MizMyColi:
Davide470
Tolutweety
Friedplantain
Smallpeepee
Uglys

Please help a sista

UGLYS:


Let the help begin with the hierarchy of quoted names.

Naaahhh
Please, let's have your input.
Pleeeeaase.

*puppy face*

Jarus:

Till you have the offer, don't ever talk exiting.

Jarus:
First, you assumed moving from one job to another is that easy. You wrote as if you have gotten the offer letter for another job, and 'boasted' of leaving this year. And the next moment, you're even talking about submitting CVs to websites. That is what you rely on to change job this same year?

I see oversimplification here.

That said, there is nothing wrong in being extremely hopeful as you are and it is good.

There is absolutely nothing wrong in enjoying the benefits offered by a company to the last minutes.

Companies themselves know this. So I don't see any reason why you shouldn't enjoy the course fees payment offer.

There is absolutely nothing ungrateful in leaving a company for better offer, inasmuch as you leave good (followed exit procedures) not that you just wake up one day and fail to report to work.

I understand that sometimes, working relationships tend to grow to passionate, emotional levels, but hey, this is about your career, your life.

I still have very cordial relationship with some of the companies I have worked. I go there, attend their end of year parties, still talk about them positively etc.

Once you have the offer in your hand, you ask to see your boss, thank him for the opportunity and training, and let him see reason why you're leaving. He will appreciate it.

Till you have the offer, don't ever talk exiting.

Thank you for your input.


I have other modalities in place, just don't want to talk about them, seeing as they're still very much tentative.

I was looking to make the move next year, until I made my intentions known to friends, I didn't quite realize it's okay to start now.
I had thought it would be better to tell my boss first before starting any active job hunt. (Naïve me)

I'll most def keep your advice to heart.
Thanks again.

kaboninc:
Miz MyColi

There's something about 'youngsters'...we're wild, ambitious, strong, carefree, mobile and determined to extend our limits and push our boundaries. We want to be responsible, assume responsibilities and tasks and assignments, given goals, targets, experience challenges while we grow. In your own case, your company is even offering you an opportunity to be trained by them (someone considers you as an asset). That to me means they are 'somewhat' interested in your personal growth and development (like I said, to some extent).

However, you don't feel the vibe, you don't feel the drive, you seem not to be motivated and worse still, those who you look up to appear to be the cause. If you accept this offer, like someone rightly said, you will be 'glued' to that company for a long long time. Well you can resign but it could force the company to design a kind of pact that will seek to compel staff not to resign when they are being sponsored, also note that you may state this company one company you've worked with in your CV. Luckily for you, money is not an issue.

For me, I'll advice you start mapping your exist plan. Allow your mum to sponsor you and consider firms with better potentials and stable, dynamic structure. International Banks, Investment Banks, Telecoms, Mid-sized Professional Services firm are good companies.

You made mention of Account Management? To what extent?

Okay first off, I want to say a [size=14pt]Big Personal Thank YOU![/size] to everyone who has commented on this thread, and to those who will.

I see your comments and I can tell you poured your hearts into it.
They're not chaffy.
You actually took time to read my epistles and you put yourself in my shoes before saying anything.

I do not make light of that.
Thank you.


@Kaboninc
That is exactly what I'm doing starting today @exit plan.

Permit my brain to be lazy for a bit, but please could you mention them?
@firms I mean.

I have very strong values and an overly strong sense of right and wrong.
As it is now, I feel like I owe every living thing even when they've done nothing for me, how much more when they do.
I have seen varying opinions and would have to think this through.
My source within would have the final say though.
When he speaks, I'll know.


@Account management.
In advertising, this is basically what we call those who are responsible for managing a client and their business....in terms of sales, building rapport......
Now, I don't want to be limited to advertising.

I think of myself like an all weather.
If it involves people.
I can take on the job and make good of it.
All things being equal.

Ditto @TheEmboldened.

Jarus:
.

Most importantly, I suggest you channel your energy into getting the desired job first. All these talks about emotions,benefits etc would settle itself when you get the dream job.

MizMyColi:


I just elaborated in my last post.
And thank you! @TheEmboldened.

I have a PC infront of me.
Unlimited internet.

I am practically answerable to myself.
Boss just travelled, I can sit here if I want.
No pressure. As a matter of fact, I can do anyhow I want.
But that is so not me.

I want to feel responsible, like I'm a part of something bigger.
I want to be engaged.
Walk, sit, write, do stuff.

tolutweety:


And to reiterate what he just said;

_Drop your emotions for now,and build your career and life. Remember you come first, before others.
_Since you said in one your posts above that there is no avenue for the growth you want in that coy;please start sending cvs and applying to coys of your interest WITHOUT THEIR KNOWLEDGE.
_Enjoy whatever benefits given : If the company deems it fit to sponsor you, It's cos you earned it dear,not to tie you down on the job.
_And if and when the new offer eventually comes, Ensure you leave through the right channel; I am sure there is a reason why the exit procedures are put in offer letters.

Most importantly, I suggest you channel your energy into getting the desired job first. All these talks about emotions,benefits etc would settle itself when you get the dream job.

#my2Dollars

This is more than two dollars.
Tanchuuu

I will start ASAP.
I've sent in my CV/cover letter to a friend for final vetting.

After all is said and done.
Let God's Will Be Done.

HFOG:

I found myself in your shoes some five years or so ago. I was more or less in charge of everything only answerable to my boss. He trusted me absolutely and I obtained favour in his sight. I was even to hire & fire staff. I had a lot of time and other resources at my disposal. Then I thought about my childhood dream of owing a school. I shared it with my boss. Amazingly he gave me the liberty to take time off each day without a reduction in my pay. Not like I would have minded at all. That was how I began the school I presently run. As the school grew and my schedules increased I had to leave him. But it was so amicable that we enjoyed a good relationship till I lost his contacts. Now that I write books I look back now and wished I had maximized those days when I had a lot of time at my disposal. I've become a wife, mother and author now in addition to running my school let alone my spiritual responsibilities. So you can imagine what my schedules look like. I know you've got wide dreams. I just wish you'll pursue them now. There's no better time than now. Your future is already here. You someday would look back to this time and wish for it. All the best ma'am. Looking forward to feeling your impact someday, somehow, somewhere.

Thanks Ma'am
Thank you.

It just might be that Abba's settled all this for me y'know...all I need do is walk into them.

@TheEmboldened.
Same here

Let our voices be heard.
We won't stay below.

MizMyColi:

Good Afternoon Nairalanders

I have seen people get help from here; burdens made lighter. I'm confident mine won't be different
I could use varying opinions concerning certain issues I'm facing career wise.
Please no insults, no denigration. I earnestly look forward to your objective contributions.

Brief Background.

Roughly 2.5 years ago, I started work in an industry where I had little or no training. (my first job post NYSC).
However, I had hopes of becoming one of the best, seeing as I had a passion for the job. I had expectations too, in terms of working with a team, learning on the job and achieving new strides. Things haven't particularly panned out that way and I'm not feeling the job anymore. It's not like I'm having any difficulty here (matter of fact, I know people who are willing to be in my shoes), but I feel like I should be doing more at this stage of my life and that is so not happening. I've kinda lost my flair and zeal. Efforts to resuscitate those have proven quite abortive. I don't feel challenged here. I feel so "unbusy"........this has a lot to do with management.


1. I've started nursing ideas of leaving. I am well aware that I have to be sure of a new place before making any in-house move, but I feel like I don't know how I should approach my boss to state my case without brewing hate. Truth is, I feel like I owe him for showing me "the way" and I wouldn't want to come off as being ungrateful.......perhaps I'm being overly emotional?
Question is, incase it happens before or during the time I projected, how do I go about telling him? What do I say?

MizMyColi:
2. I registered for a professional course. Thankfully, I sponsored myself for part 1 and thankfully I had fine grades. Now is the time for part 2. Our head of accounts hinted me this morning that there are plans to support me this time. My parents have plans to support me too.
She happens to like me a lot (unavoidable emotional attachment) and has ordered me to write an internal memo, detailing expenses incurred during part 1.

Is it proper to tell her No, seeing as I have plans to leave this year?
If I say no, what would be my reason?
If I go ahead and submit the IM, wouldn't it look like I'm playing a fast one on my firm........perhaps, I'm being overly emotional again?

MizMyColi:

If I say no, what would be my reason?

MizMyColi:

3rd, And More Important
As a result of my time here, I have discovered my talent/passion lies basically in these fields:

*Administrative Roles
*Account Management and Client Relationship roles
*Public Relations

I have no idea where to start from.
Could you please suggest Quality and Standard firms/companies and their websites possibly, where I can submit an online CV/Covering Letter?

I'd appreciate all the help I can get.
Thank you in anticipation.

Please tag anyone you know that can proffer a way forward.

Thanks again

zicoraads:
In as much as I would be the first to scream 'quit the darn job', I would say; thread carefully and think everything through. Be sure this is what you want and be certain you have every aspect of your exit plan covered. The fact is that a lot of Nigerians are unsatisfied with their present jobs. But in a society where opportunities are not readily available, one has to be very careful with the choices we make.

I for one have a target of this year. I have already started mapping out plans for my exit. I wouldn't want to leave and not have anything I want to do or anything to fall back on.

And as for the programme, I would say be very careful. Be sure the cost is something you might be able to refund if your company decides you should pay them back. But if your people can take care of it, then it's best you make use of this opportunity instead.

Finally, it's easier for someone who is in Europe or America to quit his/her job because he/she is not getting satisfaction or fulfilment from that job. We don't have that luxury in this part of the world. That job you want to leave, someone else would kill for it. So, it all boils down to this: weigh the pros and the cons... be sure the risk is something you can cope with. And then take it! After all, we only live once

CrazyMan:

Its is absolutely normal to want a change of job, probably for reasons ranging from pay to career development etc.

But how you go about it matters a lot.

1. Get the job: In as much as you want a change of environment so badly, you still remain an employee of your boss. Until you get that new job, you still remain their staff.

So my advice to you is that while giving your best to your current place of work, map out time to search rigorously for another job. Never let your job hunting affect your commitment in your current place of work. Keep giving your best until you cease to become a staff of that company.

2 Inform your boss: After you must have gotten the new job, the next step is to inform your boss. Regardless of how well you and your boss get along, he should hear the news from you directly. You should know that casually mentioning your leaving (when you've gotten another job) to a co-worker can create an office wide rumor that may get to him before you break the news to him, causing him to feel disrespected or even misled. Don't disclose your intentions to leave with anyone at work until you've notified your boss.

3. Avoid a resignation letter: from your write up, its safe to say that you work in a private firm, and its also safe to conclude that you have a close relationship with your boss.

Most private firms unlike cooperate firms create a very strong relationship between the employee (your boss) and the employee (you). So in cases like that, I won't suggest you submit a resignation letter. Such in my opinion is unnecessary and may even offend your boss.


Like someone said earlier, its unwise to accept their sponsorship offer since you know deep down within you that you're planing on leaving. Its absolutely wrong and your boss wouldn't rest until you've paid back every penny the company spent on you for that course.

This brings us to your next question.


Just tell her that your mum has agreed to sponsor you. That's a good reason and I believe she would understand.


Banks.
Law firms
Insurance firms
Auditing firms

That should be a good start I believe.

I believe you're a lagos resident, so locating them shouldn't be very difficult for you.

Good luck.

kaboninc:


Without reference to the opening post,

I disagree with the bold.

Some jobs are actually time wasters, energy sapping and frustrating.

MizMyColi:


Okay Thanks

MizMyColi:
Davide470
Tolutweety
Friedplantain
Smallpeepee
Uglys

Please help a sista

MizMyColi, seems like came in a tad too late . I checked and read all the advice from the respondents above and it looks like everyone has said my mind. All in all, I know you are an intelligent lady and won't find any difficulty sieving out the right advice from this thread. There is nothing new from me to say here, just follow your heart ma'am. Wishing you the best of luck