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| She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by Mbkite(m): 8:27pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
Cynthia has almost all that Emeka wants in a woman. She(cynthia) scored 9 on a scale of 10 based on the qualities he(Emeka) has outlined for a future wife. She is educated, caring, decent, religious, hardworking, supportive and respectful. The only challenge Emeka is having is Cynthia's age, she is 33 while he is 29. He is just afraid of the unknown and the possible consequences of this age factor. Emeka really wants to settle down with Cynthia. Matured advice please. Cc: seun, lalasticlala, ishilove |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by 42n8dzydoo(m): 8:29pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
I don't think the age should be a barrier 1 Like |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by coogar: 8:32pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
Mbkite: tell emeka he's a fool!  cynthia scored a wholesome 9 over 10 and emeka is still in doubt? the last time any nigerian woman scored up to 7 out of 10 was in 1997. what does emeka want? he would rather have a 23 year old girl that scored 3 out of 10? 33 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by Cutehector(m): 8:35pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
Same situation a third class graduate passes tru wen dey pass all stages of the interview only for dem to be told "sorry, we don't employ third class graduates... Life isn't fair 4 Likes |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by elantraceey(f): 8:38pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
Emeka should check himself , it's only a humble man and Lady that will survive such relationship with love and trust. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by tintingz(m): 8:39pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
So it is her age that's pulling you back after she scored 9 over 10? 4 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by Nobody: 8:40pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
Cutehector: LMAO! Are you talking from experience??  |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by boynigeria(m): 8:43pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
Mbkite:Marriage is scary itself that doesnt mean we should be Rev Fathers Life is too short for u to let little situations hold up back from a chance at happiness Does Emeka thinks if he marries someone younger he's problem free? Pls?! 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by Cutehector(m): 8:44pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
Shollypopzz:lmao i Ddnt graduate with third class |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by Mbkite(m): 8:48pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
42n8dzydoo:it has always bn a barrier bro. Adam was older than Eve. |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by Mbkite(m): 8:50pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
boynigeria:nice, bt do u knw if Cynthia is bn gud because of her age. May be she is desperate for marriage and may tend to take any sh*t |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by MizMyColi(f): 8:50pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
coogar: Stop rhyming, this is not rap section  Wait, what if the tables were turned? What if the same qualities apply and this time Emeka isn't just 3, 4, 5 years older, but 15! What'd be your take? 3 Likes |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by Mbkite(m): 8:51pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
elantraceey:ok. Gud one |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by boynigeria(m): 8:53pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
Mbkite:yea, possible but that is a general issue "is she desperate or not" which he has to uncover not just run away without knowing 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by Mbkite(m): 8:59pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
boynigeria:ok. |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by Hembaq: 9:05pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
I dont usually advice men to marry older women no matter what. cc: lalasticlala, ishilove; please help us move this up. Emeka needs help. |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by coogar: 9:09pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
MizMyColi: a man has the freedom to marry any age range. we are special like that. so a 38 year old man can marry a 23-year old babe & the society won't raise any eyebrow over it. some ladies are actually attracted to older guys. if he's not 10+ years older, they are not interested. our side of the coin is covered, na your side get a little comma. |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by toksbisola: 9:18pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
@OP; When a man finds a wife; it’s like he’s found a precious pearl or better still a precious diamond. You just described this lady as scoring 9 out of 10. To me, that lady is a precious diamond that should not be discarded based on her other qualities you also outlined. I tell you a little story. I know of a woman who is about 10 years older than her husband and guess what; they have been married for more than 30 something years and still counting. They have children as well and some of their children are now married. Her husband saw a woman whom he could spend the rest of his life with and he did not let the age gap nor the culture frowning at it hinder him from marrying her. I know in some cultures, it’ll be hard especially since the logic is usually the man being older than the woman. But sometimes when you follow this logic, and end up with a woman younger than you are, she might be one that would deal with you mercilessly through her character. As long as she knows not to use the age gap to disrespect you and you in return not to use that as an obstacle to chastise or castigate her; then I don’t see why you want to throw this opportunity away simply because the society at large might frown at the age difference. What I don’t understand is why you carried on with her when you were having this age difference problem at the back of your mind as something that might cause you some concern. If you are already having doubts due to the age difference; then PLEASE DO NOT WASTE HER TIME AS WELL AS YOUR TIME. You probably would need to find someone younger if you can’t put up with the fact that she is older than you. I am about to reiterate the qualities you mentioned above regarding the lady in form of the questions below; Is she caring? Is she decent? Is she hardworking? Is she supportive? Is she respectful? Permit me to ask my own 3 questions below; Is she a homely person whom you know can comfortable look after you and your home? Does she love you? Do you see her as a lady who wouldn't nag? The decision is yours entirely whether to carry on with her or let her be. I’ll strongly advice you to think deeply before pulling the plug on the relationship. Also note that you might find someone younger but you probably might not find the 9 out of 10 mark which you are currently happy with but for the fact that she is older than you. Also note that some women might not look their age and with advancement in having a good health routine she probably will age gracefully; hence, you might not need to worry too much about her looking older than you. I rest my case 11 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by Nobody: 9:29pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
coogar: plz which woman made that record in 1997 2 Likes |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by Mbkite(m): 9:31pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
toksbisola:wow! May God bless u 4 dis wonderful contribution. Thank you so much. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by Nobody: 9:32pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
Cutehector: |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by MizMyColi(f): 9:33pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
coogar: Well, sadly and realistically true. I hope that changes soon enough. Everyone deserves a chance at happiness and love...No matter their age or seeming disadvantage (ness). 2 Likes |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by tpiadotcom: 9:41pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
Come on!!!!!!!! |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by pwerrymansion(f): 9:55pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
OP if you really love this woman better grab her fast whilst the offer last. You just listed the features of an ideal woman. There's no such thing as a perfect woman. Let that age be the imperfection in her which can be glossed over with your love. Age is just a number. Don't let societal criterion hinder you from being with your soulmate cos you might never come across such miracles again. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by Nobody: 10:11pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
Once a the lady is older, she always attributes the guys flaws to childishness. *based on my findings * |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by bukatyne(f): 10:50pm On Jun 11, 2015 |
How did Emeka know she's a 9 or did he just find out her age? |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by Mbkite(m): 6:10am On Jun 12, 2015 |
Kizmarty:she is here with us Mizmycoli |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by Mbkite(m): 6:12am On Jun 12, 2015 |
bukatyne:can u pls read d story again 1 Like |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by Mbkite(m): 6:13am On Jun 12, 2015 |
deejay2x67:u HV a point though, but not in all cases 1 Like |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by Mbkite(m): 6:16am On Jun 12, 2015 |
pwerrymansion: LOL, so na miracle? thank u dear 1 Like |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by Nobody: 7:50am On Jun 12, 2015 |
Mbkite: 1 Like |
| Re: She Has Almost All He needs in a woman, But 4years Older than him. by chigoizie7(m): 3:45pm On Jun 12, 2015 |
Lolz, this Is a very tricky situation bro, from all the write up above me, it is pertinent that every one saw nothing wrong in the age gap palava. But I do. And I will tell u a bit about my own fears as emeka's fears. *just as someone just told us how d marriage of a wife 10yrs older dan the hubby went. So well and encouraging I guess. Now let me tell u my own. *i know of couples who started up like emeka nd cynthia.but it ended bad. Let me ask some questions. *how old was emeka when he met her? *was cynthia desperate to get married b4 she met emeka? *how long have they dated each other b4 deciding to settle down? Let me also be quick to tell u dat women can be very secretive, a woman can hide her true identity for no matter how long it takes just to get what she wants, many of u can attest to that. In my own opinion,let me tell u wat every woman wants in this life "POWER" Forget the fact that they love money, money is just a lather to climb up to power. A woman can do everything to achieve power over men,but the only thing that can restrict them is AGE. Ever wonder how ur elder sister talks or behaves towards u? And how she talks and behaves towards that ur brother who is older than she is? Well, consciously or unconsciously, that's who they are, some of them can't help it. No matter who we are, we all tend to respect whoever that is older than we are, why is dat? It is because it is a moral inculcated in us by either our parents or the society right from when were small, and as the bible says for christians, "teach a child in the way he should go and when he I old, he will not depart from it". RESPECT for elders is paramount to us all both men and women. Ever wondered why it is normal for a man to marry a woman he is older than? Even if it is just for a year? Women have always want to be supreme both in marriages, but the only thing that restricts them is RESPECT for OLDER folks. *Was cynthia being good to emeka because she is desperate to get married to him? Hence, exhibiting all the good characters? *this ^^^ is why Emeka is scared for the future of his marriage. *we all know that marriage is not a bed of roses, we also know that once in a while we fall out of love with our partners, we also know that we always disagree to agree, we know that most times, we quarel to make up even become strongly closer. *we all know wat women can do with their tongue and mouth. *we all know how we respect and value our EGO as men. * What if in the case of the marriage experiencing that normal marriage quarrels and cynthia happens to remind him who is older either to win the fight or to spit him. *what will happen to Emeka's ego? How will Emeka take it when they eventually comes to term? All these are why Emeka is scared, it is not that he does not love her,I mean for him to give her a 9/10,means he is heel over hell in love with him, but Emeka is also loving with his HEAD and not just his HEARTH. *Emeka is just trying to prevent the story that touches. My 1kobo, our opinion about many things might differ, so,be free to trash me.its allowed. *winks* 9 Likes |
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