chaircover:
Mac good question and I understand where you are going, however you have to understand the limtations of man. No one is perfect and no individual is perfect

Only God doesnt have an off day . . .the rest of humanity do have off days and even the the most wise man will on the off day make a bad descsion and its in everyones best interest if the wife can step up and respectfully let her husband know/do something about it.

Marriage is the coming together of 2 great but not so perfect people to produce a better and stronger team.

There are some things that my hubby is much better than me at and there are some things that I do better than hubby
It will therefore be silly of both of us to insist and say it must be my way when infact he does that particular thing better.

Having said all that if there is respect and at least one party is prepared to be mature about things when things so go wrong like Ewuro4 detiailed in her post, then there wont be a power tussle and issues will be resolved without much blood on the wall

chaircover:
Mac good question and I understand where you are going, however you have to understand the limtations of man. No one is perfect and no individual is perfect

Only God doesnt have an off day . . .the rest of humanity do have off days and even the the most wise man will on the off day make a bad descsion and its in everyones best interest if the wife can step up and respectfully let her husband know/do something about it.

Marriage is the coming together of 2 great but not so perfect people to produce a better and stronger team.

There are some things that my hubby is much better than me at and there are some things that I do better than hubby
It will therefore be silly of both of us to insist and say it must be my way when infact he does that particular thing better.

Having said all that if there is respect and at least one party is prepared to be mature about things when things so go wrong like Ewuro4 detiailed in her post, then there wont be a power tussle and issues will be resolved without much blood on the wall

maclatunji:


Good afternoon, you are a very patient lady, it reflects in your story and your posts too. Your example answers my question. I interact with sone ladies and their attitude is like; "I am smarter and better than any man", I just wonder how they want to sustain marriage with such mindset.

greatgod2012:
No perfect human being on earth. I trusted his sense of judgement before i married him andhe also trusted mine, but that does not mean his own decision must always prevail in the house, we both have to make suggestion and look critically at the best decision and make use of it, that does not mean the person that made the unused decision is not wise or trusted enough, if one's decision do not prevail today, it might tomorrow. In marriage, no one should be seen as the almighty, whose decision must always be adhered to. That is the essence of marriage. No competition but complement and mutual understanding. In as much as it possible to make mistakes once in a while, it does not exclude man, even as the head of the home.

greatgod2012:
No perfect human being on earth. I trusted his sense of judgement before i married him andhe also trusted mine, but that does not mean his own decision must always prevail in the house, we both have to make suggestion and look critically at the best decision and make use of it, that does not mean the person that made the unused decision is not wise or trusted enough, if one's decision do not prevail today, it might tomorrow. In marriage, no one should be seen as the almighty, whose decision must always be adhered to. That is the essence of marriage. No competition but complement and mutual understanding. In as much as it possible to make mistakes once in a while, it does not exclude man, even as the head of the home.

cococandy:
Why do some men marry women they don't trust?
If the wife is not trustworthy enough to be reasonable and contribute sensibly to the home decision making and upkeep, why marry her?

If his judgment must always be the correct one,it means he doesn't believe he's marrying a trustworthy mature adult whose POV and opinion should always be on the table alongside his for consideration and the best option of the two chosen In the end.

If a man feels like his wife should always go along with whatever he says regardless of how it affects her or the home in general,then he doesn't need a wife.

He needs to be by himself since he is self sufficient and all-knowing.

Or is trust one sided?

freecocoa:


Men are more desperate for marriage if you ask me and know how to pretend to be all a woman wants, only to change for the worse and because of the pressure on women to marry, most of these women don't really take their time to study their suitors before marrying him.

Ewuro4:


I guess that's a good reason too.

@OP... Life's not white and black. Even a trusted husband still make mistakes over and over again in marriage, so what should we do about that, call him a dumbo to his face, regret marrying him and give up,or the ultimate, kuku divorce him ??

More importantly, Marriage is a continuous learning experience ; we mature in it and our reasonings, decisions & judgement about different situation change as we grow in it. Marriage is full of surprises my friend.

babyosisi:


Will that decision and good judgement include bringing in his mistress as a second wife?

freecocoa:
I can't marry someone I can't trust.


Isn't it possible that those women trusted the men before marriage, only for them to show their true colors afterwards?.

Men are more desperate for marriage if you ask me and know how to pretend to be all a woman wants, only to change for the worse and because of the pressure on women to marry, most of these women don't really take their time to study their suitors before marrying him.