Abduletudaye:


You can wicked o....

LOL

No. I just won't cook for him anymote.

MrsChima:
No. I just won't cook for him anymote.

Why??

Abduletudaye:


Why??

Why cook for someone who won't eat my prepared meals

nutty16:
If he refuse food,he must refused s6x also. Dats nice den I ll be walking naked in d bedroom maybe he can resist.

wicked!!!

MrsChima:


Why cook for someone who won't eat my prepared meals

So you wont ask why he's not eating

Kimoni:


wicked!!!

Very wicked!!!

Abduletudaye:


So you wont ask why he's not eating

I asked him and he still doesn't eat my food...my previous comments stand.

MrsChima:


I asked him and he still doesn't eat my food...my previous comments stand.

Hmmm...i fear you fa

Abduletudaye:



Hmmm...i fear you fa

Life isn't that complicated.

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MrsChima:


Life isn't that complicated.

Very true

YOUNGKAHUNA:
I can remember doing this sh!t to my ex... It do pissed her off, pampering and begging me to eat her food. It's really a childish act. I'm more matured now. If I'm pissed with my woman, there are ways to deal with it and not rejecting her food

Oh? kindly share with the class.

Kimoni:


I strongly disagree

It's a phase...when there are bigger issues, the last thing you are bothered about is a full fledged grown man not eating your food. Especially when it's a reoccurring thing.

Do you know how difficult it is to get children to eat? The petting, cajoling? Not to mention the threats

And you'll finish with all that and start worrying about an adult not eating...hehehe

I have an idea how difficult it is to feed children.

I also happen to know a lot of women push the affections of thier husbands aside when children start coming in. They are so busy taking care of the kids that they can ignore the man outright. Then they wonder when the man strays.
That's by the way.

@op many of the women here are making mouth,dont mind them. If their supposed darling stops eating thier food they'll want to know the reason why.

Unless of course like I stated earlier...unless they couldnt care less. Lack of feeling for thier spouse will make them ignore him completely. There's no love in such a union.

5minsmadness:


I have an idea how difficult it is to feed children.

I also happen to know a lot of women push the affections of thier husbands aside when children start coming in. They are so busy taking care of the kids that they can ignore the man outright. Then they wonder when the man strays.
That's by the way.

Doesn't a mature man know that it is just a phase and doesn't he know better ways to handle the situation?

@op many of the women here are making mouth,dont mind them. If their supposed darling stops eating thier food they'll want to know the reason why.

What if they know why?

Unless of course like I stated earlier...unless they couldnt care less. Lack of feeling for thier spouse will make them ignore him completely. There's no love in such a union.

Not true. If a man refuses to eat the food instead of solving the problem, then it is best to respect the decision else one will be tagged nagging wife.

Mindfulness:


Doesn't a mature man know that it is just a phase and doesn't he know better ways to handle the situation?

Oh, now maturity has come into it. Ok.
A mature woman should know that even when the man is trying to be matured and ignore her lack of concern for him,she should encourage him once in a while by showing that affection occassionally. It helps a lot.

Sadly, the tending to the kids stuff is hardly a "phase". It's a lifelong process. Those kids are going to grow into toddlers and then preschoolers and then schoolchildren, then adolescents and finally young adults. Each phase comes with its own unique problems and attention seeeking. If the woman continues to neglect the man in favour of the all important children, she will raise her head up one day and realised two decades have passed and the man she married has become a stranger to her. One whom she mechanically serves food to but has no feelings for whatsoever.

What if they know why?

If they know why then good for them. The first step to solving a problem is to know what the problem is.

Not true. If a man refuses to eat the food instead of solving the problem, then it is best to respect the decision else one will be tagged nagging wife.

Men dont express themselves verbally as well as women. Most arguments end with the woman having the last word and the man stopming off. The woman thinks all is solved but the man is still seething inside. So she goes her merry way but he doesnt know how to raise the issue up again cos he's not satisfied with the outcome. So he stops eating her food because her knows its an expression of love and care on her part and if he refuses to eat it will get her attention. If it doesnt then he knows she doesnt care anymore either way. Whatever happens after that is anyone's guess.

A man not eating a woman's food is indirectly telling her he still cares about her feelings enough to know that she would be hurt by his gesture and seek a resolution. You'll notice this kind of gesture occurs more among young couples or lovebirds than among certain other couples that have hardened their feelings towards each other.

5minsmadness:

Oh, now maturity has come into it. Ok.
A mature woman should know that even when the man is trying to be matured and ignore her lack of concern for him,she should encourage him once in a while by showing that affection occassionally. It helps a lot.

Sadly, the tending to the kids stuff is hardly a "phase". It's a lifelong process. Those kids are going to grow into toddlers and then preschoolers and then schoolchildren, then adolescents and finally young adults. Each phase comes with its own unique problems and attention seeeking. If the woman continues to neglect the man in favour of the all important children, she will raise her head up one day and realised two decades have passed and the man she married has become a stranger to her. One whom she mechanically serves food to but has no feelings for whatsoever.

This is not true. The phase where a woman is predominantly focused on her child doesn't last forever. It would help many couples to handle it in a relaxed way if someone told them that it is natural for a woman to focus on her child after birth but that it passes after a year or two. Many women also experience a lower se.xual drive after delivery and it makes perfect sense that nature made it so because it is unhealthy and even dangerous for them to become pregnant in the first year after giving birth. So the best thing to do for you as the father is to support your child and of course the mother along with the child. It will go a long way. Just remember that is a phase because it is and it does not last that long.

If they know why then good for them. The first step to solving a problem is to know what the problem is.

Exactly but one of the problems women experience with men is that men pull back in anger and are unapproachable. Most women would love to discuss the problem and solve it in this way but many men avoid such conversations. So what do you suggest?

Men dont express themselves verbally as well as women. Most arguments end with the woman having the last word and the man stopming off. The woman thinks all is solved but the man is still seething inside. So she goes her merry way but he doesnt know how to raise the issue up again cos he's not satisfied with the outcome. So he stops eating her food because her knows its an expression of love and care on her part and if he refuses to eat it will get her attention. If it doesnt then he knows she doesnt care anymore either way. Whatever happens after that is anyone's guess.

You said it. Men are not good at expressing themselves verbally in such situations but this is what women naturally do when there is a conflict. They want to solve it verbally. They seek a compromise.
What kind of attention do you want when you are angry?
Some / Many men just want to be left alone.
I have also read that it takes longer for a man to calm down than for a woman so it is a very tricky issue really.

If he won't eat mine I'll eat his.

I can't reject food as it is now.

cococandy:
If he won't eat mine I'll eat his.
I can't reject food as it is now.

Foodie!

Couples should not play 'politics' with food and sex: Man refusing to eat his wife's food and or woman refusing to have sex with her husband.

I've never been married before, but I'm quite sure that there are things that should not be joked with, especially in marriages.

Don't deny me sex, I'll eat your food. For whatever differences we have, we'd reconcile in bed having begun the process on the table.

JoeCutie:
Foodie!

cococandy:

I think we are even in that respect.


Howdy?

JoeCutie:
I think we are even in that respect.


Howdy?

If you say so.

Anyway I'm fine. Hope you are too

5minsmadness:


I have an idea how difficult it is to feed children.

I also happen to know a lot of women push the affections of thier husbands aside when children start coming in. They are so busy taking care of the kids that they can ignore the man outright. Then they wonder when the man strays.
That's by the way.

@op many of the women here are making mouth,dont mind them. If their supposed darling stops eating thier food they'll want to know the reason why.

Unless of course like I stated earlier...unless they couldnt care less. Lack of feeling for thier spouse will make them ignore him completely. There's no love in such a union.

Okk instead of the man to go and stray, why doesn't he buckle down and take more of the burden of childcare from his wife. They are his kids too. If the wife has more support, she will definitely have a lot more time and energy to spend on hubby

cococandy:
If you say so.
Anyway I'm fine. Hope you are too

I'm beautiful. How's Canada?

Hahaha, Trust my hubby. No matter how angry he is he will eat, my punishment is he'll serve himself!(which really isn't a punishment but an assistance )

If there is something I have learnt from my parents who have been married for over 50 years, its that if my dad doesn't eat my mum would be worried, all you women claiming that it is childish forget men have a big heart and ego, if you don't know how to pamper us your marriage may not last up to 50 years.
Two wrongs never make a right. I just feel sorry for this present generation...