xtervaganza:
learn to stay in yours too. It's not as if your existence bothers me

u started it 1st by quoting my post without me inviting you. Learn to mind ur biz nxt tym

KwoiZabo:
your closing statements just confirmed who you are. Right now I'm hanging on with my "wife" just because of my daughter, if she can leave the girl for me and go I will be extremely happy, as soon as my daughter is mature to receive calls I'll crash the whole marriage at least even if I'm away from her for some time I'll not be so bothered.

i least, i made you sit tight! stop thinking with your dicckk and learn to appreciate women who valued you when others didnt!

thanks for elaborating.

my question about why women jump into marriages wasn't a literal one. i'm familiar with the various reasons...

dating someone for some time and not jumping into marrying them allows you to see a ton of things about them and make a more informed decision.

otiigba1:
well..since you asked, on your post you were asking why do women jump into marriages so quick right?1. Well if you are young its not problem you will have enough time to wait 2. If you wait for too long you become desperate thus jumping into marriage too quick 3.if you are 25 years you are more likely to be able to have children than when you are 40 years old, why wait? If you find the right person, and if you do decide to wait how long is enough?then again who is the right person and how would you know? Lastly its not because women jump into it too quick...its because there is no love commitment and understanding in the marriage am hoping i ve elaborated enough for your comprehension

DrSage:
u started it 1st by quoting my post without me inviting you. Learn to mind ur biz nxt tym

i'll mind my own business the day you stop putting your comment on nairaland.




they call it a forum for a reason, not monologue blog

xtervaganza:
i'll mind my own business the day you stop putting your comment on nairaland.




they call it a forum for a reason, not monologue blog

Ok then,when I've really got ur time,I'll definitely bite back.
*walks out of thread*

DrSage:
Ok then,when I've really got ur time,I'll definitely bite back.
*walks out of thread*

bite back ke? dont be a bingo, oya come back here

xtervaganza:
bite back ke? dont be a bingo, oya come back here

haba,spirit of Aroism!

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http://confessionsnigeria.com/post/120/help-my-husband-is-acting-funny

CC: irishCream

You need to come read this thread! A man you reject and then accept only grudgingly will likely spite you for it later on, especially in knowing full well. I meant to comment something to that effect on your own thread, but I think this real-life, concrete example better portrays the message. Notice how on your thread you were being told to have pity on him blah blah blah, and how the woman on here (who did just that) is being blamed left and right. Notice how he keeps saying "You never wanted to marry me in the first place", "You never wanted me anyway...", etc.

I would advise you to stop "friend-zoning" people that are interested in you. Stop leading him on. Never renege on your rejections, nor keep them as hanger-ons. And DON'T pity date, for pete's sake! You'll only come to regret it. I can almost guarantee you that.

irishCream:
Dear Family I'm in deep shiiit, so confused on what to do right now.

I just turned 29 few days ago and have been out of a serious relationship for over a year now.

Have been waiting patiently for that right man to come along but unfortunately it only the wrong ones that keep coming my way, they just want to have a feel of my sweet body and off they go, no genuine intentions.

Now there's a brother that have been friendzoning for over two years now yet he keep persisting, good a thing I'm not the type that pretends so I told him from day one he asked me out that I'm not interested in him except on friendship level, I told him I don't feel him emotionally but he keep hanging on hoping I change my mind with time, my reasons for rejecting him is cos to me he's not presentable enough and I can't be proud introducing him to my people and again he got no good paid job (why on earth must he be poor and ugly at the same time, what kind of torture is that ). He's just managing in a private firm that pays less than 50k.

But what makes me have a rethink is the character of this my friendzoned brother, he keeps in touch despite my rejecting him, he even offer little financial assistance when I'm in need, when I asked him why he's doing all these to a girl that openly reject him he claims he has faith that I'll consider him one day, sometimes I'm forced to suspect if he has cast a spell on me so another good man won't come my way.

Now he has called to schedule a date tomorrow and I know as usual he wants to remind me that the year is running that I should consider his request since he hope to settle down this year.

Please dear Family advice me accordingly is it advisable I say yes to a man I don't feel a thing for emotionally? Can I ever get to love him? I do hear love grows but I don't believe in such!!!

teelady:
Ok am done reading, let say u grew to love the man u ar married to, and from the begining u were nt inlove. You ar a loyal and faithful wife,please remain that way. Your husby is in a serious infatuated relationship and u feel like breaking his head for such behaviour but i say dont. He is not in his right frame of mind right now and its obvious u dnt want to leave ur matrimonial home, woman be prayerful and dnt give him more excuse to berate u further. Y fight wit a girl he brought home....,she is nt worth it ok. Pls distract ursef from al this mess for nw, just focus on making ursef happy, takecare of ur kids, prove to ur husband that u didnt marry him out of choice bt for the fact that u also love him, pls no dulling take ursef out for a treat no old ursef. Be the person he once loved, love ursef and hopefully he would comeback to love u. IT MIGHT BE HARD FOR U TO BE PATIENT SINCE U ARE THE VICTIM, BUT BE GOOD,PATIENT AND PRAYERFUL. Pardon my poor spelling

Problem is, she never loved him. She USED him. Obviously, the guy just found out he's been used hence, the drastic change. Happens all the time.