dytbabe:


Insightful
Really an excellent piece
Didn't think of this, was too angry to even think deep

Thanks

That woman's sermon really opened my eyes

Before, I would say forget the father and do all yourself

There is no medal for it o! Worse case, your people (family and friends) would still beg you to 'forgive' him in future. The child sef will find the father later in life. Even if he/she doesn't want to, as a Christian/Muslin, the child will be convinced to forgive.

Now.. Let the father play his part now and forever (since he knows the pregnancy is his).

There is no price for martyrdom in this kind case

bukatyne:


Since the father is not denying the baby, can you get him to pay a certain amount of money into your account monthly according to his pocket?

Listened to a sermon a while back and gave me a new perspective to this issue

The guy would let you go ahead and struggle to bring up the child alone (or you alienate him) and he later claim 'baba omo'

Your child would bear his surname and be identified with him.

If a girl, he will walk the bride (your daughter) down the aisle on her wedding day. You would probably have to beg him to do so
If a boy, you will still have to locate his father later.

Get the father to play his part for your baby now and later.

Still look for the job for your personal upkeep.

It is well

Thanks for the advice, I do not intend to alienate him, I just want to be emotionally stable to handle demanding and not getting emotional with it.This is my first and emotionally I'm really stressed because I'm going through this pregnancy alone.

dytbabe:


Awww
I didn't know its pity time

I don't need your pity, I didn't com here because I wanted pity. Thanks anyways.

Cutehector:
hmm. Dnt hav any contacts dr. I stay in ajah.

Thanks for your thoughts. I would keep looking.

Wendy80:


SMH

Don't let it fall please

peachy7:

Thanks for your thoughts. I would keep looking.

u welcome

peachy7:

Thanks for the advice, I do not intend to alienate him, I just want to be emotionally stable to handle demanding and not getting emotional with it.This is my first and emotionally I'm really stressed because I'm going through this pregnancy alone.

Ok then,

God be with you

My dear, there you have it. I will break it down in lay man's terms further;

Don't age yourself 10years older than your original age. Don't overburden yourself unnecessarily with 2 person responsibilities , let him do his ORDAINED part and frown/ mumble for all you care while doing it, Don't give him that satisfaction and room to roam around the block. Lock his azz down. STAY PUT.

Nevertheless, I understand the implications of stress on pregnancy and birth complications it may cause. Buy yourself wisdom and avoid his wahala through this time? Engage yourself like you're trying to do now. Do something.

I wish you safe delivery and Dyt, I know you have her best interest but take a deep breath before purging your disgust (I was too but relaxed because of her present condition), regardless of how mind boggling the story is.

peachy7:

I don't need your pity, I didn't com here because I wanted pity. Thanks anyways.

My Dear just ignore every insensitive and rude comments here. Going thru preg all alone isn't easy so you will need all the positive energy u can get. Take all the good advice and move on, don't let anyone make u feel bad. Stay strong. Be positive. I wish u safe delivery ahead

Wendy80:


My Dear just ignore every insensitive and rude comments here. Going thru preg all alone isn't easy so you will need all the positive energy u can get. Take all the good advice and move on, don't let anyone make u feel bad. Stay strong. Be positive. I wish u safe delivery ahead

Give her a job Mrs Wendy

Ewuro4:


I wish you safe delivery and Dyt, I know you have her best interest but take a deep breath before purging your disgust (I was too but relaxed because of her present condition), regardless of how mind boggling the story is.

If I hear
She sounds stubborn
I swear I am this way too
Ti inu mi ni mase

You don't sound nice pls
They like to hear it hard

She won't still collect a dime
Mark my words
She will come back with another moniker again

Dyt:


If I hear
She sounds stubborn
I swear I am this way too
Ti inu mi ni mase

You don't sound nice pls
They like to hear it hard

She won't still collect a dime
Mark my words
She will come back with another moniker again

You mean she won't listen? Okay now.

Make I continue watching my game.

Ewuro4:

You mean she won't listen? Okay now.
Make I continue watching my game.

Her response to a very sensible post
Read between the lines one by one

peachy7:

Thanks for the advice, I do not intend to alienate him, I just want to be emotionally stable to handle demanding and not getting emotional with it.This is my first and emotionally I'm really stressed because I'm going through this pregnancy alone.

Thanks everyone for all your advises and suggestions. They all mean alot.