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An Honest And Admirable View Of Marriage A Man Must Consider... by Bre(f): 3:04am On Mar 03, 2015 |
I used to believe that most men had such an immature understanding of the true nature of a marital bond, given the way the media portrays men as whorish and with tunnel vision for making money and little room for much else. Of course, as I grew up and became more exposed to my male peers, I realised how superficial such an opinion was. The interview below was taken by a black American journalist perfectly tells the gains he has made in life brought on by the benefit of being married, which I find beautiful. I also hope that any guy out there reading this who needs to grow emotionally and change their view on marriage is touched in the spirit. I'd like to know your thoughts. "What the hell was I thinking? I was 31, single, making good money and living in Atlanta, a city that's been described as "happy hunting" for a single guy. I was living the life my grandfather told me to live when I was a small child: "Why get married and try to make one woman happy ... when you can stay single and make them all happy?" Granddad would have been proud. http://theybf.com/2015/03/02/news-anchor-tj-holmes-celebrates-his-5th-wedding-anniversary-reveals-why-he-got-married 3 Likes |
Re: An Honest And Admirable View Of Marriage A Man Must Consider... by nkenu(m): 3:56am On Mar 03, 2015 |
Very interesting. Front page plsssss... 1 Like |
Re: An Honest And Admirable View Of Marriage A Man Must Consider... by enoqueen: 5:57am On Mar 03, 2015 |
sooo sweeet |
Re: An Honest And Admirable View Of Marriage A Man Must Consider... by 1miccza: 6:21am On Mar 03, 2015 |
Bre: Awww the guy in this write up is so luckyy ,this is the kind of woman i pray for every day.. You can rarely find such around... 1 Like |
Re: An Honest And Admirable View Of Marriage A Man Must Consider... by CircleOfWilis: 6:25am On Mar 03, 2015 |
Wow, **motivated**I shall marry next year by God Grace 1 Like |
Re: An Honest And Admirable View Of Marriage A Man Must Consider... by Nobody: 7:26am On Mar 03, 2015 |
Woah,I love this.. This is a motivator to move me doing it right this year.. Marital life,here I come. 1 Like |
Re: An Honest And Admirable View Of Marriage A Man Must Consider... by Danhumprey: 7:43am On Mar 03, 2015 |
Such women described in the article are angels on Earth. Unfortunately,they are rare and difficult to find. Most women these days are terrible pain in the neck! |
Re: An Honest And Admirable View Of Marriage A Man Must Consider... by Bre(f): 12:32pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
Danhumprey: Please my dear, stop thinking like that. You will continue to attract such if that's the energy you put out into the universe. Reflect on the words written by this man and begin to walk and live in such a manner, trust me, you will start attracting a whole other batch of women and you'll find yourself spoilt for choice. Mods, I do believe more men can benefit from this by placing it on front page, abi 2 Likes |
Re: An Honest And Admirable View Of Marriage A Man Must Consider... by Bre(f): 12:36pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
CircleOfWilis: Yomieluv: I commend you guys, you like better tins *hi five* |
Re: An Honest And Admirable View Of Marriage A Man Must Consider... by Nobody: 1:03pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
Marriage is really enjoyable with the right partner, you will see yourself growing/getting better in all ramifications.. 1 Like |
Re: An Honest And Admirable View Of Marriage A Man Must Consider... by Nobody: 1:06pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
Danhumprey:How do you expect to find a 'good' woman with this mindset?? Besides, as described above marriage is partnership, the woman alone doesn't have to be good, you have to be good tooo!!! 3 Likes |
Re: An Honest And Admirable View Of Marriage A Man Must Consider... by Bre(f): 1:11pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
MarvellousGod: Please help me tell him You attract what you are. People cannot expect to find a great woman without first trying to be a great man for that woman. That's one of the main themes to this article. 3 Likes |
Re: An Honest And Admirable View Of Marriage A Man Must Consider... by pickabeau1: 2:24pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
Instead of writing articles telling men about the need for emotional growth why not write articles telling people like ou who are not grown up and are unexposed to boot? You see, the problem was with you all along You based on your beliefs on what you read and not what you experienced Bre: |
Re: An Honest And Admirable View Of Marriage A Man Must Consider... by greatgod2012(f): 2:49pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
Marriage...........so sweet when you're a right person with the right person. Conduct the same interview for the wife and she would have sweeter things to say about her husband..........so, it's not only about the wife, it's about the two of them.......you know, like attracts like.....like wife, like husband. 3 Likes |
Re: An Honest And Admirable View Of Marriage A Man Must Consider... by Bre(f): 2:55pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
pickabeau1: You see, I was woman enough to state my own shortcomings and how I outgrew them to now have a more positive outlook on men and marriage. I said all that to now show that this article further solidifies my belief in a happy matrimonial home and also how that stems from a good man. For you to only read my comment and not just pick out the negative, but fixate on it and also try to underhandedly insult me shows that you are not ready. I've made up my mind on how positively I now want to view the world, which I believe is the correct way, but you seem really bitter about that. Suit yourself 5 Likes |
Re: An Honest And Admirable View Of Marriage A Man Must Consider... by TV01(m): 3:05pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
Great piece. Really heart-warming and encouraging. There was another one yesterday about the 80 year-odd marriage. The Family section could do with at least one of these a day. Great stuff! TVMIC 3 Likes |
Re: An Honest And Admirable View Of Marriage A Man Must Consider... by babygirlfl: 3:30pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
Such a lovely piece. "What the hell was I thinking? I was 31, single, making good money and living in Atlanta, a city that's been described as "happy hunting" for a single guy. I was living the life my grandfather told me to live when I was a small child: "Why get married and try to make one woman happy ... when you can stay single and make them all happy?" Granddad would have been proud. Four fathers are not always right. Lately, though, I've been trying to make one woman happy. One woman. Since 2010, I've woken up to, eaten my meals with, vacationed with, had sex with, done everything with the same one woman. He is trying to make ONE woman happy. Well, I think I've figured it out, and my eureka moment came just this week as I was putting together a business email. I asked my wife to review it, and she thought the tone of the email was too aggressive, confrontational and negative. She was right. Her input stopped me from making the mistake of hitting send. That innocuous example is emblematic of our entire relationship. In all I do, I have a partner looking out for me, advising me, keeping me on track and stopping me from making a mistake, no matter how great or small. He listens to his wife. He sees his wife as a partner. Also, I'm still the same guy at my core, but look at what has changed in my life since I got married: My family and I are closer, my individual net worth has gone up every year since we met, I've learned a second language, I'm healthier, I use the n-word less, I listen to Sunday church service more, I'm a better friend, I'm more forgiving than I used to be, I'm more involved in charitable work.. He is more forgiving.
He tries to do things she would be proud of. I, like many other men, thought that I wanted to reach a certain level of success before marriage. You know, make the right amount of money, get the right job, the right car, the right crib, etc., and perhaps "sow the royal oats." Now, I firmly believe the success we seek can come a lot quicker with a partner helping along the way. Believe me, my ego is as big as anyone's, but recognizing my own deficiencies, admitting to myself that I need help and accepting that help have all been critical to our success. We're only on year No. 4, but I shudder to think of the kind of man I might be if I wasn't married these past four years. He recognises his own deficiencies.
He recognises her worth. 5 Likes |
Re: An Honest And Admirable View Of Marriage A Man Must Consider... by pickabeau1: 3:41pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
Bre: Once again.. it flies over your head You grew up as you professed Is the message not about growing up and seeing the strong male characters which have always been round about you
Boohoo... now its me who is bitter I only highlighted your own words I see you have really grown up Females here are never ready for frank feedback The men around you did not change You did Go figure |
Re: An Honest And Admirable View Of Marriage A Man Must Consider... by Bre(f): 4:08pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
pickabeau1: Stay blessed x 3 Likes |
Re: An Honest And Admirable View Of Marriage A Man Must Consider... by cococandy(f): 5:00pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
The first step to growth is realizing the areas where we were stunted to start with and humility to admit that we are learning everyday. Kudos to you. Bre: 2 Likes |
Re: An Honest And Admirable View Of Marriage A Man Must Consider... by pickabeau1: 5:02pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
Bre: Stay blessed x |
Re: An Honest And Admirable View Of Marriage A Man Must Consider... by Nobody: 6:50pm On Mar 03, 2015 |
hmm |
Re: An Honest And Admirable View Of Marriage A Man Must Consider... by Nobody: 10:48am On Mar 04, 2015 |
This thread is feministic hypergamous bvllshit. He made the right choice of spouse and that's it. Playing the field over the years gave him the skill to pick the right kind of woman. He would readily be praising his grandpa's wisdom had he chosen wrong and was living on credit. OP is using terms like grow emotionally, mature, immature. Nonsense. Sorry Bre, we aint buying. We can choose to marry or not and that would be a choice made with perfect emotional maturity. And really, why make a woman happy when any man would rather make himself happy?! |
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