bukatyne:




Drop your offering on the way out

PrettyClare7:
your post is filled with words of wisdom. Most girls seem to be chasing shadows instead life forgetting that we have just one life to live. No one who died ever came back we should make the best out of ourselves for ourself, our man and the world.

bukatyne:
Wrote this post on a thread years back and opened a thread based on it which was lost doing NL's tsunami. Just a word to we ladies



8. Ladies should add value to their relationships: Now you have a man, what value are you bringing to the table? Food? S/ex? Cleaning? I tell you that if a man only wants these, he wouldn't bother with a wife because marriage entails sacrifices and so much giving from both sides. A brother is looking for a companion he can fall back on. Someone that he can hold hands with through the journey of life. Do you encourage your man with words? How has his life improved since he met you? Please don't tell me you cook or clean; you're not his maid. Can he count on you for advise, do you trust his judgment? can he trust yours? Are you a warm blanket or a cold one? Can he find comfort in your arms? Do you ridicule him? Can he really be himself without you judging him? Do you pamper him? Take him for a treat? Treat him to the good things of life? Do you tell him you love him? Not after BB 10 or Gucci Bag! Do you tell him you are feel blessed you have him? (He must really be a blessing to you sha). Valentine is coming; show your man/friends and family love.

dre11:






When is the OP gonna have her own Valentine when we had our a just this last weekend

ShakurM:
Ladies this. Ladies that....
Una no get work?

KanwuliaJara:
. . . another one of 'those threads' of 'clandestine anti-feminist' agenda!

Like na only women these apply to?
Sheeeeeesh!

bukatyne:


LOLS

To edit that

What is your view on the OP?

bukatyne:


Thanks a lot and welcome to the thread

Glad you found it useful

MizMyColi:


It would be good to make it ladies and gentlemen y'know.....

That way, I won't feel like I killed Jesu Christi
Hence the burden of the world on my shoulders.

SAMBARRY:
not again with all this long long meaningless lists of dos and donts.anyway you don talk am finish sha

bukatyne:


3. Let Ladies be content with what they have: Yes, every lady wants to look good, wear Jimmy Choo shoes, Carry Gucci, Prada and LV bags but we should remember that all fingers are not equal. We should be content with what we can afford. A guy is NOT our meal ticket. Back in school, a lot of ladies used stuffs their parents couldn't afford and felt they are enjoying life (whatever that means). We should not compete with others around us. God has given each of us something to make us stand out. Discover it and develop it.

carefreewannabe:


Who says so?

bukatyne:


Lols

Welcome to the thread

Just decided to talk to ladies

A guy can open one for guys or I do So (If I can)

Okay, that'd be cool.

It's just the way we see "Ladies" topic everywhere.

Ladies, five thing you must do to keep a man.
Ladies, 10 things to show he is/is not the man for you.
Ladies, before you give up on that relationship
Ladies, how clean and modest are you.

It begins to give some of us who don't know any better the feeling that we're supposed to labour and slave for our relationships to work, while the guys have little or nothing to contribute.

It is even more annoying because the guys don't pay attention to "guys' " thread the way we ladies pay attention to "ladies' " thread.

I stand to be corrected though

Lol.

bukatyne:


Meaningless?

MizMyColi:



Okay, that'd be cool.

It's just the way we see "Ladies" topic everywhere.

Ladies, five thing you must do to keep a man.
Ladies, 10 things to show he is/is not the man for you.
Ladies, before you give up on that relationship
Ladies, how clean and modest are you.

It begins to give some of us who don't know any better the feeling that we're supposed to labour and slave for our relationships to work, while the guys have little or nothing to contribute.

It is even more annoying because the guys don't pay attention to "guys' " thread the way we ladies pay attention to "ladies' " thread.

I stand to be corrected though

Lol.

SAMBARRY:
to me and I am entitled to my opinion

dre11:


On your post or your online personality

irunoko:
KanwuliaJara like really?

bukatyne:


Opening post

bukatyne:


I understand you well that's why the thread is more about total outlook of ladies and not marriage

A lady who knows where she is going know the kind of man to roll with

Evina:



The original post is a great piece.
I really do not understand the fuss about the post being directed to ladies. I mean, the writer is a woman and if she wants to share some words of wisdom with mankind, it only makes sense for her to start with the women folk.

Besides, the bible talks about a WOMAN being responsible for either building her home or tearing it apart. So, if the women can get it right, the majority of the problem is solved.

To topic: a woman with 1, 5, 7 and 8 is awesome

dre11:


You made some good points over there..... Because he who wants something worthwhile must also make herself worthwhile for the other half

You can give what you don't have like wise you can't the other person can't appreciate you unless you given out something in equal proportions to what you did desire for

bukatyne:


Thanks

The OP was more on characteristics women should have... irrespective of their status (single or double)

Welcome to the thread

Evina:


Thank you I hope item 7 will be made available?

I think the earlier we develop the right attitude as women, the better. I mean, if a single woman has all of these, she will attract the right kind of man and will also be courageous enough to sieve the man from the boys

It is more work if she has already gotten a man based on her undeveloped character. Because, as she is evolving, she would also expect the man to. Except she is lucky to have nabbed a great guy, inspite of her limitations.

bukatyne:


Very True

@Item 7, will ask Seun

KanwuliaJara:


Feminism is not about the rights of 'LADIES' alone.

passionate88:
tell them o... I no just understand the way our Naija 'feminists' think