“But she lied to me!”That is the cry of many a man
when a lady has successfully deceived them into
thinking she loves them or into thinking she’s
something she’s not. There are many reasons why
women are not straightforward. Many reasons why
they won’t tell you the number of abortions they have had, their lack of or experience with sexual
escapades, their social status, their bad habits.
Some seem valid, most are not.
As an enlightened member of the female gender, I
have come to recognize three major reasons why
women don’t come out straight to their men and say : “This is who I am!””

1. Fear of financial security: I’m a trifle ashamed
to admit this but many women like to put ‘rich” at
the top of their list. When they see a guy who is
good for it, they’d much rather prefer him than a
guy who has potential. And they don’t mind doing everything they can to snap up such a deal
including wearing all the masks they feel they need
and playing perfect.

2. Societal pressure: The pressure begins to hit
them in their late twenties and early thirties. Society
expects women to have a partner. If a woman isn’t secured by someone else, it seems like something
vital is missing from her life especially when she
gets to a certain age. Even if she had a carefree
attitude before then, by the time she gets to her late
twenties or early thirties, then she begins to
remodel herself to better her chances of getting a partner.

3. The man expects them to: Many men might not
agree with this but it’s true. Men expect to have
perfect women. She has to carry ‘front and back’(be
well endowed), she must be a great home keeper,
witty, charming, have a perfect figure etc. They want a Barbie doll with brains and good
housekeeping skills. What many men fail to realize
is that human beings including women are not
perfect. In a bid to be perfect, women wear masks
and some successfully con the men into thinking
they are perfect. Some even go as far as plastic surgery in order to be more appealing to the male
gender.

Like an enlightened member of the male gender
once said; Your desire to get an intimate companion
makes you put on your best behavior, compels you
to hide your flaws, put your best foot forward (with your new patent leather shoe on it) and bury all the
ugly issues for later.

The problem however is that those issues don’t
stay hidden. They tend to resurface and then when
they do they tend to get really ugly and resolving
them becomes a big problem. So what does this all mean?

What do we do to avoid
being hurt, or being fooled? The first step is to
know God and have a personal relationship with
Him. If you know God and walk with Him, you
gradually become the right kind of person and you
can attract the right kind of mate. Of course you need to avoid settling for less too. Knowing God
intimately helps you to choose with his standards in
mind.

The second point is to build yourself up as a man or
woman of faith. If you walk in faith in God’s
promises you will never allow the pressure of time or circumstances to push you into making a wrong
choice or compromising your standards in an
attempt to please a man at the expense of doing
what is right.

By Adigun Machidoh. www.sunloaded.com

Iffa hear say i read am?

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FLAWLES:
Iffa hear say i read am?

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machidoh:


lolz bt u just did

.Nop

Hmm. Fp they smell for here. Nice write up op.

I'm so disappointed at you

You sure?