saaedlee:
What advice did u have fo her? Tell us; maybe we'll modify it, so dat she'll have no option than to listen to you and heed to it!

Mynd44:
What caused their problems?

emeraldoe:
First, what problems does she have with her husband?

FrancisTony:

A misunderstanding that i'm unware of.
She didn't tell me, but from what I've heard, her mum younger sister has been interfering in their family/marriage life.

emeraldoe:
she has to spill it out so she can get an advice. Interfering how? I tink she has something to hide OR is her aunt dating her husband

emeraldoe:
she has to spill it out so she can get an advice. Interfering how? I tink she has something to hide OR is her aunt dating her husband

Dheartless:
adultery is allowed
she should move on if she's not comfortable

Aprime:


Damn.
And people like you vote... SMH.

FrancisTony:
Well, this is about my female cousin.
Though, I've an advice for her, but I'm still a young boy and she would probably not heed to it.

She studied Architecture and got married the exact year she graduated.
Actually, she's the first child and her mum died on her penultimate year in University.
She gave birth to her first child(a girl), second child(boy) and third(girl) before she did her NYSC. She applied for a job through an advert, viola! She got the job but it was in University of Ilorin for an Architectural plans, and we all live in Lagos. Her husband obliged to it and she respected his decision.

She's in her early thirties, and she is now having a problem with her husband - i'm not sure they have divorced but she is no longer living with him. She was pregnant as of that time, and she just delivered her fourth child which happened to be a girl. During her Younger sister wedding ceremony, her husband was invited and she, herself was also there. He didn't even care to touch or carry the new born baby from her. He only came with his Asian male friend and they left afterward.

Whenever she wants to visit her children in their school, those kids would be shying away from her and it seems the man has poisoned their heart.
She currently stays with one our Uncle even though her dad owns a house, he is pestering and disturbing her to go back to her husband house and many people are advising her the same.

She's more educated than her husband as he's only an Igbo business man(he's practically well-do and owns a house too) and we aren't from the state.

Though she's looking for a job and swore not to beg her husband, I would like to get an advice from Nairalanders. Maybe, I would show her the comments to know her reactions.

Thanks

5minsmadness:
Correct me if I'm wrong but;

1. Her own family still invites him for occasions

2. Her own auntie goes to visit him

3. Her own children shy away from her

4. Her own uncle who is housing her is telling her to go back to her husband

5. All her family members have told her to go back to her husband

Op could it be ever so slightly possible that she could be the wrong member here and just needs to swallow her educated pride and apologise for whatever reason and return to her matrimonial home?

5minsmadness:

FrancisTony:

FrancisTony:

1) Nah! Just her sisters wedding. Her younger sister husband was a tenant in their house and he is also a business man.
I think he was the one that invited the dude.

2) Yes

3) Yes

4) Yes. But not pressuring her, just an advice.

5) All? Maybe

NickiRoman:
Your story isn't complete,You need to state the exact cause of the problem and stop beating around the bush. OR better still mind your beeswax.

KanwuliaJara:
Who has custody of the children?
Why does she have to 'visit' the children in school?

All we know is that the couple is having problems not living together.
So who do the children live with?

FrancisTony:
Okay, Lemme inquire what's the cause from her brother....

5minsmadness:

...and op was beaten senseless for not minding his own business and never came back to complete the story

THE END.