KanwuliaJara:
I think I prefer NL during fuel scarcity o!
Some people don carry dem jerry-cans of DIZO invade NL o!

MissNairaland1:
Anyone who immediately blames a woman for the breakup of her marriage without first knowing the issues at stake is in need of therapy. Two people got married not one.
She is not God.
Even God will not make the marriage work when two people or one of them is committed to wrecking it.
It is bad enough we live in a patriarchal society, where most women have little or no rights as regards self development, fulfillment of purpose and a place of honor on their own marriages but, when you add on the mix of misguided and blind men and women who twist scripture and bring in pseudo-cultural ideas (or even actual cultural practices but, outdated and deadly ones all the same) we see just how evil this thing becomes.
What happened to two becoming one? What happened to two people being responsible for their union? Why should one person take all the blame? And why the woman?
Now, don't get me wrong here. There are some pretty evil women out there (men too) who actually just married to use the person and other devious plans. For those, feel free to throw it all at her feet but, unless in those extreme cases, take a moment and think about the issues. That is if you even bother to hear them.
I get so mad when someone mentions marital issues and one homosapien just pipes up and says it is when the woman does not give him sex when he wants it or she does not cook well. Or she is not sexy enough. That's a load of nonsense mixed in with a generous portion of horse manure.
Listen to an issue before you start mouthing off on things you know nothing about. It is not wisdom. It is actually pure foolishness. Proverbs 18:13.
Yes, food and sex are important. No one said they are not but, if that is all that comes to mind as the reason for a marriage falling apart, then that person needs some serious counselling and reorientation.
"Church" has ruined marriages.
"ministry" has ruined marriages.
The way childlessness was handled has ruined marriages.
The list is legion.
It is not always about bedroom gymnastics and, it is not always the fault of the women.
For some ladies, their offence was being with that man who is selfish, abusive and adulterous. They have done nothing else wrong but, someone somewhere will say what has the woman done to spoil it. It is silly.
It is even more sad that some women carry this ridiculous idea and feed it to others. If men alone did it, that's bad enough. Must a woman also open her mouth and say "a woman is the keeper of the home and if it fails it is her fault"?
Is the man a photograph or decorative China on the shelf? He does not have work to do in the marriage atink? Is he not the head of the home? Does he not know he should lead?
Abeg, don't go and form counsellor for someone's marriage and talk nonsense. Hear first and then think before you speak.
Better yet, for some folks it is safer for them to never even attempt counselling even after hearing, thinking and, praying.
Some folks will just still end up spewing nonsense out and causing more harm then good. Bhet we no go gree na. All of us na anointed ministers and counsellors, so we know what we are saying. Nonsense and ingredient.
Please for the ones who like to do things right, don't meddle into what you cannot handle and don't go to people who don't know what they are saying/doing for help. Wisdom is profitable to direct.
From Nneka Nwachukwu....
Ehen! And for those cows looking for "inspirational" and "non-negative" posts, I hope this serves your bloody needs.
Anumkpamas!!!