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Advice by kkkp: 10:30pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
A friend of my need advice Its all about the girl he wants to marry...The girls dad gave him period to come foward so that they will set the date for the marriage but he is not ready yet..The girl truly luvs him **Note: many suitors have been asking her hand in marriage but she kips turning down the offer..now the pressure is too much PLS ADVICE HIM ON WHAT TO DO |
Re: Advice by PoisonedOne: 10:45pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
kkkp:He shouldn't agree to such ultimatum. He should take his time and do it when he is ready. Hope the lady is not by her father's side tho. But why is the girl's dad being so cavalier and insensitive to the guy's situation? Or is there something else we don't know? |
Re: Advice by kkkp: 10:52pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
PoisonedOne:nutin but I think d girl is supporting the father |
Re: Advice by pickabeau1: 10:56pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
kkkp: Why is he not ready How long is d relationship How old.is he and the lady |
Re: Advice by Evina(f): 11:02pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
PoisonedOne: are you for real? Well, since it is obvious you are a loooong way from being a father in the real sense of the world, let me ask you this, if your sister were in the same position, how would you handle it? Op, the girl is the one who needs advice here. If her goal is to settle down in the nearest future and that goal is not shared with the boy she is with, then she better be wise and get a man who is on the same page with her, before she wakes up one day with no suitor! 1 Like |
Re: Advice by kkkp: 11:06pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
pickabeau1:almost 3 years.. He is not ready cuz he is not financially stable |
Re: Advice by pickabeau1: 11:07pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
kkkp: What is his plan When will he be ready |
Re: Advice by kkkp: 11:19pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
pickabeau1:atleast a year |
Re: Advice by pickabeau1: 11:23pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
Re: Advice by kkkp: 11:33pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
pickabeau1:the girl is a little bit young |
Re: Advice by pickabeau1: 11:34pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
kkkp: The girl no get age? |
Re: Advice by cococandy(f): 11:38pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
Yea but it should be the girl asking him that not her father. It makes it look like her family is putting pressure on him. Evina: |
Re: Advice by kkkp: 11:39pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
pickabeau1:19 |
Re: Advice by pickabeau1: 11:40pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
kkkp: She's too young to be considering marriage |
Re: Advice by Evina(f): 11:42pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
cococandy: If a girl is adamant about sticking to a guy whose future plans for her is obscure, it is well within her father's right to have "the talk" with the guy. Obviously, she has talked with him and he has stated he isn't ready because even the friend points that out. |
Re: Advice by kkkp: 11:43pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
Evina:her goal is to settle down with d guy dats y she is rejecting suitors |
Re: Advice by cococandy(f): 11:43pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
kkkp: Why is her father interested in marrying her off so soon? Is you friend sure they don't want to dump her education and their responsibilities on him? |
Re: Advice by Evina(f): 11:44pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
kkkp: Of course that is her goal. But is that his goal? |
Re: Advice by cococandy(f): 11:45pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
Evina: Well she's only 19 according to the OP Which sane father will be all about bundling her off at that age? How do we know there are other suitors? Classic tale used to stampede some guys into hasty commitment because they are made to believe they might lose her if they don't hurry. |
Re: Advice by kkkp: 11:46pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
pickabeau1:yeah..she is even desperate to get married dats y d father |
Re: Advice by Evina(f): 11:48pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
cococandy: As the op pointed out, other suitors are coming to fish in that lake. So, the dad is even considerate and respectful of the guys feelings to ask about his intentions. Some men would have compared and contrasted and banned the girl from seeing the dude. 1 Like |
Re: Advice by cococandy(f): 11:48pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
Evina:hmm. Ok |
Re: Advice by pickabeau1: 11:49pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
kkkp: Is she a graduate |
Re: Advice by kkkp: 11:49pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
cococandy:er father wants her to finish skul..but to her she just want to get married |
Re: Advice by Evina(f): 11:50pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
cococandy: That age may be young to you but ripe enough for some others. You don't know where they are from and their cultural practises. 1 Like |
Re: Advice by kkkp: 11:51pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
cococandy:I'm sure of dat cuz she is very beautiful with all d curvz |
Re: Advice by Evina(f): 11:51pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
kkkp: Cococandy, you don see am now. |
Re: Advice by kkkp: 11:52pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
pickabeau1:no |
Re: Advice by cococandy(f): 11:52pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
kkkp: If the father wants her to finish school first, why is he the one on the guy's neck? Anyway na their matter be that. So what do How to tell the father to wait that you're not ready? Just say it na. If they can't wait, they will marry the next suitor that comes. Gives your time to plan your life and not be rushed into anything. |
Re: Advice by pickabeau1: 11:52pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
kkkp: OK...I wish fada n daughter n son in law d best |
Re: Advice by cococandy(f): 11:52pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
Evina:i don see am |
Re: Advice by kkkp: 11:56pm On Mar 24, 2015 |
cococandy:I'm not the one o! But I will take your last sentence to him |
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