HUSBAND SCARCITY!
by Habiba Bashir.
This may not be the best time for me
to write on
this because of misinterpretation, but
I can no
longer resist the push.
"Husband
Scarcity" has become one of the
challenges faced
by many young girls today. If you go
to
prayer houses, majority of the
intentions are prayer
for a life partner. And this calls for
concern.
Casting our minds back to the time of
our mothers
and grandmothers, was there
really much of a "Husband Scarcity"
problem?
Or, maybe there were more men than
women then,
or there was an adequate
corresponding
numbers of both genders.
I don't think so.
Maybe then, the women had values
and were
prepared to build a home and not
park into a built
home.
Then, once a young man comes of
age and can at
least feed himself and his wife, he
goes out in
search of a wife and the woman really
appreciates him and helps him to
build a future.
What am I really trying to say?
We created what we now see as
"Husband
Scarcity" for ourselves.
Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an
average girl
to define her dream husband; you get
things like "he
has to be tall, handsome, fair, and
rich, own a house
at least, and be presentable" and then
she
adds "God fearing" in order not to
sound so worldly.
Then, check the number of girls
around you and the
number of men that meet
that standard, and you will see the
problem.
You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in
my father's
house and then go and start suffering
with a man."
What a wonderful dream!
What if from the beginning, you have
everything you
want and there is no suffering, and
later in the
marriage, the table turns around, then
comes
suffering?
Will you run away?
No one prays for suffering, but it is
good to start
small and end big, than start big and
end small.
The problem is that the description
majority of girls
give of their ideal man is virtually the
same.
When 50 girls want the same kind of
man and the
man that fits what they want is just 1
man, and the
man can only pick one. Then, what
becomes of 49
others?
They simply start lamenting of
"Husband Scarcity".
Another irony of our time is that it is
hard, due to the
economic reality to find a man
who is of marriage age who
possesses the qualities
these ladies want legitimately (except
those
involved in Internet fraud/scam, 419);
even the
number of those into fraud are not
enough to match
all those searching for
already made husbands.
If you look around, majority of the
ladies of
substance, of good value and virtue,
who are ready
to build a home with a man who has
prospects, are married and not
complaining of
husband scarcity.
The easiest way to find a
husband now, is to change your view
of who a
husband is.
A husband is that man God made and
then saw that
it may be hard for him to
really actualize his purpose for
making him without
a help mate and then made the
woman and gave to him, and he felt
complete and
fulfilled.
MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY
ALLEVIATION
PROGRAM. It is a mission of
building the family of God here on
earth.
For those who see marriage as a way
out of
poverty, it is a way into bondage.
Women are HOME BUILDERS, not
HOME
WARMERS...
DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S
PATH WITH HIS DESTINY.
Where he is today, may only be a
route to where
God has destined him to be
tomorrow.
Another truth is that YOU MAY BE
THE ONLY FAST
MEANS TO THAT HIS
DESTINATION.
Join in alleviating "husband
scarcity".
PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES.
I am not saying that you should pick
anyone that
comes your way and proceed into
marriage.
Not all men are husband materials!
What I am saying is that you should
stop setting
your standard on material
acquisitions or physical
appearances. Look beyond the
physical.
WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS
NOT WHAT HE
OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS. IT IS WHAT
HE IS MADE
UP OF. And that which
he is made of is, most times, not
seen with the
physical eyes. Only its effects can be
seen.
Marriage is a permanent
thing. Whatever is seen is temporal
and that
which is not seen i s permanent.
Relax and go to God in prayer. God
did not just
make Eve
for making sake. He made her for
Adam's need to
be met.
May God help

God will bless you.
You so correct about your assertions I pray young ladies will take these piece of advice

hmm..seems your patience with your guy has paid off..nice write up though.. just other girls will emulate this.

nice write up, so on point but not all girls are choo zy

Tel them o....that guy that cannot even feed himself, I cannot marry him.

i'm sorry, i couln't read it all

I like the write up.....I wish this message can be sent to every girl to read....