Tokyo (CNN)— When I was a young, single
woman in Japan in the 1980s, the economy was
red hot and so was the dating scene.
Cool girls weren't ashamed of losing their
virginity before marriage.
Of course for me personally, losing my virginity
was a big deal. But socially, it was no biggie. It
was the 80s, Japan was alive, and life was
good.

Goodness, how times have changed.
It's alarming for me, and many of my peers, to
see the enthusiasm about sex and relationships
we felt during our youth replaced by the sexual
indifference seen in Japan today.
A government survey released this week
suggested that nearly 40 percent of Japanese in
their twenties and thirties are not in a
relationship don't think they need a romantic
partner, with many calling relationships
"bothersome."
Another survey from 2010 found that one in four
Japanese men in their thirties who've never
been married are virgins. The figures were only
slightly less for women.

APATHY TO SEX

This sexual apathy is extremely troubling for
Japan, which has the world's most rapidly aging
population, sparking concerns that citizens will
not produce enough children to sustain a
healthy economy in the coming years.
I was skeptical when I learned of a nude art
class aimed at inspiring Japan's growing
population of middle-aged virgins.
I thought, if a man hasn't had any kind of sexual
relationship by his thirties or forties, simply
sketching a nude woman is like throwing a drop
of water on a forest fire. It's not going to solve
the problem.

But then we interviewed Takashi Sakai (we've
agreed to change his name), a 41-year-old
Japanese virgin who says these classes, offered
bimonthly in Tokyo by the non-profit White
Hands, are the closest he's ever been to a real,
naked woman and not some fantasized version
in Japanese manga.
"When you see a woman and find her attractive,
you might ask her out, hold her hand, kiss and
that's how it goes," Sakai says.
"But in my case, it did not happen for me. I
thought it might happen naturally, but it never
did."

NEVER BEEN KISSED

Shingo Sakatsume -- a self-styled "sex helper"
working with White Hands -- says middle-aged
virgins who would like their situation to change
lack real life experience with women, so
allowing them to spend time looking at the
female body is a first step to solve the issue.
"In Japanese society, we have so much
entertainment beyond love and sex. We have
animation, celebrities, comics, game and
sports," he says.

"Why do you need to choose love or sex over
the other fun things that don't have the
potential for pain and suffering?"
The illusion of a perfect relationship, combined
with the Japanese fear of failure, has created a
serious social problem, he says.
He knows the apparent disconnect is leading to
fewer relationships, record low birth rates, and a
shrinking population.

The classes seem to be helping Sakai, a
mountain climber and teacher who, at 41, is not
only a virgin, but also has never been in a
relationship or even been kissed.
For years, he's kept his virginity a secret from
friends, co-workers, and family.
"Not telling others (I'm a virgin) was the same
as pretending the problem does not exist," says
Sakai. "It was like putting it away on a shelf
where nobody can see it."

OLD CLICHES

As I watch my six-year-old son grow up, I
always think about whether Japan will be a good
home.
By 2060 when he becomes my age, if current
trends continue, Japan's population will have
shrunk by more than 30%.
Two in five people will be older than 65. Will
Japan be able to sustain itself? What will his life
be like?

Japanese views on sex and relationships have
changed dramatically during my 27-year career.
Back in the bubble economy of the 1980s,
unmarried girls over 25 were called "Christmas
Cake" -- a term for something you throw out
after the season has passed.
In the 1990s, the concept became "year-end
noodle."

In Japan, we eat noodles on New Year's Eve. If
not eaten by the 31st, they also get thrown out
like Christmas cakes.
Today, many laugh at these old clichés.
Twenty years of economic stagnation seems to
have led to emasculation of some Japanese
men, who can no longer count on finding a job
that will pay enough to support a wife and
children.

"Economic status and income is closely tied to
self-esteem. Lower income means lower self-
esteem," Sakatsume says.
"Having lower self-esteem makes it difficult to
commit to a love relationship."
Sakai now shares his story openly at White
Hands classes. He says confiding in others
helps him realize he's not alone.

"There are so many people living as though they
have no sexual desire. I feel first hand that
(these) kind of people are quietly on the rise."
Sakai says he still hopes to say goodbye to his
virginity but is philosophical about it.

"I feel much better now because I can talk
about it. And by talking about it, I've come to
realize that my situation is not something that I
must change, but I must recognize," he says.
"I haven't given up yet."

FACT: Japan has the world's largest suicide rate, common among men between the ages of 21 - 44.

SOURCE:
http://edition.cnn.com/2015/06/24/asia/japan-middle-aged-virgins/?iref=obinsite

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someone please summarize...

tmanis:
never believed I'll ever ask for this but...




someone please summarize...

- Japan is an Asian country (LOL).
- Worsening economic situation makes people not have time for sex.
- Coupled with that, Japanese fear failure, love perfection and avoid relationships.
- 40% of Japanese between 20 & 30 years don't think they need physical relationships with the opposite sex (they prefer animated girlfriends (manga/anime), video games and are engrossed in high tech gadgets).
- Most People in the 40s have neither kissed nor straffed.
- As a result, children are not being born. The society is mostly made up of old people. The economy suffers the more b/cos there is no adequate young workforce.
- A concerned organization organises naked girls on sofas so that the 40 year old virgins could sketch them whilst enjoying their first view of female abunnan/unclothedness . This is to quicken their desensitized, indifferent and shy dispositions.
- The girls are complaining...
- I love my life.

Catalyst007:


- Japan is an Asian country (LOL).
- Worsening economic situation makes people not have time for sex.
- Coupled with that, Japanese fear failure, love perfection and avoid relationships.
- 40% of Japanese between 20 & 30 years don't think they need physical relationships with the opposite sex (they prefer animated girlfriends (manga/anime), video games and are engrossed in high tech gadgets).
- Most People in the 40s have neither kissed nor straffed.
- As a result, children are not being born. The society is mostly made up of old people. The economy suffers the more b/cos there is no adequate young workforce.
- A concerned organization organises naked girls on sofas so that the 40 year old virgins could sketch them whilst enjoying their first view of female abunnan/unclothedness . This is to quicken their desensitized, indifferent and shy dispositions.
- The girls are complaining...
- I love my life.

Japan is my dream country men, I wanna migrate there

Hmmmmmm.

I have never met virgins who is 30's, 40's.
If they don't mined love and just wanna have sex, they can go to kind of place.
Japan have many type of sexual place.

But I think nothing wrong about they are still virgins.
If they are looking for love, I hope they can find out one day!

peacefull:

I have never met virgins who is 30's, 40's.
If they don't mined love and just wanna have sex, they can go to kind of place.
Japan have many type of sexual place.

But I think nothing wrong about they are still virgins.
If they are looking for love, I hope they can find out one day!

Hello, Long time hope your doing fine ?

error4040:

Hello, Long time hope your doing fine ?

Hello.
Yes, long time!
I'm good. Thank you
How about you? I hope you are also good!!

peacefull:

Hello. Yes, long time! I'm good. Thank you How about you? I hope you are also good!!

Am doing Good.

error4040:

Am doing Good.

I'm happy to hear that