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Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by Nobody: 5:31pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
tobechi74: You ain't emotional, that means you won't scream at her, talk down to her or even give her the upper cut she occasionally deserves... Dude, you'd make a perfect husband |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by TV01(m): 5:32pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
kandiikane:I did read you post actually - and again just now before responding to this one - just to be sure ! And no, I didn't quote you merely to argue against you, but because, I disagreed with your publicly aired statement. Although I whole-heartedly affirm I always find you worth "debating" ! kandiikane:Firstly, we'd have to agree on what the biblical presrciption for marriage really is - sas opposed to what people may believe it is. Then we'd have to see if it had been correctly adhered to, in correctly implemented or bastardised. And believe you me - I am the "marriage man". I understand it in it's raison d'etre, it's dynamic and it's benefits, anthroplogically, religiously and culturally. None of that changes the true essence of marriage and it's purpose. I champion it "aspirationally" kandiikane:Primarily as it means she and her children are invested in by a man commited to their well-being. In a sense, women have more to lose given what they contribute to child-bearing and the fact that even after birth the burden of child-raising typically falls unevenly on them. kandiikane:Like I said aspirationally. I am not distracted by ill-founded cultural norms. Nor do I lose focus on marriages true essence due to abuse of it. kandiikane:A proper understanding of marriage will enbale one to see the centrality of children to it's existence and childrens benefit from it. Like I said, I focus and champion marriage on it's true essence - you appear to be railing against abuses. Hence my earlier comments. You also seem to be pursuing a male vs female line - although that may be in reaction to OP. kandiikane:Marriage is not primarily about the self-actualisation of the two individuals within it - more the synergistic outcome of the two and any offspring. kandiikane:My take is that you both yourself and OP fail to understand it, it's benefits to both sexes, or appreciate it for it's beauty and simplicity. I'd love to see you well married ! TVMIC |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by TV01(m): 5:35pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
5minsmadness:...humbly at your service - in pursuit of better marriage and flourishing societies. First up; They (men,women) are not the enemy - "seek first to understand then to be understood" TVMIC |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by kandiikane(m): 5:35pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
njokusboy: Mostly lies and exaggerations. Abeg, I have made my point already, this is not going to turn into men vs women 2 Likes |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by Nobody: 5:37pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
TV01: Lecture them, make I finish my work I see you have added a microphone to ur list of e gadgets |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by Nobody: 5:40pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
kandiikane: Lies Hell no Replace exaggerations with humour... Yes,it won't turn to Men vs women |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by cococandy(f): 5:42pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
njokusboy: You don't even know who he will meet in future but you're sure whoever she is will occasionally deserve to be hit. I prophesy healing into your life. May all the violence leave your heart henceforth. |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by Onegai(f): 5:48pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
cococandy: Oya lets turn this woman-bashing-as-usual thread into something sensible. Everyborri bring your own discussion to dinner. I'll start: @cococandy don't pierce your nose unless there's a jolly good reason for it. I had an additional ear piercing (with a good reason) but it scared the living daylights out of all my christian-naija aunties and roommates, so I took it off. But where you place jewelry on your body matters. In Bini culture, only slaves wore upper arm bands. So our parents never let us wear them. Cutting your hair is seen as some as a shaming ritual (colonisation encouraged it in females, said it made them look "clean" ). Anyhoo how do I convince le hubby to let me display my antique Brass statues? He says my love of antique Nigerian art is too close to loving Juju. |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by Nobody: 5:48pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
cococandy: Lolzzz, I have like 3 sisters, I havnt hit any yet... And yes, most of the girls I have dated have earned an upper cut at one point or the other.. I just cool off somewhere with a bottle of orijin. that they deserve it, doesn't mean, I give it.. Nd please, I don't need ur kind of prophecies.. ur definition of healing hovers around turning me to a zombie.. I no want 1 Like |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by kandiikane(m): 5:51pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
TV01:oh so now, it's beneficial to both sexes, so why exactly did you state otherwise before? Why didn't you just say so in the beginning? My initial post wasn't about what the bible says about marriage but what marriage was about in history. My post was never intended to be a case of men vs women, you made it to be that way. From my post, a reasonable man won't see it in such light as all the things I wrote were mostly beneficial for him. He could marry off his child to secure assets for example, this is a positive for him, not a negative so I don't understand how you deduced that it was just a male vs woman issue I raised. It's just facts and nothing to do with the feud that is going on between the men and women on this forum. .... Yes, children benefit from marriages, this still hasn't answered my question on how marriage is more beneficial to women. This is not about the children. Now that most men don't use their children to secure assets, the benefits are based more on individuality rather than the sexes but it still doesn't change the fact that it was made for the benefit of men. 4 Likes |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by cococandy(f): 5:52pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
njokusboy: Mtchew 3 Likes |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by Nobody: 5:55pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
cococandy: |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by bukatyne(f): 6:00pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
tobechi74: I see Still you have not answered my questions. |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by bukatyne(f): 6:01pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
njokusboy: If most of the girls you've dated earned uppercuts, then it speaks volumes of your choices. 3 Likes |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by cococandy(f): 6:02pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
Erm I so love nose rings on other women. Always have. The tiny ones though. So I figure why not try it? I know folks attach too much symbolism to stuff like that. Ankle chains Waistbeads Whatever babes. I love all those things and hubby is cool with whatever I want to do with my body so nothing stopping me now. It was my mom that used to get in the way. She would say it makes one resemble mammy water and ungodly. But now guess who's not a mommy's girl anymore? Ces't moi! Maybe I'll even color my hair a soft honey blonde when I cut it. Onegai: |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by cococandy(f): 6:06pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
njokusboy: Repent Most of the girls deserving upper cuts with you as the common denominator means you're the one with temper problems. Every human being can't be at fault with you being the right one all the time. Besides people annoy others each day. It Is normal. Don't your fellow men annoy you sometimes? You don't think of beating them because you see than as a match for you. I'm quite sure you annoy some folks around you too. Imagine if every one of them thinks you deserve to be beaten for it just because they are stronger than you. |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by Nobody: 6:12pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
tobechi74:It will get you a tax relief, actually. |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by bukatyne(f): 6:12pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
Timbuktou: Be real, I agree with you as nobody is perfect. However go back to the post you quoted/agreed with |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by bukatyne(f): 6:16pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
cococandy: I doubt most guys on NL follow What they say |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by bukatyne(f): 6:19pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
tobechi74: Good you have come to the place of self realization |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by Rose2014: 6:20pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
cococandy:U like trouble pass me |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by Nobody: 6:28pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
TV01: This is also coming from the person that has never met a happily married feminist. I just can't stand when someone says complete rubbish with so much confidence. Don't you have a baby to take care of? Go change diapers and wash baby bottles! 4 Likes |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by cococandy(f): 6:31pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
bukatyne: Maybe they do. I don't want to believe folks who see men that respect women as wussies abi pansies (what's the favorite word again) will do otherwise in real life. Wouldn't that be strange? |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by Nobody: 6:32pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
I was going to make this thread my b1tch but I see it's the same ol' women bashing sh1t. .......Just some butt-hurt "kneegrows" crying as usual. 5 Likes |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by bukatyne(f): 6:36pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
cococandy: You can't remember the thread of one lady who complained her bf was a saint offline and a devil online? That is the story of most of them. Initially I was always pissed when I read Some posts and see same people doing the exact opposite and I realized oh well, it is NL afterall and anybody foolish enough to pick absurd advices when What he/she was currently doing is clearly working is in O.Y.O state So let's keep getting entertained. 1 Like |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by SAMBARRY: 7:50pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
cococandy: |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by TV01(m): 9:23pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
Shollypopzz:...do you have facts to the contrary. Gays are notorious for their all round bitchery - and well known for being violent, racist, misogynistic and ageist. They are probsbly the worst homophobes to boot Are you a feminist? Are you happily married? End of story And yes, I do have a baby to take care of - just fed and winded her - unlike some here who don't understand why they possess wombs, others who specialise in making imprecatory prayers in the hope that it wouldn't happen, and yet others, whose psychosis drives them to spam the whole place with pictures of children who obviously aren't theirs. Which one are you, and what's your point exactly? Are you adding Fagg-hagism atop your crytpo feminism. Come, are you BananaBender - the one I sent packing TV 3 Likes |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by TV01(m): 9:37pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
kandiikane:I have never stated otherwise - not in this thread or any other. How could I? I am a marriage advocate kandiikane:Albeit you still managed to get what the bible prescribes absolutely wrong and mistook some of the things marriage may have been used to do with what marriage was for. I gave you the "papers" example already kandiikane:Again, you did exactly what you claim not to have done - all the benefits you listed for men denied or somehow compromised the agency of marriage. Hence making marriage oppressive of women. And they are hardly the core benefits or aims of marriage per se. kandiikane:Read again. And yes, children are central to the coming into being of marriage. Otherwise it's just men and women flenturing, for which we need no such institution and which could be ordered exactly as each couple wanted. kandiikane:You are still groping on the darkness here. I've repeatedly pointed out that what marriage may or may not have been used to accomplish does not change it's essence. And you persist in setting men against women by claiming marriage was made for mens benefit. TVMIC |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by Nobody: 9:49pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
TV01: The same ol' balderdash year after year. Even kids won't make you any smarter or mature. I am going to ignore the blatant generalization but where in the world are gays known for being racist, violent or misogynistic? Do you walk around with blind folds on or do you surround yourself with fellow foolish people who create jargon about people with different sexual orientation? The rubbish you're saying is not even a stereotype, so I can't call you ignorant. You are just a liar! Please keep your malformed opinions to yourself. YES!............LMAO @ "sent packing". A christian who specializes in lying, no surprise there. 5 Likes |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by TV01(m): 9:57pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
Shollypopzz: Get out of here with your bogus SJW'ish and delusional ideological leaning ....first gay site I pulled up http://www.datalounge.com/cgi-bin/iowa/ajax.html?t=11185048#page:showThread,11185048 And why ignore the "blatant generalisation na" Faag-haag TV 2 Likes |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by Nobody: 10:28pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
TV01: Jesus! You are even more of a weirdo than I thought. So, because someone made a thread criticizing the attitude of gays in a particular forum, therefore gays are violent, racist, misogynistic and b1tchy?!! How is that link a proof of an existing stereotype?? Seriously, go back to daddy duties and stop talking with your a*ss. 5 Likes |
Re: A Thread For Nairalanders Who Hate Marriage by undercat: 10:46pm On Mar 17, 2015 |
tobechi74: Lol. I don't know if it's marriage phobia you have or it's commitment phobia. Assuming the girl doesn't mention marriage and you don't dispose off her till the end of your days, isn't the life long relationship between both of you akin to marriage? 1 Like |
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