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Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by phantom(m): 6:34pm On Apr 24, 2015
baybeeboi:

do you know how many people here have to steal time from work or what ever engagement to see whats goin on in Nairaland?
Bros,everybody cannot be idle anytime you are.
no problem.. When you see such topics you move on BUT it's annoying when you didn't read the post BUT you want a summary so you can jump in and reply. That's my point.

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Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by funmilade4real(m): 6:35pm On Apr 24, 2015
DeCritique:
Tooooo lonnnnggggg!


If you read this thing, then I know say you take Jegaquinine!!

It s not too long, you guys are just too lazy to read.

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Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by kogi2010: 6:36pm On Apr 24, 2015
She is right I left south africa early last. Year and I was at thesame Queens town to extend my visa I know what I went through over dere. South african women always want some one dey will take advantge of, once in south africa and u are a nigerian dey keep coming d reason is that only nigerian will come to dere country empty handed and in a period of one year he will b using big cars nigerians are known as hostlers and the south african gals need ppl dat can take care of them because dere guys are lazy to the bone all dey knw is get drunk, rape dere own mothers, sisters, armd robbery, and gambbling. They don't go to school dey are illitrates a basterd give birth to generation of barsterds. U need to see how dey embaras nigerians I hate does ppl dey are pigs

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Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by MrSunesis(m): 6:38pm On Apr 24, 2015
fretnot:
My name is Lovelyn Chidinma Nwadeyi. I am a Nigerian. Born in Nigeria to two Nigerian parents. Raised in Queenstown, Eastern Cape by those same Nigerian parents right up until I completed my Bachelors at Stellenbosch.
Lovelyn Chidinma Nwadeyi
Lovelyn Chidinma Nwadeyi. Photo: supplied

Growing up in South Africa, I was always reminded by those around me that I was different to everyone else. In primary school, I had a much darker complexion than I do now, and super white teeth – the telling marks of a foreigner that betray you even when you put on your best English accent. It is just too obvious.

I bear citizenship of both worlds. I speak fluent Xhosa, Igbo, Afrikaans and English. I can make sense of Tswana and Sotho. I enjoy a good braai, I love vetkoek and bunny-chow. I can’t get enough of Bokomo WeetBix, I love Ouma’s rusks and I can pull off my panstulas with any outfit on a lazy Saturday when I want to head to town. I am the first to break i.......

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Is it really the little Ethiopian man with his spaza shop that is threatening your progress na Bhuthi? Is it really the Nigerian woman who braids hair and sells Fanta that is stealing your job and place in your own land na Sisi? I can’t deal.

If none of these arguments have merit for you, then think of the fact that during apartheid, Nigeria spent thousands of dollars on the ANC protecting and moving its members across borders; Angola, Mozambique, Tanzania, Burundi, Zambia, Zimbabwe, Botswana, Kenya, Rwanda, Uganda all housed, supported and/or trained struggle heros with open arms and with no strings attached. How dare South Africans forget how much Africans did for them during apartheid. How dare you!

South Africans, go and learn your history. When you have read your history, then please teach the correct version to your children. Let them know that Africa helped put SA where it is now. Let them know that all blacks are not Xhosa or Zulu, but that that is irrelevant to the amount of dignity you accord to another human being. Teach your children that they must work for everything they want to have except your love as a parent. Teach your children that they are nothing without their neighbour – stop being selective about who Ubuntu applies to and does not. Teach them the truth about you.

The greatest enemy of the black man has always been himself. Not the colonialists. Not the apartheid architects. Only himself.

And as long as you refuse to take responsibility for where you are now, you will remain there. Kill us foreigners or not, it actually makes very little difference to your fortunes in life, people of Mzansi.

Lovelyn Nwadeyi
20 April 2015



This has got to be the best writeup I have read on nairaland!!!. Wow!!! I feel so educated about life.
I have suddenly learnt firsthand the principles of success in practical terms, what it takes to run a nation, etc etc. God bless you sister.

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Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by baybeeboi: 6:40pm On Apr 24, 2015
phantom:
no problem.. When you see such topics you move on BUT it's annoying when you didn't read the post BUT you want a summary so you can jump in and reply. That's my point.
who no like to comment?
Believe me, it contributes to the fun part of the forums.
Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by FLYFIRE(m): 6:42pm On Apr 24, 2015
DoubleFaith:


Touching...
@DF, I saw a video today for the first time where two people, one as young as about 13 or 14 years, were tied together with a tyre between them & set ablaze. They were screaming in horror & people watched them burn beyond recognition. The curse that has come upon South Africa will almost be impossible to lift.

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Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by Nobody: 6:44pm On Apr 24, 2015
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Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by mizzyboy007: 6:47pm On Apr 24, 2015
[quote author=fretnot post=33066293]My name is Lovelyn Chidinma Nwadeyi. I am a Nigerian. Born in Nigeria to two Nigerian parents. Raised in Queenstown, Eastern Cape by those same Nigerian parents right up until I completed my Bachelors at Stellenbosch.
Lovelyn Chidinma Nwadeyi
Lovelyn Chidinma Nwadeyi. Photo: supplied

Growing up in South Africa, I was always reminded by those around me that I was different to everyone else. In primary school, I had a much darker complexion than I do now, and super white teeth – the telling marks of a foreigner that betray you even when you put on your best English accent. It is just too obvious.

I bear citizenship of both worlds. I speak fluent Xhosa, Igbo, Afrikaans and English. I can make sense of Tswana and Sotho. I enjoy a good braai, I love vetkoek and bunny-chow. I can’t get enough of Bokomo WeetBix, I love Ouma’s rusks and I can pull off my panstulas with any outfit on a lazy Saturday when I want to head to town. I am the first to break it down with the ngwaza and the dombolo at the sound of some decent house music or kwaito be it in Pick n Pay or at a party.

I can sokkie and I enjoy it (albeit with my two left feet). My darkest moments can be reversed by koeksisters and a cup of rooibos tea any day. I can jump between the high pitched and arguably annoying accents of some Constantia moms, the lank kif and apparently sophisticated English of my Hilton brothers and the heavy accents of my fellow Eastern Capers. I can attempt the fast paced, lyrical Afrikaans of my coloured brothers in the Cape and I can serve you the best butternut soup you have ever known.

I am as South African as you need me to be.

But my ability to navigate all these spaces did not just happen. Learning to blend into all these spaces was a matter of survival for me.

You see from the day I set foot in Queenstown and started primary school, it was always made very clear to me that I was an outsider. I only had white friends from my first few years in school, because the other black girls couldn’t understand why I was black but only spoke in English. They thought I thought I was better than them. So I spent most of my breaks humbly eating my peanut butter and strawberry jam sandwich, surrounded by those who had Melrose cheese and Provita Crackers with Bovril and/or marmite sandwiches in their lunchboxes. The rest of the time I spent alone, save the few brave souls of similar complexion who tried to befriend me.

What nobody knew was that for the first three years of my life in South Africa, my little brother and I barely saw my dad more than twice a month. What was he doing absent from the home, other than selling pillowcases, duvets and bedsheets, from door to door on foot through the streets, villages and side roads of the old Transkei and Ciskei? My father would leave the house on Monday mornings after him and my mom got us ready for school, and he would be gone for days and weeks, selling the few pillowcases and bedsheets he had from door to door. On foot. We were never sure when he would return. But when he did, we were always more grateful for his safety and aliveness than anything else.

From Queenstown to Cala, Umtata, Qumbu, Qoqodala, Whittlesea, Mount Fletcher, King Williamstown, Mdantsane, Bhisho, Indwe, Butterworth, Aliwal North and even as far as Matatiele and Kokstad. There are so many other places he went to that I do not even know.

That is how my parents put us through school, until they saved up enough money to open their own little shop where they then started selling sewing machines, cotton and then community phones. Then sweets and chips and take-aways; and then hair products and the list goes on and on. It was on this that I was able to go through primary school, high school, and university. My parents have no tertiary education; it was only in their late 40s that both of them decided to register for part-time studies at Walter Sisulu to get their Diplomas. Note: Diplomas.

It took them four years, because they were busy trying to keep their kids in school, and keep selling their sweets and sewing machines while attempting to dignify their efforts with a degree.

My story is not unique – it is the story of most foreigners in South Africa. Very few foreigners come into SA with skills that make them employable here. Unless you are a medical doctor, an academic and maybe an engineer or well-established businessman before coming here, your chances of getting meaningful employment in SA are as limited as those of the United States letting Al-Qaeda members off the hook – almost impossible.

Most foreigners come to SA with the ability to braid hair, carve wood, or sell fruits, veggies, clothes, fizz pops, carpets and soap before they can find their feet here. Some are graduates…but what can another African degree do for you in SA? And any foreigner in SA will tell you that that is the truth. All of us started from below the bottom. Doing work that carries no dignity, no respect and very little financial gain. But when you have left or lost everything that you know and love and end up in a foreign land as unwelcoming in its laws and restrictions as South Africa, you have little choice available to you.

I can bet you that there is not up to 10% of South Africans who would be willing to do the menial and embarrassing work my parents and other foreigners did for as long as they did it, and for as little as they did it, were you to ask them today. So it annoys me, to the deepest part of my being when I see a South African open their mouth and cry “foul” against innocent foreigners. Let’s discuss this:

Arachnophobia – the fear of spiders.

Claustrophobia – the fear of small/tight/enclosed spaces.

Xenophobia – the fear of foreigners.

However individuals who are afraid of spiders do not go around killing spiders, rather they avoid spiders. Equally, individuals who are afraid of small and tight spaces do not go around trying to eliminate the existence of small spaces.

Thus xenophobia does not by definition imply the killing of foreigners. Yet, we continue to label this current wave of killings and murders in SA as xenophobic – and now the cooler term – “Afrophobic” attacks. Can we please just get real? What is happening in SA is a genocide, a genocide fuelled by a deep-seated hatred for which no single foreigner is responsible.

Before, you say this is too extreme, allow me to explain.

Genocide is the systematic/targeted killing of a specific tribe or race.

In South Africa’s case, this would be the senseless killings of non-South Africans, mostly those of African origin and some Pakistani, Bangladeshi and other non-African minorities.

I think the government, South African and international media are being too cowardly to call it what it is. They know what is going on in South Africa and yet they refuse to acknowledge it for fear of who knows what. Is it because their numbers are not high enough? Should we wait until a few good hundred thousand foreigners have been murdered before we speak the truth?

So now the value of human lives is being reduced to a debate on politically correct terms and phrases to protect certain interests. People are being butchered in the streets, and the country is worrying about bad PR. I hate that now, on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, everyone is now trying to say, “Oh no, it’s not all South Africans that are doing this, hey. Just a few of those people there.” South Africans are trying to distance themselves from what is happening in their own backyards as though it is of any consolation to those watching their family members being sizzled in rubber rings. As if that is what matters – true South African style.

This is not the first wave of attacks of this nature in South Africa. In fact, the 2008 attacks were much worse in terms of raw numbers of casualties suffered than these have been so far. The issue of xenophobia is not a new one in SA. However, the differentiator in 2015 is that this wave is backed by a strong ideology; that somehow these attacks can be and are justified.

An ideology that sees merit in the argument that foreigners are stealing the jobs of locals, that they are stealing their women, that these “makwerekwere” are the cause of most ills in South African society.

It is a shame how uninformed and how baseless these arguments are. Foreigners do not and CANNOT steal jobs in SA. Do you know how hard it is to get South African papers, just to get into the country – not to talk of getting a work permit and convincing any company to take on the cost of employing you as a foreigner? Unless you have some freaking scarce skills in the country – it just does not happen like that.

Secondly, just shut up and stop it. South Africans who embibe these arguments are lazy. There is a disgusting entitlement that is attached to this notion that jobs can be stolen. This implies that there are jobs waiting for you – of which there are none.

There are no freaking jobs waiting for anyone. Pick up a bucket and start washing cars. Put on your shoes and walk through your streets, sell tomatoes, eggs and tea – anything people eat, they will buy. Or pick up a book, hustle your way into university, work for a scholarship and get yourself an education. But stop this senselessness. Nobody is stealing your jobs.

I got my first job when I was 11-years-old. I worked on the school bus in my town. I collected money for the bus driver, wrote out receipts and kept order on the bus. I didn’t get paid much, but it helped me learn first that nothing comes easy, I learnt to be responsible and accountable to someone else. Secondly it helped me pay for little extramural expenses I did at school which were not the priority for my parents at the time (and rightly so). In ‘varsity, even though I had a tuition bursary, I worked two part-time jobs and one contract job for the entire three years at Stellenbosch so I could pay for my good, clothes and some additional materials etc. Yes my parents supported me as best they could, but naturally, part of growing up is that you don’t bother your parents for every Rand you need.

So people see me and my family now, several years later driving a decent car and living in an average house and they say, “Ningama kwekwere, asinifuni apha. Niqaphele, aningobalapha.”

“You are foreigners, we do not want you here. You better watch out, you are not of this place,” – unaware of and unwilling to hear of the years of struggle and hustle that came with the decent car and the average house. [Which, by the way, you can never fully own as SA law now restricts ownership of property by foreigners – but that is another discussion.]

And what has been the government’s response to the worsening unemployment and crime situation in the cities and suburbs that incites this violence and dissatisfaction amongst its people? To tighten immigration laws, border controls and any little room the foreigner may have had to just maybe survive in the menacing streets of Johannesburg. As if that is where the problem began.

Is it not the way our economy is structured? That there is limited room for unskilled labour in the workforce? That those who are not vocationally trained must then settle for employment outside of their existing areas of knowledge such as artisans, plumbers and electricians – whereas these skills are equally needed in a developing economy? That we have this thing called BEE which in practice just ensures that the Black bourgeoisie get wealthier by hook or by crook while still protecting and cushioning the impact of democracy on old, white money and big business?

Is it really the little Ethiopian man with his spaza shop that is threatening your progress na Bhuthi? Is it really the Nigerian woman who braids hair and sells Fanta that is stealing your job and place in your own land na Sisi? I can’t deal.

If none of these arguments have merit for you, then think of the fact that during apartheid, Nigeria spent thousands of dollars on the ANC protecting and moving its members across borders; Angola, Mozambique, Tanzania, Burundi, Zambia, Zimbabwe, Botswana, Kenya, Rwanda, Uganda all housed, supported and/or trained struggle heros with open arms and with no strings attached. How dare South Africans forget how much Africans did for them during apartheid. How dare you!

South Africans, go and learn your history. When you have read your history, then please teach the correct version to your children. Let them know that Africa helped put SA where it is now. Let them know that all blacks are not Xhosa or Zulu, but that that is irrelevant to the amount of dignity you accord to another human being. Teach your children that they must work for everything they want to have except your love as a parent. Teach your children that they are nothing without their neighbour – stop being selective about who Ubuntu applies to and does not. Teach them the truth about you.

The greatest enemy of the black man has always been himself. Not the colonialists. Not the apartheid architects. Only himself.

And as long as you refuse to take responsibility for where you are now, you will remain there. Kill us foreigners or not, it actually makes very little difference to your fortunes in life, people of Mzansi.

Lovelyn Nwadeyi
20 April 2015
South Africans, go and learn your history. When you have read your history, then please teach the correct version to your children. Let them know that Africa helped put SA where it is now. Let them know that all blacks are not Xhosa or Zulu, but that that is irrelevant to the amount of dignity you accord to another human being. Teach your children that they must work for everything they want to have except your love as a parent. Teach your children that they are nothing without their neighbour – stop being selective about who Ubuntu applies to and does not. Teach them the truth about you........ This babe deserves 2 cans of origin.
Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by emmatok(m): 6:47pm On Apr 24, 2015
I agree that what is happening in SA is genocide.
But calling South Africans lazy is an insult and its wrong.
SA belong first to the SA citizens and they can decide who they want in their country, and how they run their country.

Just this week thousands of African migrants died on their way to Europe.And the the European union are planning to control migrants from Africa.

Today the Europeans and South African are seeing other African migrants as a problem.

We Africans and our useless leaders are the only problem with Africa.

We Africans need to wake up.
Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by 50calibre(m): 6:48pm On Apr 24, 2015
How could anyone possibly find this write up long and boring, are Nigerians this lazy? If this was an eroti*c fiction or something along those lines, these lazy folks would happily read it's entire length and ask for more.

After the first few lines, I knew I had to continue reading, I found it very insightful and even entertaining. A lesson or two can be learnt from her experience.

The intellectual presence on this forum is in constant decline, take a look at the airheads on the front page complaining about how lazy they're to read. Seun better come up with a solution to this problem, else this forum will soon become a playground for little kids and idio*ts.

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Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by biafransoul: 6:48pm On Apr 24, 2015
Just like An Open Letter From An Igbo Lady To Yorubas especially the so called omo oniles. Anyways, good write up and food for thought for the wise ones.

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Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by lazsnaira(m): 6:50pm On Apr 24, 2015
Permission to use this thought provoking piece!

Thank You Lovelyn Nwadeyi

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Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by Nobody: 6:50pm On Apr 24, 2015
For those of you that find this article too long to read, Im sorry to let you know that you have no business with formal education because it involves extensive and intensive reading of every material u lay ur hands upon, that is one way u can broaden ur knowledge.

Back to topic:

@OP, this piece of write up by you is very inspiring, educating and instructive.

You backed up ur assertions about SA's with facts and also show how laziness on their part has also affected their thought process.

Congratulations for excelling in such a hostile environment yet they still hate people like you that strived so hard to get to were u are at the moment.

You remind me of Dolly Partons song -COAT OF MANY COLORS "She said that one is only poor only if you chose to be", that is the route most lazy SA's have chosen only to blame other's for their own stupidity.

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Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by merricherios(f): 6:54pm On Apr 24, 2015
u are just a dullard. mumu. all some of u know dull heady fools remarks. i pity the mother that sent you to school, total waste of resources. what a comment. chai!
iphanyiuma:
If my biology teacher then in school gave us this kind of note to copy we will just go awol and leave the class...therefore
*walking out of thread with my hands on my head*

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Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by stansaintly(m): 6:55pm On Apr 24, 2015
South Africans are notoriously lazy. They are just digging their graves because if foreigners leave their land, trust me, they won't be in any way fatter than AJEGUNLE DOGS and can never be in any way cleaner than ISIOKPO PIGS.
Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by Nobody: 6:56pm On Apr 24, 2015
l'll never set my foot in South Africa....Never
Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by Misogynist2014(m): 6:57pm On Apr 24, 2015
Justfollowit:
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Sorry dear, your signature makes no sense, change it.
Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by lolaxavier(m): 6:58pm On Apr 24, 2015
What an excellent piece of write up...Very clear and direct...A spade must always be called a spade.

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Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by merricherios(f): 6:59pm On Apr 24, 2015
mumu, thats all you know, to book space. i pity your destiny. all you invest your God given time in is to follow trends closely so you can be the first to leave a comment incase its makes front page. chai! your down fall awaits you if u dnt change...
tolustx:
Booked

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Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by Holluwatarhyor(m): 6:59pm On Apr 24, 2015
This lady/woman sabi writ epistle o

I swear to drunk,ah no finish am
Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by erijesu: 7:00pm On Apr 24, 2015
thanks for calling a spade a spade.it is only an irresponsible man that blame others for his failure
Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by chidyke77(m): 7:04pm On Apr 24, 2015
If this is a romantic story all these people complaining that d letter is too long will be d first to read it and comment.
Nice from the Op,I learnt a lot from this and am happy that i made the right decision of nt resigning frm my job to travel to SA in 2012.

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Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by merricherios(f): 7:04pm On Apr 24, 2015
and thats the reason you failed woefully in your certificate examination. because you have refused to invest you time in things that can improve you. must you comment? damn mahn! it is your types that puts Nigeria in bad light. i dnt have much money on me right now, but i can give you 50k to buy small sense, cos you lack any.
MKO4ever:
This letter too long jare
Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by nosike3(m): 7:05pm On Apr 24, 2015
Beach should come home please! What's with living in other countries and doing jobs meant for the lowest and lowest of dogs!!! Haba!! Nigeria is bad but from the description I got, her parents would definitely be better off here in Nigeria than that rotten country called south africa!
Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by eduxerxes: 7:05pm On Apr 24, 2015
Summary below...

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Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by merricherios(f): 7:06pm On Apr 24, 2015
one word for you... foolish! gbam
DeCritique:
Tooooo lonnnnggggg!


If you read this thing, then I know say you take Jegaquinine!!
Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by Lastanza: 7:10pm On Apr 24, 2015
all these mofos typing summary summary here., itz better u quietly leave d thread dan embarrassing d nation here wit ur academic poison. if u cannot read dis little writeup I wonder hw some of u managed to get through school. Rubbish

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Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by Lastanza: 7:10pm On Apr 24, 2015
all these mofos typing summary summary here., itz better u quietly leave d thread dan embarrassing d nation here wit ur academic poison. if u cannot read dis little writeup I wonder hw some of u managed to get through school. Rubbish
Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by streetzdreamz(m): 7:11pm On Apr 24, 2015
Touching story this really is,earlier a south african man took to d media to say a thing or two,justifying the killings and tagging d dead "just 7 dead men"and d whole world is hyping d news and screaming bloody murder,a sane man that goes tru both letters will decode that one was actually d tales of a man,wallowing in self pity and justifying their evil with silly excuses,and one the tale of a woman who's seen pains,and got her efforts crowned with good success at the end of d day,this piece really inspired me unlike d former dt was spewing trash as if he gat no working brain cells left in his skull.t aint really xenophobia but an orchestrated Genocide.
Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by ibkgab001: 7:14pm On Apr 24, 2015
In God we trust # SAYNOTOXENOPHOBIA
Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by Samadict(f): 7:17pm On Apr 24, 2015
You've said it all dearie.
Re: Open Letter From A Nigerian Lady To South Africans by Yemimovich(m): 7:19pm On Apr 24, 2015
fretnot:
My name is Lovelyn Chidinma Nwadeyi. I am a Nigerian. Born in Nigeria to two Nigerian parents. Raised in Queenstown, Eastern Cape by those same Nigerian parents right up until I completed my Bachelors at Stellenbosch.
Lovelyn Chidinma Nwadeyi
Lovelyn Chidinma Nwadeyi. Photo: supplied

Growing up in South Africa, I was always reminded by those around me that I was different to everyone else. In primary school, I had a much darker complexion than I do now, and super white teeth – the telling marks of a foreigner that betray you even when you put on your best English accent. It is just too obvious.

I bear citizenship of both worlds. I speak fluent Xhosa, Igbo, Afrikaans and English. I can make sense of Tswana and Sotho. I enjoy a good braai, I love vetkoek and bunny-chow. I can’t get enough of Bokomo WeetBix, I love Ouma’s rusks and I can pull off my panstulas with any outfit on a lazy Saturday when I want to head to town. I am the first to break it down with the ngwaza and the dombolo at the sound of some decent house music or kwaito be it in Pick n Pay or at a party.

I can sokkie and I enjoy it (albeit with my two left feet). My darkest moments can be reversed by koeksisters and a cup of rooibos tea any day. I can jump between the high pitched and arguably annoying accents of some Constantia moms, the lank kif and apparently sophisticated English of my Hilton brothers and the heavy accents of my fellow Eastern Capers. I can attempt the fast paced, lyrical Afrikaans of my coloured brothers in the Cape and I can serve you the best butternut soup you have ever known.

I am as South African as you need me to be.

But my ability to navigate all these spaces did not just happen. Learning to blend into all these spaces was a matter of survival for me.

You see from the day I set foot in Queenstown and started primary school, it was always made very clear to me that I was an outsider. I only had white friends from my first few years in school, because the other black girls couldn’t understand why I was black but only spoke in English. They thought I thought I was better than them. So I spent most of my breaks humbly eating my peanut butter and strawberry jam sandwich, surrounded by those who had Melrose cheese and Provita Crackers with Bovril and/or marmite sandwiches in their lunchboxes. The rest of the time I spent alone, save the few brave souls of similar complexion who tried to befriend me.

What nobody knew was that for the first three years of my life in South Africa, my little brother and I barely saw my dad more than twice a month. What was he doing absent from the home, other than selling pillowcases, duvets and bedsheets, from door to door on foot through the streets, villages and side roads of the old Transkei and Ciskei? My father would leave the house on Monday mornings after him and my mom got us ready for school, and he would be gone for days and weeks, selling the few pillowcases and bedsheets he had from door to door. On foot. We were never sure when he would return. But when he did, we were always more grateful for his safety and aliveness than anything else.

From Queenstown to Cala, Umtata, Qumbu, Qoqodala, Whittlesea, Mount Fletcher, King Williamstown, Mdantsane, Bhisho, Indwe, Butterworth, Aliwal North and even as far as Matatiele and Kokstad. There are so many other places he went to that I do not even know.

That is how my parents put us through school, until they saved up enough money to open their own little shop where they then started selling sewing machines, cotton and then community phones. Then sweets and chips and take-aways; and then hair products and the list goes on and on. It was on this that I was able to go through primary school, high school, and university. My parents have no tertiary education; it was only in their late 40s that both of them decided to register for part-time studies at Walter Sisulu to get their Diplomas. Note: Diplomas.

It took them four years, because they were busy trying to keep their kids in school, and keep selling their sweets and sewing machines while attempting to dignify their efforts with a degree.

My story is not unique – it is the story of most foreigners in South Africa. Very few foreigners come into SA with skills that make them employable here. Unless you are a medical doctor, an academic and maybe an engineer or well-established businessman before coming here, your chances of getting meaningful employment in SA are as limited as those of the United States letting Al-Qaeda members off the hook – almost impossible.

Most foreigners come to SA with the ability to braid hair, carve wood, or sell fruits, veggies, clothes, fizz pops, carpets and soap before they can find their feet here. Some are graduates…but what can another African degree do for you in SA? And any foreigner in SA will tell you that that is the truth. All of us started from below the bottom. Doing work that carries no dignity, no respect and very little financial gain. But when you have left or lost everything that you know and love and end up in a foreign land as unwelcoming in its laws and restrictions as South Africa, you have little choice available to you.

I can bet you that there is not up to 10% of South Africans who would be willing to do the menial and embarrassing work my parents and other foreigners did for as long as they did it, and for as little as they did it, were you to ask them today. So it annoys me, to the deepest part of my being when I see a South African open their mouth and cry “foul” against innocent foreigners. Let’s discuss this:

Arachnophobia – the fear of spiders.

Claustrophobia – the fear of small/tight/enclosed spaces.

Xenophobia – the fear of foreigners.

However individuals who are afraid of spiders do not go around killing spiders, rather they avoid spiders. Equally, individuals who are afraid of small and tight spaces do not go around trying to eliminate the existence of small spaces.

Thus xenophobia does not by definition imply the killing of foreigners. Yet, we continue to label this current wave of killings and murders in SA as xenophobic – and now the cooler term – “Afrophobic” attacks. Can we please just get real? What is happening in SA is a genocide, a genocide fuelled by a deep-seated hatred for which no single foreigner is responsible.

Before, you say this is too extreme, allow me to explain.

Genocide is the systematic/targeted killing of a specific tribe or race.

In South Africa’s case, this would be the senseless killings of non-South Africans, mostly those of African origin and some Pakistani, Bangladeshi and other non-African minorities.

I think the government, South African and international media are being too cowardly to call it what it is. They know what is going on in South Africa and yet they refuse to acknowledge it for fear of who knows what. Is it because their numbers are not high enough? Should we wait until a few good hundred thousand foreigners have been murdered before we speak the truth?

So now the value of human lives is being reduced to a debate on politically correct terms and phrases to protect certain interests. People are being butchered in the streets, and the country is worrying about bad PR. I hate that now, on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, everyone is now trying to say, “Oh no, it’s not all South Africans that are doing this, hey. Just a few of those people there.” South Africans are trying to distance themselves from what is happening in their own backyards as though it is of any consolation to those watching their family members being sizzled in rubber rings. As if that is what matters – true South African style.

This is not the first wave of attacks of this nature in South Africa. In fact, the 2008 attacks were much worse in terms of raw numbers of casualties suffered than these have been so far. The issue of xenophobia is not a new one in SA. However, the differentiator in 2015 is that this wave is backed by a strong ideology; that somehow these attacks can be and are justified.

An ideology that sees merit in the argument that foreigners are stealing the jobs of locals, that they are stealing their women, that these “makwerekwere” are the cause of most ills in South African society.

It is a shame how uninformed and how baseless these arguments are. Foreigners do not and CANNOT steal jobs in SA. Do you know how hard it is to get South African papers, just to get into the country – not to talk of getting a work permit and convincing any company to take on the cost of employing you as a foreigner? Unless you have some freaking scarce skills in the country – it just does not happen like that.

Secondly, just shut up and stop it. South Africans who embibe these arguments are lazy. There is a disgusting entitlement that is attached to this notion that jobs can be stolen. This implies that there are jobs waiting for you – of which there are none.

There are no freaking jobs waiting for anyone. Pick up a bucket and start washing cars. Put on your shoes and walk through your streets, sell tomatoes, eggs and tea – anything people eat, they will buy. Or pick up a book, hustle your way into university, work for a scholarship and get yourself an education. But stop this senselessness. Nobody is stealing your jobs.

I got my first job when I was 11-years-old. I worked on the school bus in my town. I collected money for the bus driver, wrote out receipts and kept order on the bus. I didn’t get paid much, but it helped me learn first that nothing comes easy, I learnt to be responsible and accountable to someone else. Secondly it helped me pay for little extramural expenses I did at school which were not the priority for my parents at the time (and rightly so). In ‘varsity, even though I had a tuition bursary, I worked two part-time jobs and one contract job for the entire three years at Stellenbosch so I could pay for my good, clothes and some additional materials etc. Yes my parents supported me as best they could, but naturally, part of growing up is that you don’t bother your parents for every Rand you need.

So people see me and my family now, several years later driving a decent car and living in an average house and they say, “Ningama kwekwere, asinifuni apha. Niqaphele, aningobalapha.”

“You are foreigners, we do not want you here. You better watch out, you are not of this place,” – unaware of and unwilling to hear of the years of struggle and hustle that came with the decent car and the average house. [Which, by the way, you can never fully own as SA law now restricts ownership of property by foreigners – but that is another discussion.]

And what has been the government’s response to the worsening unemployment and crime situation in the cities and suburbs that incites this violence and dissatisfaction amongst its people? To tighten immigration laws, border controls and any little room the foreigner may have had to just maybe survive in the menacing streets of Johannesburg. As if that is where the problem began.

Is it not the way our economy is structured? That there is limited room for unskilled labour in the workforce? That those who are not vocationally trained must then settle for employment outside of their existing areas of knowledge such as artisans, plumbers and electricians – whereas these skills are equally needed in a developing economy? That we have this thing called BEE which in practice just ensures that the Black bourgeoisie get wealthier by hook or by crook while still protecting and cushioning the impact of democracy on old, white money and big business?

Is it really the little Ethiopian man with his spaza shop that is threatening your progress na Bhuthi? Is it really the Nigerian woman who braids hair and sells Fanta that is stealing your job and place in your own land na Sisi? I can’t deal.

If none of these arguments have merit for you, then think of the fact that during apartheid, Nigeria spent thousands of dollars on the ANC protecting and moving its members across borders; Angola, Mozambique, Tanzania, Burundi, Zambia, Zimbabwe, Botswana, Kenya, Rwanda, Uganda all housed, supported and/or trained struggle heros with open arms and with no strings attached. How dare South Africans forget how much Africans did for them during apartheid. How dare you!

South Africans, go and learn your history. When you have read your history, then please teach the correct version to your children. Let them know that Africa helped put SA where it is now. Let them know that all blacks are not Xhosa or Zulu, but that that is irrelevant to the amount of dignity you accord to another human being. Teach your children that they must work for everything they want to have except your love as a parent. Teach your children that they are nothing without their neighbour – stop being selective about who Ubuntu applies to and does not. Teach them the truth about you.

The greatest enemy of the black man has always been himself. Not the colonialists. Not the apartheid architects. Only himself.

And as long as you refuse to take responsibility for where you are now, you will remain there. Kill us foreigners or not, it actually makes very little difference to your fortunes in life, people of Mzansi.

Lovelyn Nwadeyi
20 April 2015

Anything phobic means HATRED AND MORBID FEAR of an object or better still AN EXTREME AND IRRATIONAL FEAR of an object. So, the saga remains XENOPHOBIC in nature

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