyColi:


Owh, offline?
Hmmm.....

I reserve my comment

princesslucy83:
She was not ready for Marriage. what if she catch you slaming a gal, would she die?
only Sms she wants DIVORCE,

SHE NEVER CHI CHUM CHIN.\\\\\\\\\\\\\\

charles009:

Though she has left the house this morning with some of her baggage, I am determined that I am never going to allow her enter my house again.

charles009:
Hey guys,

I got married to my wife last December, we have been living happily. But last night, events took a bitter twist. She woke me up 2.09am today and started raining abuses on me. Be for I could talk, she smashed my phone on the floor.

The question is why is she angry? She read an exchange of sms between me and a certain girl. I stead of her asking questions, she went extreme.

I don't visit her phones and I expect her to do the same. Am still asking how she managed to get the password.

Though she has left the house this morning with some of her baggage, I am determined that I am never going to allow her enter my house again.

Now I ask?? Is it right for her to breach my privacy and get into my phone?

charles009:
Hey guys,

I got married to my wife last December, we have been living happily. But last night, events took a bitter twist. She woke me up 2.09am today and started raining abuses on me. Be for I could talk, she smashed my phone on the floor.

The question is why is she angry? She read an exchange of sms between me and a certain girl. I stead of her asking questions, she went extreme.

I don't visit her phones and I expect her to do the same. Am still asking how she managed to get the password.

Though she has left the house this morning with some of her baggage, I am determined that I am never going to allow her enter my house again.

Now I ask?? Is it right for her to breach my privacy and get into my phone?

elantraceey:
You are married not dating !!!!!! Should there really be such privacy and secrets in marriage?


I can't imagine dating someone that i can't go through his phone not to talk of getting married to one.

What was the chat like? Why am i even asking ? What kind of chat will infuriate a wife like that?


And you could still get angry



lemme stop joor